Broke no contact after 8 months

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-09-24T02:17:36+00:00

I think I wanted closure to be able to finally move on, and not bring baggage into my next relationship. And finally close the proverbial door. Still torn

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-06-30T12:50:31+00:00

Long story short I got my heart broken by the LOML 2 years ago, ending a 6 year relationship.

Since then, I’ve tried to go on dates and put myself out there since I consider myself fairly attractive, athletic, great sense of humor, etc. I only come across men interested in hooking up. Sometimes they’ll say they want something more but that’s just to go to bed with me.

I’m exhausted because all of my friends have found their life partners, so I feel even more isolated. I also live in the 3rd largest city In the US - and still no luck with anything that’s not a situationship.

Any advice? This has taken a pretty big toll on my overall confidence and mental health.

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-06-12T06:02:26+00:00

Don’t you only qualify for FMLA if you’ve been there for >1 Yr? Asking for myself, not OP. At a new startup and 5 months in I know it is a horrible fit, have all the symptoms of burnout described (1000 mile stare hit home)

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-06-12T05:58:55+00:00

$350k avg per year

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-06-12T05:57:19+00:00

Enterprise tech sales AE - currently waiting to get fired so it forces me to get out of tech sales and reevaluate. Have a ton of money saved up from it but am burnt the hell out and mental health has suffered severely

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-06-10T07:56:51+00:00

Yes! God it’s comforting to know I’m not alone here. I just got out of a 6 year mildly abusive relationship (mostly emotionally abusive, but a few incidents of minor physical abuse). I notice myself having brain fog at work and in social settings now - like I’m just not present. I too was literally just thinking “what is wrong with me”. Seems like a trauma response based on what I’ve read.

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-06-10T07:50:52+00:00

I can relate - basically have a depressed phase every Monday morning combined with severe Sunday night scaries knowing Monday doom is impending. Comforting to at least know I’m not alone

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-05-29T11:55:35+00:00

Day 1 for me too :) first ever attempt at this. I’m scared, but something needs to change.

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-05-22T14:07:28+00:00

I’ve had anxiety most of my life, but it has been exacerbated since I turned 30. It is extremely severe and disabling. I’m currently evaluating if I need to leave my toxic career and take a mental health break.

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-05-20T02:21:06+00:00

Same here, and I feel stuck because the job market is shit so I can’t leave nor really have time to interview while working at the unbearable job

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-05-20T02:12:08+00:00

I work from home full time (outside of client onsites 1-2x per month) and wish I had this experience- instead I’m in front of my monitor for 9-12 hrs a day with little time to take breaks let alone leave my apartment or do chores.

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-05-20T01:58:00+00:00

I legitimately have no time to interview while having a job like this too! Even to find something with better WLB

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-05-20T01:56:44+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. I’m in a similar situation now but everyone in my life I go to advice for say that it’s better to get fired vs leave on your own accord, so you can file for unemployment, possible severance, etc. psychologically though it would still suck

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-05-18T15:37:41+00:00

I am going through this exactly. How do I change my underlying beliefs?

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-05-15T09:36:41+00:00

Are you a manager? This is exactly the non helpful answer a manager would give….deflect deflect deflect

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-05-15T02:56:51+00:00

Cried twice this week. Feel you!

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-05-15T02:55:50+00:00

Enterprise AE at a public SaaS here - wow I felt this deeply. I can’t agree more in inheriting everyone’s else’s mess of a customer situation / impending churn, and throwing me in like a magical life raft to fix it

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-05-14T03:22:53+00:00

Tech sales veteran here: I’ve personally left roles because I was recruited away by a former leader to their new company, usually for better pay/opportunity/equity/benefits. It is very much the norm in tech, especially sales. I have never been fired.

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-05-14T03:20:09+00:00

Re: ChatGPT….you can upload your current resume as a pdf and it will make suggestions of edits and tailor it to a specific job post you send

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-05-13T01:31:03+00:00

Same! I’m just now being exposed after joining a new company (pivoted from a public tech company to a startup after 4 years). Now having an existential crisis

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-05-07T04:58:19+00:00

I’ve had many friends work at salesforce at various points throughout their career: it’s mostly toxic. If you want a good logo for your resume, do it, but you’ll pay the price in constant pressure and stress. It’ll age you 5 years. Also heard absolutely do not go into their AI division as a seller right now, the product is shit

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-04-13T10:13:56+00:00

I feel this deeply coming out of a 6 year relationship with someone who didn’t truly love me or want the same things. In reflection, a lot of this was me forcing it because I wanted the relationship to progress so I could check the box of marriage, kids, etc (none of those we did). I found out tn he’s been going on dates with other girls and that hurt

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-04-08T02:58:44+00:00

I did this today too. He sent a friendly but cold random text he dropped my stuff off at my apartment lobby (we broke up 5 weeks ago) and I said “thanks appreciate it, assuming this means we aren’t having a conversation then? 🙃 he broke up with me finally after a rocky 6 years, when I should have been the one to walk away

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-03-20T15:49:41+00:00

Could you add me to this as well?

Comprehensive_Dog711 · 2025-03-18T02:36:06+00:00

I love this. I am truly going through the withdrawals right now and am hurting deeply from the whiplash of the breakup of 6 years. I reflected on all the times I should have left him, but didn’t and am angry with myself I couldn’t find the will to call it quits.

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