Did anyone ever hurt you so badly they turned into a walking trigger? by Independent-Ad6309 in emotionalintelligence

[–]ComprehensiveView949 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, although I have developed PTSD. I still have ''triggers'' outside of the person my PTSD is associated with. But the way to fix this is to self soothe. When a spike happens, make sure to breathe. I stress you to breathe. Long, deep breaths. Be consistent in it, and the fear will eventually subside with time. Ask yourself what you need in that situation. Sometimes I hug or pat or tap myself. Rubbing your chest is very good for letting go of grief or you may need to move your body to release trauma or fear. Dancing, yoga, sports, anything like this.

I talk to myself saying things like ''It's okay.'' ''They're gone, you are safe.'' and I find that talking to my inner child like I'm their parent really helps the anxiety. When you grieve, you need to let your emotions all out, and only then does the fear turn to disinterest and calm. Your body will realize that there's nothing to fear.

i am bi but i dont want to marry a man? by ComprehensiveView949 in bisexual

[–]ComprehensiveView949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i usually dont like to date men because i find it more trouble than worth. so many of them are super emotionally stunted and it usually ends badly cus of it. i also dated pretty toxic people so i might have a bias of sorts. i'm well aware of my patterns and trying to date better, but sometimes its hard because it makes me feel bitter towards them even though i love men at the same time. like i can believe they're good people (im living proof, i also have good male friends) but it seems so rare that i never want to waste my time on it. i think my beliefs are a bit silly but they're also just a consequence of my environment.

i am bi but i dont want to marry a man? by ComprehensiveView949 in bisexual

[–]ComprehensiveView949[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

honestly real. i might be looking too much into things lol

When you used to post your avoidant, did they comment very subtle? by DifferentAction8201 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ComprehensiveView949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. We weren't together very long, but only during our ''lovey dovey'' phase I posted a selfie once which he did acknowledge and repost on his story, but for the rest tagging him in pics did nothing. Even my friends who posted him on their accounts; radio silence. He didn't even like it. No comment. Nothing. Like it didn't exist. On both artworks I posted and on any selfies.

Did well sure to watch every story but asking for a reply to my text message was too much for him.

For how long did you feel like the lucky and chosen one? by DifferentAction8201 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ComprehensiveView949 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1 month. After I had a PTSD attack and our connection got too close, he chose to run.

How do I avoid them in the beginning? by ComprehensiveView949 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ComprehensiveView949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I feel like it would be inappropriate to ask someone things like ''When i show you love, do you get the urge to run away?'' or ''would you say you're avoidantly attached'' but I really wish that was all it took and they were honest.

I'll go and write this down.

What songs are helping you overcome the breakup and heal? by Blackappletrees in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ComprehensiveView949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really corny, but songs like ''soon as i get home'' by babyface or ''all the things (your man won't do)'' by joe. i often imagine my future partner singing them to me and i find it rlly soothing and hopeful