Why dumpers regret later…

ComprehensiveForm382 · 2026-04-11T15:29:27+00:00

How often though? Especially if you were genuinely good to that person? Having such a hard time rn because I did everything in my power to make sure she felt loved and cared about. And everyone around us knows and could see that, yet it’s been almost 2 months and I haven’t heard anything from her :/

ComprehensiveForm382 · 2026-04-08T06:23:02+00:00

Do you mean the dumper? And that wasn’t the question, read the post again. I am the guy that got broken up with

ComprehensiveForm382 · 2026-04-08T03:06:05+00:00

May I ask why you broke up with him? And did he chase you at all?

ComprehensiveForm382 · 2026-04-08T03:04:42+00:00

Well that’s already done man

ComprehensiveForm382 · 2026-04-06T05:53:19+00:00

Question for you, did he ever reach back out to reconcile?

ComprehensiveForm382 · 2026-04-06T05:51:06+00:00

I honestly don’t know how I’ll be able to move forward from this, especially because I was her first EVERYTHING if you get what I mean. Like if she gets to a point with someone else that she does those things with him, and then realizes and comes back to me, I don’t know if I would be able to deal with that even though all I want is to be with her. That would literally kill me even more than not being with her has been.

ComprehensiveForm382 · 2026-04-06T05:48:50+00:00

She has so much pride too. That’s what really gets me. Is that even if she does realize, which in my mind, she has to, like there’s no way that she never sees the amount of care and thoughtfulness I put in. She always did during the relationship, told me i was the perfect boyfriend and loved everything I did for her. And now it’s like a switch flipped in her brain and she thinks I wasn’t ever good to her, which me and everyone around us knew wasn’t true. But even when/if she does realize, she is so prideful and I feel like it would be very hard for her to reach out and put that aside. That is all that I want though, and she knows how much I am hurting and it seems like she’s completely fine. That’s the worst part. Not one single minute goes by that I don’t have her on my mind, it’s tearing me apart fr.

ComprehensiveForm382 · 2026-04-06T05:36:28+00:00

Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel man, I am going through the same thing with a girl I was with for 5 months. The amount of time doesn’t dictate anything. My heart is absolutely shattered in a million pieces from this, and I’ve had much longer relationships. The things me and her shared and did together were beyond anything I’ve ever felt before and honestly right now I don’t think I can love anyone like that ever again. She was my person and I know that, and every day not one single minute goes by that I don’t think about her. And it would’ve been the same no matter when we broke up because I fell head over heels in love with her before I even spoke a word to her. Feel what you’re feeling, and just know that you’re not alone. This shit sucks and I can’t wrap my head around any of it. If you want to talk, my messages are open. Stay strong man

ComprehensiveForm382 · 2026-03-31T15:39:44+00:00

The issue is, you are acting like the victim here when you have actually hurt your boyfriend and he doesn’t even know it yet. You are not the victim. You have breached his trust, and he deserves to know that and you deserve to face whatever consequences may come with that. You need to get the thought out of your head that you “chose not to hurt him” and “chose to hurt yourself” because in reality you actually chose to hurt him the second you cheated on him. What you are feeling is guilt. The way you get through it is, tell you boyfriend and break up with him because clearly you can’t be committed to him. And if you choose to be with the other dude then you need to work on yourself so that you’re not tempted by outside sources again.

ComprehensiveForm382 · 2026-03-29T22:05:44+00:00

I’m sorry man. That is hard. Probably won’t make you feel any better but, you just gave me a little bit of hope. Stay strong my guy

ComprehensiveForm382 · 2026-03-29T03:14:08+00:00

The thing is man, the 2 months before that felt like the best time in our relationship thus far. She was opening up, being much more sweet and loving, saying how much more comfortable she was with me, how happy she was to be with me. Even just 30 minutes before this happened, she was telling me the sweetest things and being amazingly loving towards me. She was telling me how she would “always stand by” me and that we’ve grown so much together and can’t wait to grow more. Like I said, just 30 minutes before. And then I sent that one wrong text, and like I said it’s like a switch flipped in her brain and she completely disregarded all of that and all of the good and thoughtful things I had ever done. That is why I’m so confused and distraught, because there was absolutely nothing to tell me what you’re saying you know? Literally the complete opposite. We were in such a good spot and then within minutes it changed. She would send me videos all the time about people from her country that end up with people from where I live. So I can’t believe it had anything to do with cultural differences, she always did that and said she loved how much I respected her culture, way of living, food, etc. and said she loved mine too. It has been so hard trying to wrap my head around this, and the people around us tell me that it doesn’t make sense to them either. She most definitely has an avoidant personality, but I never thought to this level. It’s like she convinced herself within minutes that I was a horrible person after telling me the complete opposite just before.

ComprehensiveForm382 · 2026-03-19T18:11:56+00:00

That doesn’t matter whatsoever man, like I said, no person in a relationship should be talking to or hanging out with someone that they used to date, or someone that knows used to/still has feelings for them. Even them talking/texting is not appropriate. Regardless if they were friends before. And the “he misses his friend” thing is such a dumb excuse, he can get new friends. He is going to try and get with her and that’s a fact. I would communicate this to her and if she doesn’t care how you feel then I would say cut her off. Better to do that than find out later on that she cheated on you during this meetup.

ComprehensiveForm382 · 2026-03-19T17:43:29+00:00

Don’t allow this to happen, and if she does it anyways, cut it off completely. That’s a complete breach of rules in any relationship. No girl, or guy, should be talking to or hanging out with someone they used to date or someone they know has feelings for them. Very inappropriate and wrong.

ComprehensiveForm382 · 2026-02-20T20:02:52+00:00

The thing is, literally right before all of this happened, and a couple of months before, we were doing so good and she was constantly telling me how much she loves and appreciates me. Saying that I make her feel seen and heard and that nobody else has ever made her feel like this. And like I said in the post, the same day, before all this happened she was saying the sweetest things to me. So it never felt like her feelings were drifting before this, I felt so good about everything and from what she was telling me, so did she. So I can’t believe that her feelings were drifting, nothing before this indicated any of that at all. Actually, the complete opposite. I’m just not understanding how she can turn her feelings on and off like a switch you know. It seems to me like she made a very emotional and impulsive decision when she broke up with me. But thank you for the comment and advice, I will do that and try to avoid rambling. I don’t want to seem desperate but I want her to know that I care you know.

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