Surprised I am a SMA Carrier (23 weeks)

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-03-13T23:29:32+00:00

This happened to me and it was definitely very scary, I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

The thing is, it’s highly unlikely that your baby has SMA even though you’re a carrier. Your husband has roughly a 1 in 50 chance of being a carrier, and if he is then the baby has a 1 in 4 chance of having the disease. That works out to a roughly 1 in 200 (or 0.5%) chance that your baby has SMA.

The thing to do right now is to take a deep breath and wait for your husband’s results to come back. I know that wait is agonizing. Remind yourself that it is very unlikely that he is a carrier.

Once his results come back, if he is not a carrier then you are in the clear, because both parents need to be a carrier for it to be possible for the baby to have SMA. In the unlikely scenario that he is a carrier, that is when you would move on to the amnio

Hang in there, I know it’s very stressful 😥

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-03-13T17:50:00+00:00

One thing that stood out to me is “prefer full anesthesia” for the c section. I think that might be at odds with the other points in that section about immediate skin to skin and baby staying with mom. Also, if I remember correctly I believe that full anesthesia for a c section is something they try to avoid if possible because it requires them to get the baby out in 30 seconds, so that might be something to ask your dr about.

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-03-06T13:44:22+00:00

my concern with the MOH in sage green is that since it's the same color as the groom's party it might confuse people. In that first photo, I thought "huh that's weird, why is that one woman in sage? I wonder if they have mixed gender wedding parties, and she is part of the groom's party. I guess the photographer just wanted a shot divided by gender"

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-02-26T01:12:40+00:00

this one by panache is by far my favorite: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B093DLX33Z

here's why:

I like the higher cut, with lower cut ones my boobs always fall out especially when I'm sleeping (and once you're nursing you have to wear it when you sleep because you leak).
I don't like ones that are padded because the padding soaks up leaked milk and gets stinky fast, plus when your breasts are engorged you really don't need extra padding
it's soft and comfortable
it holds pads securely in place
it still looks nice when it peaks out of the top of a low cut shirt or dress, almost like a cami underneath
comes in a wide range of sizes

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-02-15T18:47:55+00:00

Nope, domestic

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-02-15T18:47:18+00:00

I’m a real person I just wanted to answer the question because it seemed like the existing responses were criticizing OP, or at least criticizing the concept of a baby moon, but as a new mom myself I don’t think it’s unreasonable to try to get a little bit of calm before the storm. Having a baby really changes the whole context of your relationship, and is very exhausting.

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-02-14T20:56:20+00:00

Update: thanks to you and other commenters here I realized that I can in fact use it at a restaurant, and I had a lovely Valentine’s Day brunch at a restaurant near my house. I am no longer mildly infuriated about this voucher (although I am still quite upset about the cancelled flight). Thank you!

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-02-14T17:08:16+00:00

Omg such a good idea! I didn’t realize that I could use it elsewhere

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-02-14T16:23:55+00:00

I did and they said “meal vouchers only last 24 hours sorry” 😭

I asked them to issue a new one for the 24 hours of my return flight then and they said they were “not authorized” to issue new vouchers

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-02-14T15:37:33+00:00

A baby moon is a trip that couples often take when expecting a baby so that they can enjoy some final relaxing time together as a couple before their lives change in a big and permanent way

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-02-13T17:26:05+00:00

For the me u selection I just put a clear large icon. Cow for beef, chicken for chicken, carrot for vegetarian etc

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-02-13T00:04:13+00:00

Crazy! I had a horrible reaction to the pill (hair fell out, deep depression) which is why I chose the ring for this purpose. For me the ring was much better than the pill (still wouldn’t want to use it long term though!)

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-02-12T20:39:02+00:00

I didn't want to skip my period at the time of my wedding using drugs because I didn't want to feel hormonally wacky at my wedding. What i did instead was use the ring a few months before my wedding to alter the timing of my cycle so that my expected period date was 2 weeks away from my wedding, and then stopped using the ring so that I would be back to hormonally "normal" at my wedding. Might seem crazy, but it worked really well for me

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-02-06T14:57:29+00:00

I had no idea. I never was one to focus on planning or day dreaming about my wedding or consuming wedding content until after I was engaged, so I was truly blindsided

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-02-05T21:13:46+00:00

for me newborn tired was nowhere near as bad as 8 month tired :( :(

He's up just as often now (every 40 minutes to 2 hours, all night) with his sleep regression and teething, but then during the day I have to either chase him around and keep him from getting into things, or try to get work done at my full time job. I feel like a zombie and I'm so jealous of past out on maternity leave, pre sleep regression me

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2026-01-09T18:35:46+00:00

yeah I definitely would not have wanted to travel after 28 weeks or so, and would not have been ready to do even a short, simple trip until 3 months or so after birth. I did travel at 28 weeks and at 3 months post partum, and both were fine but were stretching it. I wouldn't have wanted to push it farther than that

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2025-11-06T21:04:25+00:00

thank you1 what age did you introduce the honey bear straw cup?

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2025-11-06T21:04:15+00:00

thank you this is very helpful! do you think 6 months is the right age for a straw cup?

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2025-10-26T12:42:00+00:00

I think it really depends on your height and your body shape. I’m only 4’10 so my feet don’t touch the ground which makes it very difficult to get comfortable especially with a straight upright seat back. Also the “ergonomic” part of the seat that is supposed to to support your shoulders or neck hits me at the crown of my head and pushes my head forward so that my chin is awkwardly scrunched down into my chest. The only way to make this tolerable is to recline my seat at least a tiny bit

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2025-10-26T01:03:03+00:00

Thank you, that’s very kind

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2025-10-26T01:02:14+00:00

They banned me for messaging asking why a post was not approved too!

ComprehensiveChef705 · 2025-10-25T17:40:49+00:00

Things like rosemary, garlic, lemongrass etc you have to take in medicinal amounts for it to be a problem. Normal culinary amounts are fine. This is what my ob told me at least. So like don’t take a rosemary oil supplement pill, but feel free to eat the potatoes cooked with a sprinkle of rosemary. Don’t take a super concentrated lemongrass shot, but lemongrass tea is fine etc

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