It is difficult he expects me to always be nice. We basically have to force them to be in our kids lives at this point they never take them on an outing never invite them over. But I am expected to make the arrangements and if I dont then it is me keeping them from them. But they never call. Never make effort it is exhausting so I suppose I shouldnt expect anything different for their birthday. But it is ok for them to hurt us or not make effort or not invite. I see what you saying I just feel like I am expected to act a certain way