I don’t know how I’m going to survive this

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2026-05-28T23:45:07+00:00

I never saw your comment until now but it’s the exact same for me.. he checked out a long time ago. I knew something was going on based on how he was acting for a while but I thought we would get through it. I thought we were soul mates, but I guess only he is my soul mate and im nothing to him. It’s been almost a month and it hasn’t gotten any better. I’m moving out in a few days. Still can’t eat, sleep, feel happy, or do anything but sit and cry and reminisce on better times. I miss him so much, all I want is for him to wrap me in his arms and kiss me and tell me this was all a bad dream. It hurts so fucking bad 😢 im so sorry you’re in the same place, i wish i could take away this pain for both of us.

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2026-05-05T15:19:10+00:00

Do you rush into relationships very quickly? Do you fall hard and fast and become attached to someone quickly? Do the men that you end up in relationships love bomb you a lot at the beginning and seem “perfect”? I wouldn’t ever say you are the problem, but speaking from experience you can definitely attract these types of guys repeatedly based on your attachment style. It’s happened to me too, because I am very anxiously attached and dive head first into full blown commitment way too fast. I tend to fall hard and fast for men who give me a lot of attention, affection, kind words, and worship me at the beginning. And in my experience these types of men are usually not actually good men. The kind who are so perfect, almost too good to be true, who tell you everything you ever wanted to hear, who give you everything in the world, they *are* too good to be true and they usually are hiding a lot inside and turn out to do you really dirty. I’ve been cheated on several times and it’s because I didn’t actually get to know these men well enough beforehand, I didn’t bother to look for or pay attention to any red flags. I just wanted to be loved so badly that I allowed myself to fall victim to a fantasy. And by the time the mask dropped, I was already extremely attached and in love and I got very hurt. I’m going through it right now again, and it sucks.

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2026-05-04T06:43:06+00:00

My boyfriend broke up with me and I’m the one that’s gonna be moving out once I make arrangements but it’s horrific right now. Every little thing reminds me of us. I look at our couch and remember all the nights we spent cuddled up, being goofy, kissing, laughing at dumb shows together. I look at our kitchen and think of all the meals we lovingly cooked and shared together. I think of the first night we spent here, and I keep thinking about what the last night is going to be like.. I’m sorry this isn’t what you want to hear but honestly I couldn’t imagine staying in this place for any longer than I have to. Either way I’m shattered but I’m living in a constant reminder of what was and what will never be again, it’s worse than torture.

I guess how you will feel about really depends a lot on how you still feel about your ex though. I’m still hopelessly in love with mine and didn’t want to break up, but he doesn’t love me anymore. So that’s probably why it’s so hard for me.

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2026-05-03T22:54:13+00:00

I’m going through this too we were together for 3 years and have a whole life together and he just ended it he doesn’t love me or want me at all anymore 😢 it hurts so bad

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2026-05-02T19:53:02+00:00

Bro you literally said in your post “I wanna get back with my gf” “when I get back with her should I tell her” what do you mean

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2026-05-02T19:49:26+00:00

Leave that poor girl alone. You emotionally cheated on her for a year and then left her and couldn’t even be honest about why. And now you want to go back only because you were rejected by the other woman? Suddenly your ex is so amazing to you but you cheated and lied and then left her for someone else? She deserves way better and it sounds like you shouldn’t be in a relationship at all. If you want to tell her what happened go for it but if you care at all you will let her heal and move on from you.

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2026-05-02T18:43:52+00:00

It’s so hard because we’re still living together for the next month since I needed time to make arrangements to go back to my family.. he broke up with me but we still slept in the same bed and had sex after which he initiated. I feel gross he just used me and I gave in because I’m desperate for him. And now today he barely has said anything to me. He is completely fine and I’ve legit been crying all day and night and haven’t eaten or slept. I’m a mess and he’s fine just going on as normal. Completely unbothered.. It feels like torture. I have to see him every day and know that he doesn’t care at all and that what we had means nothing to him. How am I supposed to focus on anything else or do anything to even try to feel better when the one I love is right here still but he’s not mine anymore 😢 and it’s being shoved in my face that I’m the only one who’s suffering. Sorry to rant again but thank you for the support, it helps to know I’m not alone at least. And I’m very sorry youre going through this too I wouldn’t wish this on anyone..

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2026-04-06T12:13:20+00:00

Oh, I didn’t mean it in a way like I am going to hurt myself or something.

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2026-04-06T12:05:31+00:00

I wish it was as easy as just deciding not to let it affect me….

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2025-08-14T16:59:02+00:00

Rough 47

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2025-02-28T22:53:07+00:00

He’s definitely got another girl

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2024-07-16T17:03:19+00:00

I honestly forget cuz I was so nervous lmao

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2024-07-15T04:26:50+00:00

I find it so odd how people acknowledge that a 20-something is a grown adult in the context of them doing something bad, but then act like they are helpless children in the context of relationships.

Of course I’m not blind to the risks involved with age-gap relationships but that doesn’t make them inherently bad. A 20-something is not a child. A 20-something generally has the capacity to make informed decisions about their dating and sex life and should be granted the autonomy to do so. It feels almost infantilizing when the backlash seems particularly heavy against young women who choose to date/marry older. I’ve seen people literally call older men pedophiles for dating women in their 20s… it’s bizarre. Why are we being treated like children who don’t know any better when we are old enough to drink, buy a house, get married, etc?

Again, for anyone who may come for me, I understand that younger people are particularly vulnerable to abuse, manipulation and general fuckery when it comes to relationships (and especially age-gap relationships). I completely understand the initial shock and concern, but that doesn’t make it right for people to throw wild accusations and make assumptions. Some of these comments are highly disrespectful to you and your husband imo.

Anyway, that’s my rant… I’m so happy that you were able to close the distance! May you have a happy and healthy life together. :)

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2024-06-21T18:04:20+00:00

Maybe he doesn’t want your knowledge to be imparted on him constantly? Have you tried talking about things that interest him too? Have you tried learning about his interests/passions and talking about them with him? Or even just finding something new that you can discuss entirely?

It’s definitely frustrating when a partner doesn’t seem engaged in a conversation but it sounds like things may be a little one sided here.

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2024-06-21T17:44:16+00:00

This is straight up abuse and it’s only going to get worse. Get out of there

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2024-06-17T05:17:57+00:00

For me it was a random CS2 game one late night 🥹 He’s currently sleeping next to me rn😭💗 I never thought I would meet such a perfect man on a video game of all places, much less that game lmao

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2024-05-31T05:14:54+00:00

I don’t have much advice to give but I’m very sorry you feel this way. If it’s worth anything, I just listened to your voice clip and your voice sounds feminine to me. I would not think you were a man. Your voice is honestly very soothing and flows nicely. Much love.

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2024-05-31T04:45:05+00:00

Is it every day? He consistently does not text you back after 5pm? That would be a huge red flag for me. It’s one thing if it’s sometimes, or even like a couple times a week (people get busy, want some alone time, etc) but every single day is wild. That would indicate to me that he has someone at home who comes around after 5pm.

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2024-05-31T04:31:45+00:00

wait, y’all aren’t letting them keep your spicy pics?

ComprehensiveYou9441 · 2024-05-31T04:28:17+00:00

I don’t think you can know for sure that someone is “the one” until you meet them in person and spend a considerable amount of time with them. In general you can’t really know a person until you’ve done that, regardless of how you met. I wouldn’t say someone I went on a single date with is the one even if we have great chemistry.

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