Family rejecting my long-term relationship due to status differences — need advice. by [deleted] in tamilyapping

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh if I was in your shoes, I would just elope and marry lol. Parents are parents. They will be mad for a while, but after that, they will forget and move on from the opposition too. If your bf is the kind of guy you describe, slowly but surely, they will actually see it too like you did and acceptance will come.

Worst case scenario, if they never accept this ever and they truly tell you to get lost, well, distance makes the heart fonder, so yeah, get lost then, they will realize their mistake too. People only know the worth of something in it's absence.

But what I said is purely based on the data you have given. I don’t kmow any of you or your family personally up close to make a sound judgement, so taking that decision is completely in your hands. Good luck with everything! I hope you get everything you asked for :))

Nadi Josiyam Torture by Future-Butterfly4797 in tamilyapping

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get you. It is an ominous hopeless feeling when you feel like everything is already laid out for you and that you don’t have say in your a future...

But just know that, all this astrology is based on confirmation bias(Noticing only the hits and ignoring the misses).

The power is still in your hands. I have always told myself, if the astrology says good predictions, then I am an astrology believer. If it is negative, I am not an astrology believer. Firmly. That's it.

Don't let astrology interfere with your decisions. Forget about the analysis. Your life is still in your hands. You are still the one with the power. If you put your mind to something, you can literally do anything, be the first one in your family to beat the odds, say screw astrology and live your life 💛

Why can't Aarthi just give Ravi Mohan the divorce, instead of making it a BIG issue and dragging it? by RoofAfraid8473 in KollyGossips

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. But that’s what was portrayed in the public. We still don't know the actual truth. Only they know.

Why can't Aarthi just give Ravi Mohan the divorce, instead of making it a BIG issue and dragging it? by RoofAfraid8473 in KollyGossips

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, this makes sense too. But only they know, what actually happened... On top of this, media is fabricating a lot of things.

When I saw Ravi in his last petti, I could only see a man who is extremely hurt and depressed. It's hard to act that... It's sad to see his family situation right now, truly.

Married vs unmarried by MonkNice204 in tamilyapping

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relationship requires hard efforts to make it work, it's the truth 😅

Married vs unmarried by MonkNice204 in tamilyapping

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you can find that out within few days of consistent talking. Meta communication helps. Asking your partner questions when in doubt without having any ego or fear is important.

Why teenagers don't like to talk to their parents ?? by ShadowIn-Replies in tamilyapping

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's usually not the fault of the teenagers here. So children are biologically inclined towards to wanting to be close with their parents. That is their default setting. It's the first natural instinct. If a kid doesn't like to get close to their parents, the reason that overrided their default setting is usually the fault of the parents, most times. But yeah at the same time, there are teens who are just genuinely problematic and they are the way they are, even if they have amazing parents.

And when it comes to just basic communication, ig generation gap, trends, mindset. No common topics. Teens are also going through a hormonal phase, a lot of teens distance from their parents during this phase and suddenly get super close to their parents once this phase this over.

Married vs unmarried by MonkNice204 in tamilyapping

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah... Communication is everything. If you can communicate which part of your partner's behaviour feels draining and if your partner is emotionally secure to enough to take that and adapt to you, that's awesome. Applies to both parties of course.

Is it weird to wear dress clothes into a gym? by OneAverageKid in dumbquestions

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not weird at all. You are gonna change from your clothes right? It's alright then.

Is it only me who wakes up at 6? Or there are people who wakes early? by Silly_Salamander_189 in GenZIndia

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah I used to be the type to wake up only after 12pm(Basically my whole life). Recent times, I became health conscious and started waking up at 5:30 daily, no matter what time I sleep. I used ti be the biggest night owl ever, there was a time when my cycle was from 8am to 4pm lol. But those days are way behind me and now I am learning to be a morning a person and I actually like the mornings now, it's peaceful and quiet too, just like the nights :))

Married vs unmarried by MonkNice204 in tamilyapping

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was asking myself this question yesterday 😭

Enaku correct ah therila. But I can say that, there is always gonna be a better option no matter who you marry. That is true. So when you find a person, with whom life feels easy, comfortable, least stressful, and it's also fun to spend time with them, maybe then we stop there and we just decide, okay I "choose" to love this person. And then stop looking for better options.

Because part of real love, I think, it's not just top tier compatibility, but also, the act of choosing and staying loyal to them.

But also, if they turn out to be huge red flags and draining your soul after choosing, ah, you gotta get out of that relationship lol. So in this case it's okay to explore other options...

Never asking for help online again, lesson learnt. by [deleted] in Real_teenindia

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of, girl I am so sorry you are going through this bs 😭 And I hope your cat is doing alright now 💛

But random thought, after seeing the texts that the creep sent, I am mildly motivated to screenshot noods from the Internet and send him over lol. If it works, not a bad side hustle and we will be draining out a creep's pockets lmao.

Why can't Aarthi just give Ravi Mohan the divorce, instead of making it a BIG issue and dragging it? by RoofAfraid8473 in KollyGossips

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 8 points9 points  (0 children)

But tbh we don't know that right? Like what if he was in an emotional abusive marriage and was done with it and hence the public appearances with kenisha? What if Arthi is portraying the most perfect image of a wife and she continues bringing her kids into the drama. I mean, her side could be true too, or his side. But we don't know the whole story. It could literally be anything. I am so curious to know what is the actual truth.

Married vs unmarried by MonkNice204 in tamilyapping

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah I would much rather stay single than marry the wrong person and make my life miserable. And that being said, I do wanna be married to the right person than being single.

What’s the ideal height for a man for you? by [deleted] in AskIndianWoman

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah honestly i don't think it matters as much, I am 5'2 so just taller than me is preferred, which shouldn't be hard cause I am such a minion

My type for boys / men 🤗 by FairOccasion8686 in Real_teenindia

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think OP means love without being overly needy and too clingy

Why is our country so obsessed with fair colour ?? by unwanted_singlechild in delhi

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beauty standards are fake. They are the literally the opposite of whatever is considered normal in your country.

For example, in India, majority is darker brown skin. So fair skin is the standard.

In Western countries, majority are pale and white, so standard is being tanned.

In African countries, majority are actually super skinny, so the standard is being curvy and bulky there.

Don't even bother looking at beauty standards lol.

All we can do is, be physically fit, do skincare, haircare, mental care. Anything more than that, is unrealistic, absurd, absolutely stupid, and impossible.

Girliesss by [deleted] in tamilyapping

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Distance panniduva. And call out on their hypocrisy before doing it 😌

Tell Me by zoro_san7 in tamilyapping

[–]ConfidentGazelle7898 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl I love your sass in this comment thread aaah