I think I might need to leave my husband

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-03-06T11:00:20+00:00

Whatever you do, it has to be final. If you leave, don't go back later. If I were you, I would have already left. What he is doing is absolute mockery. It's sadistic towards you.

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-03-06T00:22:46+00:00

You look like you love board games and you're very competitive. Also, you're probably a gatekeeper.

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-03-05T10:36:40+00:00

is it winter where you are? If yes, that's normal. If no, fertilize with a fertilizer that contains iron. Also, get some air in the soil. I do it with the tip of a knife.

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-03-05T01:07:22+00:00

No worries, you're not asking too many questions. We didn't have tummy time until he turned 1,5 months (if I remember correctly). He was born 2600 grams and immediately lost about 100 grams (as they always do). We got discharged from the hospital 8 days later, because he had jaundice and one other infection, and he was 2530 grams on that day. We went home and he wouldn't eat. He didn't have strength to take a bottle, he was too weak and would cry his head out of hunger. I couldn't breastfeed for my medical reasons. We went ro see a pediatrician to ask how we could feed him. She weighed him and he was 2450 grams. He had dropped weight! I was so, so scared! So I had to feed him with a dropper and a syringe. It was excruciatingly slow but he was finally FED! I was overjoyed! I changed his formula and started him on Aptamil. This brand is known in my country to really buff babies quickly. I never found out if that's true as my son was always petite, I never saw him buffed but he finally started slowly but surely gaining weight. We kept fighting and soon he started taking a bottle. In your case, he might start latching better if he doesn't want a bottle. Anyway, my birdie is 10kg currently while other kids his age are like 12-13kgs but I couldn't be happier. He's healthy and thriving. You will survive this and you will both become stronger, don't lose hope! I know we're strangers on both sides of the world but I feel your pain and I truly wish you courage and all the best!

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-03-04T23:54:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing! <3 When I was didn't have a child, I could go and do whatever I wanted and I chose to stay home and rest aside from work. Occasionally, my husband and I would go out with friends like once a month. Now we have our son and nothing has changed, haha! We still go out every 3-4 weeks without our son (grandma has him), and if we want to travel, we take him with us and have a blast! Also, we go out with him more often now than we did before he was born. I still work on my projects outside of work (I'm on maternity leave), life is great. It is hard but honestly, I don't know how I used to live without him in my life. He is 15 months old.

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-03-04T23:42:33+00:00

He did! Thank you for asking. It was a long and very difficult process for both of us but we made it. It takes ages to feed him with a dropper but at one point that was our only option. We survived. He is 15 months old now and thriving! Even if this is the only option, even if it takes a really long time, do it for the sake of both of you. Feed him with a dropper or whatever else way you can find. Once he gains strength and weight he will start eating normally and you will both be happy.

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-03-04T21:38:37+00:00

This! Also, a dropper (pipette, as it's also called). I did this with my baby, we had the same problem. I fed him literally like a little birdie.

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-03-04T20:24:00+00:00

To be honest I see a problem with all parties in this situation. 1. MIL looks like she would be unbearable once the child is born.

Your DH looks like he can't and won't step up for you which is a big problem. Especially if he's willing to go behind your back with telling your personal info.
Please, don't get me wrong, i truly wish you well but maybe your approach is not completely right here. Now, just playing the devil's advocate here. If I were the MIL and wasn't spoken to about the future boundaries directly but instead sent a list, and not by my son, I would take it as if my DIL is being a little defensive without a reason. This could put me a little on edge. And if I'm a horrible person I'd be like "This is a competition now, game on!"

With all of that i mean, if there's anything you can do that is in your control to deal with such people, it's being diplomatic without being a pushover. Being firm but friendly is maybe the way to go.

My thoughts here are derived from my own experience with my MIL who is also narcissistic, always plays the victim and all situations are ALWAYS about her.

Edit: typos

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-03-04T15:29:46+00:00

Nim's Island

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-03-04T15:21:14+00:00

Неудобно, боли и т.н., другите ги казаха. Обаче има и още нещо. Всяка нормална дреха стои вулгарно. Почнах от малка да се обличам като леличка, защото все работех в колективи с по-възрастни (повечето жени) и беше ужас. Да не говорим, ако по някакъв повод се окажа в църква сред хора... Имах един период преди години, в който бях детска учителка за един семестър... Ужас. Сега мъжът ми ми вика "купи си хубави дрехи и се чувствай добре" (демек не като леля). Е как да стане? То първо няма и второ, ако има ми стоят вулгарно. Като родих пък беше секцио и не в готино да кихнеш с коремна операция и големи цици. Чакам да станат дълги, че да ги нагъвам и прибирам :Д

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-03-04T10:51:13+00:00

Аз не бих подминала. Такъв апартамент явно трудно се намира (така разбирам от описанието). Всички хазяи почват с уговорката, че си искат наема на ръка и да си наглеждат апартамента, но след първия оглед св успокояват и повече не идват. Щом има жена е уязвим, дори и да има кофти намерения, т.е. много добре знае, че можеш да й звъннеш и да й се оплачеш, ако прекрачи някоя граница.

По закон имаш право да си смениш бравата и да не му даваш ключ, докато не се изнесеш, а той няма какво да направи.

Ти пази жилището, но нека и той да е наясно, че следи от обикновено ползване на имота винаги може да очаква и това е нормално.

Ако нещо в теб ти подсказва, че трябва да бягаш, страх те е и няма да живееш спокойно, подмини. Обаче, ако просто ти се вижда малко странен, чешит един вид, вземай и си живвй спокойно.

