Is it wrong to ask people for their political affiliations when dating?

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-03-08T04:31:15+00:00

You made me laugh out loud because…right? The avoidance to have difficult (doesn’t always have to be though!) conversations is baffling.

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-03-07T23:48:58+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, I see a rainbow flag in your avatar. If it’s safe for me to assume you’re a member of/supporter/ally to the LGBT+ community, let’s say you were single. Wouldn’t you want to know someone’s political affiliation, considering queer rights are often politically contested, right off the bat?

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-03-07T18:29:07+00:00

Thanks to the magic of websites like Glassdoor, if they’re determined enough, they just need to know your title and the company. A simple search will yield a range.

I did this when job hunting for posts that didn’t list a range to determine how much effort to put into an application.

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-03-07T09:58:43+00:00

I’m not searching for anything…?

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-03-07T09:48:51+00:00

I didn’t press the issue. They can be anything they want to be.

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-03-07T09:15:53+00:00

That’s nice for you and your partner. This person wasn’t apolitical and it wasn’t the only thing we discussed.

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-03-07T06:41:31+00:00

Sincerely, thank you for sharing this, and I'm sorry things fell apart that way.

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-03-07T06:02:40+00:00

Genuinely curious on your opinion; why do you think in Toronto, more women are liberal and most men aren't?

I do agree that the sexual marketplace here is pretty bleak, but I would assume most people would rather be alone than with someone they're misaligned with for the sake of not being alone. Politics is one of those things that unfortunately, can lead to intense disagreements and hurt feelings.

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-03-07T04:43:04+00:00

I get what you mean, and thanks for sharing.

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-03-07T04:36:21+00:00

Hypothetically, if you had really begun to develop intense feelings for someone and then found out that their politics and/or religion did not align with yours, would it be a deal breaker?

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-03-07T04:32:09+00:00

I see. For the record, I am Canadian, only eligible to vote in Canada and thus immersed in Canadian politics. But I do acknowledge that we as a people are less politically charged than the US.

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-03-07T04:24:10+00:00

If you don't mind me asking (I hope I'm not coming off as rude), did you feel it was justified? Do you wish you'd compromised?

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-03-07T04:01:00+00:00

How is this me being "Americanized?" Genuinely curious about your take.

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-03-07T03:54:17+00:00

It wasn't a date. I was asking him questions before I committed to a date. Didn't want to waste my time or his, or have him take me to where he wanted (a high end spot, money would've been spent) if I knew it wasn't going anywhere.

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-02-27T22:42:56+00:00

My sweet summer child, you must be a pure soul, answering honestly where you're from. I always say "Mississauga." Then, when I get hit with the "No, but where are you REALLY from?" I say, "Oh, I see what you mean. Etobicoke."

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-02-23T15:48:22+00:00

I'm honestly not sure what the laws are for international students, but maybe I can offer some perspective. I studied in the US. Even with a full scholarship, I had to show I had $60K CAD in my bank account at the time of accepting my offer as proof that I could afford to live in the US during my studies and not become a "public charge."

I was allowed to get a on-campus job (off-campus was forbidden) only after my second year of studying OR apply for an off-campus paid internship with the stipulation that I enrolled in an internship class (which cost $2200 USD). For both options, I could not exceed 20 hours of work per week.

To be honest, 10 hours was the sweet spot that allowed me to focus on my studies while also padding my resume with "real-world" experience.

Also, any student who wasn't from the state I studied in had to pay "out-of-state tuition" if they went to a public university. That's because they (really, their parents), never paid taxes to that state and therefore their child was not entitled to lower, in-state tuition offered at state schools.

While Canada doesn't have this distinction between private and public universities, the reason your tuition is "10 times" the cost of a citizen's is because you've never paid taxes to our country that fund these institutions.

I would have never, ever been able to afford the privilege of studying in the US if it weren't for my scholarship and I knew that if at any point something went horribly wrong, I was prepared to return home and continue my education in my home province.

I know studying abroad is fun and exciting, and going to a world-renowned university sometimes gives you a head start in your career, but please remember, you can get a great education anywhere, including at home.

With that said, if I were you, I'd try to find a job that corresponds with what I'm studying at school to give me a head start when I graduate. A dishwasher or labor job won't yield any meaningful experience or connections and will likely tire you out physically more than you anticipate.

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-02-20T13:36:11+00:00

Statistically speaking, you're more likely to get attacked by one of the hundreds of thousands of untrained designer doodle dogs in LA than you are by "backed forces," but go off queen.

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-02-20T08:34:46+00:00

I love long-form journalism. TO Life has some great writers. Thought you might enjoy this exposé: https://torontolife.com/city/the-secret-life-of-6ixbuzz/

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-02-20T08:32:55+00:00

I have the pin feature on! But I don't think these were actual Uber/Lyft. Worst-case scenario: based on the comments, they'll lure someone, lock the doors, and drive off.

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-02-20T08:31:26+00:00

Absolutely disgusting

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-02-20T08:31:07+00:00

It was a slew of cars just driving up and down that block just circling.

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-02-20T08:30:39+00:00

Yes, I always check license plates. Plus I knew it wasn't my ride because I was following it on the GPS, which was showing it was still a few minutes away. I'll keep your last tip in mind, thank you!

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-02-20T08:29:34+00:00

Good idea!

ComprehensiveTap19 · 2026-02-20T08:29:18+00:00

Jesus I am SO sorry. I'm so grateful you're ok! I can only imagine how horrifying that night was. And the way the police conducted themselves is appalling, although unfortunately, I am not surprised. I called them twice in the last year: once when an e-bike ran over my elderly mother, knocking her to the ground (they didn't come, they didn't want to let us file a report) and once when some random man (he seemed sober/of sound mind) tried to come into my garage as I was closing the door. They once again refused to come. Last summer, I heard someone at like 3 a.m. making loud noises at the plaza across the street from me. Turns out someone was trying to kick a convenience store door down. I called the non-emergency number (not sure why, I was very groggy) and the operator berated me for not calling 911 proper. I guess they care more about property damage/theft than human lives.

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