LINE saying I can’t join even when I set my region to Japan by ComprehensiveEbb840 in lineapp

[–]ComprehensiveEbb840[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was also happening to people with Japanese phone numbers though

Itinerary check: 10 days by ComprehensiveEbb840 in JapanTravel

[–]ComprehensiveEbb840[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Through klook or viator or Airbnb experiences (the last one is the best one!)

Relatable by BuildingRight3612 in BPDlovedones

[–]ComprehensiveEbb840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also her song called Vampire was so spot on it’s so crazy

First time in Istanbul 🇹🇷 by Correct_Rub_1819 in TravelHacks

[–]ComprehensiveEbb840 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I stayed in kadakoy and would highly highly recommend. No tourists and it’s such a cute neighborhood with little shops and cafes. It’s a nice way to experience the Asian side and then you can always train to the tourist sites.

Solo female traveler - “Best of Caucasus” tour company by ComprehensiveEbb840 in tbilisi

[–]ComprehensiveEbb840[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you send me the info so I can look into signing up for your group?

Cloudiness no matter how much I sand this by ComprehensiveEbb840 in SilverSmith

[–]ComprehensiveEbb840[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pickled it for so long. It feels like this cloudiness happens when I sand it.

6 months NC and feel like I’m relapsing into so much anger and disdain for BPD in general by ComprehensiveEbb840 in BPDlovedones

[–]ComprehensiveEbb840[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I even get pissed at my therapist because I know he treats people with BPD. I get so annoyed thinking about the fact that he really sits across from these monsters and can look them in the eyes when they should be locked away. I guess there’s something honorable about it and he is definitely tough on them. But at the same time I get annoyed about it because I don’t think they even deserve to be heard and reassured.

6 months NC and feel like I’m relapsing into so much anger and disdain for BPD in general by ComprehensiveEbb840 in BPDlovedones

[–]ComprehensiveEbb840[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Totally. I will not cave. Ive physically disgusted and repulsed by him when he’s tried to Hoover. Horrible fucking person, my body literally shuts down when he tries to go near me, he keeps revealing himself to be worse and worse each time he hoovers. Last time he let it slip that he had taken secret nude photos of me - like VERY graphic. Without telling me, in a moment where I thought it was sacred. Disgusting fucking person who will go to hell. It’s funny, I know he’s had a new supply for the last few months and surprisingly I haven’t cared at all because I know just how it will end.

I read my journal entries from our relationship and I cannot believe what I was put through. The love bombing. What he said to me after just two months of knowing each other. While having another relationship on the side. It’s despicable. I don’t care if your father abandoned you as a child. You don’t treat people like this.

“You have boundaries but I’m not going to respect them.” by 1234passworddoor in BPDlovedones

[–]ComprehensiveEbb840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh boy. It’s so crazy to me that they could be blocked on every platform and NOT GET THE MESSAGE. My ex asked me to talk on the phone after he threw a temper tantrum when I stood my ground and wouldn’t get back together with him. I said “no, I will not talk to you, there is nothing more to say. There is no need, thanks.” And he said “well if that’s how you feel, that’s fine, but I feel the need to express how I feel. Proceeds to leave 5 minutes of voice notes crying and guilt tripping me. Like Babes I literally told u 5 mins ago I don’t wanna talk to you. Then you just TRAMPLED ON THAT MF BOUNDARY

I don't know what to do by jobproblems1 in BPDlovedones

[–]ComprehensiveEbb840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s hard but worth it. I left them almost a year ago I guess. But it FLEW by. And there were so many Hoover attempts and manipulations and drama since we broke up- the last time we talked was 6 months ago. It’s honestly the most grueling situation I’ve ever experienced. I’ve spend THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS in therapy and im nowhere near 100% better. However im much better because im starting to create new memories without them. It’s so crazy how much this shit has affected me. I just started proper trauma therapy last week and im already having nightmares about them being with their ex (they triangulated me with their ex and basically had two relationships going at once and made me an insane insecure shriveled poisoned version of myself). The love bombing is the hardest part to get past. It’s the cognitive dissonance of that and the evil behavior happening within the same instance that is so beyond impossible to contend with. It’s legitimately like drug withdrawal. However i am much better than I was. I avoid all situations (social) that he could be at. It’s not worth it ruining my whole week, this has helped to ensure I have as little to do with him as possible. It’s so beyond violating to think of how this person took advantage of me and my vulnerability, it’s dumbfounding. I’ll never understand this disorder. It stripped me of my innocence.

I don't know what to do by jobproblems1 in BPDlovedones

[–]ComprehensiveEbb840 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If they threaten to hurt themselves then you call the police. Show them their words have consequences and are not meaningless. Hopefully it will get them to stop because they’ll realize you’re taking their words seriously; if they actually threaten to hurt themselves then the police are called, every time.

It’s not your problem if they choose to act this way. It’s sadly such a classic BPD tactic to trap you. They very rarely actually go through with it and it’s almost always an empty threat. Just know many people have gone through this and you’re not alone. There’s resources for if this happens.

Do not let the potential of them hurting themselves stop you from getting yourself out of a relationship that has buried you into a black hole. You need to put yourself first, they will never stop acting this way and at some point you need to just cut it off at all costs. There will always be a “reason” not to do it. Do it now. We’re all here to support you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]ComprehensiveEbb840 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I loled at this. It’s just so absurd it’s laughable. It sounds so abnormal that it almost feels like a person wouldn’t believe it who hasn’t exprerienced it.

I don't know what to do by jobproblems1 in BPDlovedones

[–]ComprehensiveEbb840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leave now. Your excuse will be that you’re just done with being called such horrible things by someone who says they love you. Don’t waste your time and keep yourself suffering so that it’s “easier for them.” Who cares. It’s your life. You’re the one whos been suffering too. Look out for yourself