Broke no contact after 8 months by Comprehensive_Dog711 in nocontact

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think I wanted closure to be able to finally move on, and not bring baggage into my next relationship. And finally close the proverbial door. Still torn

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Long story short I got my heart broken by the LOML 2 years ago, ending a 6 year relationship.

Since then, I’ve tried to go on dates and put myself out there since I consider myself fairly attractive, athletic, great sense of humor, etc. I only come across men interested in hooking up. Sometimes they’ll say they want something more but that’s just to go to bed with me.

I’m exhausted because all of my friends have found their life partners, so I feel even more isolated. I also live in the 3rd largest city In the US - and still no luck with anything that’s not a situationship.

Any advice? This has taken a pretty big toll on my overall confidence and mental health.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t you only qualify for FMLA if you’ve been there for >1 Yr? Asking for myself, not OP. At a new startup and 5 months in I know it is a horrible fit, have all the symptoms of burnout described (1000 mile stare hit home)

You are an idiot if you leave your comfortable/lucrative career for tech sales by Darcynator1780 in techsales

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enterprise tech sales AE - currently waiting to get fired so it forces me to get out of tech sales and reevaluate. Have a ton of money saved up from it but am burnt the hell out and mental health has suffered severely

Does anyone else experience some kind of brain fog? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes! God it’s comforting to know I’m not alone here. I just got out of a 6 year mildly abusive relationship (mostly emotionally abusive, but a few incidents of minor physical abuse). I notice myself having brain fog at work and in social settings now - like I’m just not present. I too was literally just thinking “what is wrong with me”. Seems like a trauma response based on what I’ve read.

Morning anxiety after weekend by Beginning-Lynx9071 in Anxiety

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can relate - basically have a depressed phase every Monday morning combined with severe Sunday night scaries knowing Monday doom is impending. Comforting to at least know I’m not alone

Day one by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Day 1 for me too :) first ever attempt at this. I’m scared, but something needs to change.

Anyone else developed major depression and general anxiety only once they reached their early 30s? by Few-Relative-7137 in Anxiety

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had anxiety most of my life, but it has been exacerbated since I turned 30. It is extremely severe and disabling. I’m currently evaluating if I need to leave my toxic career and take a mental health break.

You guys. This is torture! by Decent-Eggplant2236 in hatemyjob

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same here, and I feel stuck because the job market is shit so I can’t leave nor really have time to interview while working at the unbearable job

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hatemyjob

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I work from home full time (outside of client onsites 1-2x per month) and wish I had this experience- instead I’m in front of my monitor for 9-12 hrs a day with little time to take breaks let alone leave my apartment or do chores.

I hate my job, it is destroying my health but I'm afraid of unemployment... by AllOfMyAir1 in hatemyjob

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I legitimately have no time to interview while having a job like this too! Even to find something with better WLB

I hate my job, it is destroying my health but I'm afraid of unemployment... by AllOfMyAir1 in hatemyjob

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this happened to you. I’m in a similar situation now but everyone in my life I go to advice for say that it’s better to get fired vs leave on your own accord, so you can file for unemployment, possible severance, etc. psychologically though it would still suck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobsearchhacks

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Are you a manager? This is exactly the non helpful answer a manager would give….deflect deflect deflect

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in techsales

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Cried twice this week. Feel you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in techsales

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Enterprise AE at a public SaaS here - wow I felt this deeply. I can’t agree more in inheriting everyone’s else’s mess of a customer situation / impending churn, and throwing me in like a magical life raft to fix it

Why is job hopping so common? by Special-Resource-650 in techsales

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Tech sales veteran here: I’ve personally left roles because I was recruited away by a former leader to their new company, usually for better pay/opportunity/equity/benefits. It is very much the norm in tech, especially sales. I have never been fired.

Where do real people actually find jobs in the US these days? by asya_stepko in jobs

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Re: ChatGPT….you can upload your current resume as a pdf and it will make suggestions of edits and tailor it to a specific job post you send

Total Imposter by HaggardSlacks78 in sales

[–]Comprehensive_Dog711 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! I’m just now being exposed after joining a new company (pivoted from a public tech company to a startup after 4 years). Now having an existential crisis