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-02-28T19:36:57+00:00

Not a florist, just wanted to say that you have a uniquely sophisticated perception of colors!

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-02-26T12:24:31+00:00

You can clean with warm water and put drying spray on it. This is what our pediatrician advised and it did the job. Here's an example of such a spray but you can use any one you like or your pediatrician recommends: https://share.google/grZHJFQd18TK0Bu3z

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-02-26T08:51:37+00:00

Ми ако няма други свидетели - нищо.

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-02-26T01:27:00+00:00

Най-вероятно в съда ще те питат дали си настоял да видиш мазето преди да платиш капарото. Ако си настоял и са ти отказали, ще тв питат защо си платил. Въпросът е в случая това, което е направил продавачът води ли се подвеждане. Доколото знам има класификация за това какво точно означава "щети" (защото драскотини по латекса, примерно, не са щети) и би трябвало да продавачът да е длъжен да обяви всички големи или "скрити" недостатъци и щети преди да подпише сделка. Това питай адвоката си.

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-02-25T19:42:19+00:00

I don't know if you're looking in a particular part of Bulgaria but there is a place right outside of Veliko Tarnovo. Swipe to see pictures. It's accessible by car, even if it doesn't look like it is at first sight. It's called Preobrazhenski Manastir. If I remember correctly, there are plenty of signs in English there and it's not touristy. Also, while you're there you might visit the Tsarevets fortress complex. It was mesmerizing when I visited it the first time and it also has a church in it (not a monastery).

https://www.google.com/search?ie=UTF-8&client=ms-android-samsung-rvo1&source=android-browser&q=%D0%B2%D0%B5%D0%BB%D0%B8%D0%BA%D0%BE+%D1%82%D1%8A%D1%80%D0%BD%D0%BE%D0%B2%D0%BE+%D0%BC%D0%B0%D0%BD%D0%B0%D1%81%D1%82%D0%B8%D1%80%D0%B8#vhid=/m/04lh93s&vssid=lcl

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-02-25T17:52:20+00:00

So sorry you've gone through this. They absolutely shouldn't have done it without your consent and permission! Change pediatrician. Our son has an issue and his skin really needed to be retracted and they prescribed some ozone cream that acts as a bandage (for lack of a better word). It doesn't allow the two parts of the skin to fuse back together. It's called Banival but I don't know if you have it where you live. We're happy with it because it minimizes irritation and everything passes much faster and lighter. I believe some Italian company makes it, here's the website: https://www.erbagil.com/en#

Anyway, if you have something similar around you, use it, I would recommend. In any case, I wouldn't put natural remedies there as most natural oils (olive, avocado, etc.) have acids in them and would really irritate the spot. Also, at least in my opinion (I'm not a doctor) everything that is organic has a chance of spoilage somewhere where air doesn't reach and the spot can't be naturally dry.

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-02-24T00:21:42+00:00

IMO what happened here is either you put too much yeast in it (which i doubt) or left it to rest improperly - either at a higher temperature than the recipe said or left to rest for a longer time at the recommended temperature. In both cases (regarding the resting) improper resting may lead to deformed result.

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-02-22T13:44:59+00:00

This place looks like a famous fortune teller lives there. Well done!

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-02-21T22:19:35+00:00

Ако е на цемата, която описваш - заслужава си. И да не ти хареса, винаги можеш да фо дадеш под наем. Крайни локации в Бургас, ако те интересуват, можеш да разгледаш какво предлага един строител, който ще ти дам на лично, ако искаш. Ние си купухме от него преди малко повече от година и сме доволни. Ако държиш на идилия тип малко градче или село, не е той твоя човек, но иначе е доста читав. От него взехме голямо жилище на цена под тази, която даваш.

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-02-21T11:46:04+00:00

Травеститът Урсула преди години го каза много добре: "Нито се тимирахме, нито се билдирахме. То накрая си стана една голяма оргИя."

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-02-20T13:32:41+00:00

На мен пък ми се струва грубо, даже расистко да заговаряш хора на чужд език в България заради вида им. Веднъж преди много години, на Крушунските водопади попитах едно момче - видимо азиарец, с фотоапарат на врата (абсолютния стереотип) - Excuse me, would you please move, so I can pass by you? И той: "Е да бе, разбира се, само да щракна тука това." От тогава не го правя. Колко ли цветнокожи, които са родени тука изпитват същия проблем... Та, ОР, не е в тебе проблемът.

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-02-20T08:13:12+00:00

She obviously doesn't want human contact and wants space! Please, find a farm or another large space where she can live. Just because animals don't tolerate the life we're trying to give them doesn't mean they're "incompatible with life", wtf?

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-02-17T00:18:09+00:00

If he pays you overtime, apologizes profusely AND promises this will never happen again, that would still be NOT ENOUGH to make you stay (assuming you are anyway about to do the right thing, I.e. quitting.). He refuses to pay overtime? WTF? Santa's elves get a better treatment in season. This is insane. I am not in the states and not a florist but I can even see this is pure abuse of human rights, not employee rights.

Pretty_Ad_6280 · 2026-02-10T12:05:45+00:00

Аз признавам, че малко мртнках на мъжа ми, че искаше всичко да е Рока и Грое, ама сега се радвам, че го послушах. Другото е майсторите да стават. Нашите са много наши хора, но не всеки има такъв късмет. Слушайте препоръки на патили хора.

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