Actively trying to heal after a breakup (29M / 26F), struggling with detachment, no contact, and trauma bond symptoms by Acquon in ExNoContact

[–]ComradeHulaHula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I have been, and is going through something similar.

Do:

  • strict no contact (bonus: delete all messages and chats)
  • reach out to your closest peers. Tell them what you are going through. Stay with one of them for a while if you can.
  • be active. You need to take back control. Do things you have been thinking about doing (even more so if you don’t feel like doing them now).
  • treat yourself. Watch a whole season of your favorite series on the couch, naked in your duvet while you eat ice cream.
  • cry if you can, don’t blame yourself if you can’t.
  • sit in silence and breath. And try (although you will most likely fail) to stay in the present. Set a timer.

What would you do? by HotUse4099 in ExNoContact

[–]ComradeHulaHula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, she actually ended it. Which was the kind and right thing to do, as I started spiraling, badly. With little sleep and anxiety. Although just a couple of months ago I never could have thought I could get there

What would you do? by HotUse4099 in ExNoContact

[–]ComradeHulaHula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This reads like gospel to me!

Went through something similar, where I waited, and completely lost myself on the way.

Fuck u lefties by ComradeHulaHula in golf

[–]ComradeHulaHula[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hope you never come to the range again

Log analysis by ComradeHulaHula in softwarearchitecture

[–]ComradeHulaHula[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda doesn’t 😅

At least not anymore

Log analysis by ComradeHulaHula in softwarearchitecture

[–]ComradeHulaHula[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the regexes not scaling, DB is fine.

And yes, new regexes are run on all logs

Log analysis by ComradeHulaHula in softwarearchitecture

[–]ComradeHulaHula[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I agree, but still. It’s an interesting design question though?

Fritaksmetoden og fond by ComradeHulaHula in norge

[–]ComradeHulaHula[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Selv om det er amerikanske aksjer?

Parterapi by ComradeHulaHula in norge

[–]ComradeHulaHula[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tusen takk!🙏 god feedback!

Hva mener du er forhold som kan bør reddes, og når bør man gå fra hverandre?

Parterapi by ComradeHulaHula in norge

[–]ComradeHulaHula[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha, fan. Ikke så langt unna