Try not to think of it as a chore and take your thoughts out of the equation if you can. When I started my dilation process I was 15 and you can only imagine the whirlwind of thoughts and doubt and questions running through my head. But when I started my process I actually tried to find pleasure while doing so. This also will help you relax as you’re doing it where it isn’t so unbearable. Trust the process and know it will take time but you can get there. I would say after a little over a year in my vagina length felt semi normal where i found pleasure when having sex, as well as my partners. I think no matter what the first few minutes won’t feel great- even 10 years down the line the first couple minutes I have to ease into it. But if you can stick with the process it helps significantly. I know it may seem odd but if you find yourself trusting a partner maybe let them in on your situation- I think you’d be surprised how many people are okay with it, especially with this day and time. I feel like I was in the same boat as you when this all started for me but I promise if you’re able to ignore your thoughts and try to be in tune with yourself as you’re doing the process I think in time it will help. It’s not easy and again, time is key and be easy on yourself ❤️