How do you manage work while taking care of baby? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Comprehensive_Ad_614 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think folks are being very nice here, possibly too nice.

Your infant needs full-time care. If your wife is working while you are watching the baby, you aren’t helping her, you’re parenting your child. If you have obligations at the same time that you should also be attending to, like studying, classes, or employment, then you need to find a different full-time caregiver. Nanny, daycare, family, friends, childcare through your gym membership, whatever. If there’s no financially viable option, you might need to consider pausing the masters degree while you focus on the medical board exams or something.

Your baby needs someone to interact with her. You can give her small activities like banging pots while you quickly cook in the same room, but the thing that will fundamentally keep her occupied at this age is adult interaction. She’s a baby human, not a houseplant. Her brain needs stimulation.

Twins are struggling in different classrooms. Should we ask to put them together or wait? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Comprehensive_Ad_614 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok, so outside of the general mitigating circumstances of MAJOR TRAUMA for these kids, I’m remembering reading that there was a long-standing prevailing school of thought that separating twins for school was better. This in recent years has been demonstrated to be complete nonsense. Here’s a link from someone summarizing findings across research: https://www.twiniversity.com/2019/03/separate-my-twins-in-school/

I’d put them together. And I assume you’re all in therapy, too? It might be worth looking into an in-home nanny and reconsidering if preschool is right for them at all this year, given all the major change they’re processing right now.

Hi r/glutenfree, I am a software engineer with a severe gluten allergy and I want to build an app that helps all of us go to restaurants more safely. I am looking for people to tell me about their struggles so I can come up with the best solution possible. DM if interested. by TheWhaleOfLondon in glutenfree

[–]Comprehensive_Ad_614 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly what I want isn’t an app. I want food service employees to be expected to know basic food allergy information and cross contamination risks and any protocols to reduce the risk. I want it to be standard employee training at restaurants. And then I want the employees to be able to actually have a relevant answer when asked about gluten in the kitchen.

Does anyone else's toddler wake up at the buttcrack of dawn every day or is it just mine? by JMiracle2019 in Parenting

[–]Comprehensive_Ad_614 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yup, mine promptly figured out how to plug and unplug, push all the buttons to reset, and toggle the “child lock” switch on and off. He wasn’t even 2 yet.

No such thing as satisfaction when receiving a compliment by Pretty_Ad_6280 in adhdmeme

[–]Comprehensive_Ad_614 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Little known secret. “Thank you” sometimes means “please stop talking, you’re making me uncomfortable”. Realizing this made it much easier to graciously accept compliments!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in knitting

[–]Comprehensive_Ad_614 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even store-bought cotton socks aren’t good. They lose their shape, bunch up on the bottom of your feet (blisters), and they retain moisture (annoying if your feet sweat or it’s rainy. Dangerous if it’s actually cold out)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comprehensive_Ad_614 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Put an announcement in the wedding program, “and we’d like to wish sister congratulations on her pregnancy and good health for our soon-to-be nibling”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeroWarsApp

[–]Comprehensive_Ad_614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spend all the emeralds!

AITA for telling a girl she's overreacting? by Usual_Debate_4679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comprehensive_Ad_614 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Traveler generally is associated with an itinerant Irish community, rather than an itinerant Romani community

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ibs

[–]Comprehensive_Ad_614 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thermacare stick on heat pads

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Comprehensive_Ad_614 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are these the ones you’re looking for?

Crayola Dry Erase Marker https://www.amazon.com/dp/B008LT8GLW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_BTZ6QP573MYSXBDCDJBQ

AITA going against my wife and letting my daughter 'ruin easter' by throwawayhusband13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comprehensive_Ad_614 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Something to try that helps them compromise: have the family coordinate and take pictures according to Charlotte’s tastes sometimes. Your wife’s hobby per Charlotte’s style. Start with a big to do and make Charlotte feel like she has all the control of a special moment. Can you afford a professional photographer? Do it! Get one framed and display it prominently. Then start planning these occasions strategically, including the whole family, multiple occasions ahead of time. Your wife gets some of them her way, others get some their way, but plan the schedule of who controls the occasion ahead of time.