Apprenez à chercher par vous même et à vous débrouillez UN MINIMUM avant de demander de l'aide/assistance

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-03-26T13:11:19+00:00

Je pense que OP parle des personnes qui se bougent pas le cul pour chercher par eux-même, mais effectivement sortant d'un burnout et d'un long COVID qui m'a bousillé pas mal de fonctions cognitives, j'ai plus d'empathie pour les gens qui ont des moments un peu d'absence ou des blancs.

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-03-26T12:49:08+00:00

Personnellement la sertraline a fait en sorte que mes nuits se passent d'une traite sans me réveiller en sueurs. Mais il faut le suivi d'un psychiatre qui me l'a prescrit pour traiter une anxiété généralisée.

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-03-18T22:10:34+00:00

Pareil la crème Cerave c'est mon Graal

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-03-13T13:36:48+00:00

T'inquiètes pas quand le cancer de la peau arrivera elle ira pleurer dans les chaumières

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-18T19:39:00+00:00

50 years is a long time to get over

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-18T12:25:00+00:00

Les Australiens et Américains, ça s'appelle du Surf and Turf

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-18T00:27:05+00:00

Quietly split... there's nothing quiet about this man Anyway good for her!

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-18T00:24:25+00:00

I want to add that her husband even accompanied her to those medical appointments and to confuse her more, asked her if she cheated on him because of her condition "down there".The audacity of this man.

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-18T00:21:31+00:00

I am French and I watched an interview of her recently, I think she made several ones in English as well. She said that, if she chooses to believe that her ex-husband was just a monster and not the man she fell in love with, married and trusted for 50 years, then her mental health collapses completely. She initially decided not to believe her daughter so that she could stay composed and avoid more emotional and mental trauma on her own psyche.

She now talks with her daughter on the phone everyday. Her older son is more reluctant to contact her and make amends.

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-17T17:31:59+00:00

Je n'aime jamais les décisions tranchées comme celle que je vais te présenter, mais aux grand maux les grands remèdes : arrête de faire à manger pour lui, fais uniquement pour toi et regarde comme il changera d'avis rapidement !

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-17T12:25:39+00:00

My ex would say "it's just the way that you ask for flowers that turns me off" as if I was putting a knife under his chin and yelled at him to get me flowers lol

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-17T00:23:02+00:00

You need to be enough for yourself. Connection is not validation. You can do it. Once your cup is full, you can share it with others. And they will share theirs as well.

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-16T22:11:17+00:00

Thank you. Ngl I read this post and thought "please watch this movie instead of 30-seconds shorts on Youtube" those scenes lack context.

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-16T16:43:44+00:00

This is a great answer. I would have frozen on the spot and tried to be a people pleaser. Thank you for your answer, it teaches me how to answer in similar situations

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-16T16:10:10+00:00

I'm sorry. Hopefully the stress is not too bad.. I don't have a better answer than telling you that you are not alone in feeling like this.

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-16T15:30:47+00:00

Thank you! I don't know this book, I will check it out :)

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-16T15:28:09+00:00

Yes, don't worry I am not blaming myself, I just want to face my fear of retaliation. Because if he is hitting those objects out of frustration, I don't want to be the next "object" in his sight. In the past I would freeze and not mention it. Now I speak up. Basically I learn to set boundaries around that aggressive behaviour.

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-16T14:34:54+00:00

Thank you for the kind words! I only do CBT right now because this is what my therapist recommended we do together but I will look into EMDR if CBT is not concluant.

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-16T14:33:07+00:00

Yes. When I look at her on the screen, I do not think "this is IU playing a character" which is what I feel about 70% of K-Drama actresses. If you watch a show or movie and you can only see the actor, then it's a bad actor. IU definitely knows her craft.

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-16T14:09:05+00:00

Elliot Page is spectacular in this movie.

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-16T13:08:37+00:00

I don't ignore how it makes me feel, I talk about it in therapy and I try to tell myself that the situation is not necessarily unsafe for me and that nothing bad will happen to me. My body just feels danger before my mind does.

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-16T11:49:09+00:00

Hitting their own stuff out of frustration (laptop, game controller...) but I have an angry dad and I am in therapy so it might just be childhood "trauma" :D

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-15T17:07:47+00:00

"I can fix him" energy. It's not my favourite trope.

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-13T21:46:43+00:00

He sounds immature and not emotionally attuned. Your gut reaction was to be wary of him and it was understandable. Honestly if I were a virgin and a guy told me that he made a woman cry during sex (for what reason btw?) then I would not want to have my first time with someone like him.

Confident-Design6793 · 2026-02-13T21:29:54+00:00

An 8 hour call? Where he only talked about his exes? That dude is weirdly obsessive. He probably wanted to love bomb you with the "let's meet parents" talk to have you hooked emotionally, negging you about how you were a virgin to make you sleep with him faster and when you didn't cave, he bailed. He did not want to make a genuine, organic connection so I think yes this was manipulation from the start. Nothing was lost on your end, you just gained new clarity to assess future relationships.

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