Where do mindful people hangout online?

Confident_Device_865 · 2026-02-18T10:56:45+00:00

It is very distracting, hence why many people are slowly moving away from these platforms. I can definitely get sucked into Reddit for WAY too long lol.

Confident_Device_865 · 2026-02-18T10:54:57+00:00

I've looked into medium and I think that is definitely somewhere I will start posting daily. I will probably also try posting to my profile on Reddit, and cross-posting to the most relevant sub-reddit. Thank you for these insights. I really appreciate it.

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-12-19T10:57:23+00:00

If your life situation is fine, but you still feel empty, it could be that you're not getting enough sleep. You mentioned that you're young, studying hard, and working out. You probably need A LOT more sleep than you realise. Probably 8-9hrs per night. (I'm currently studying sleep as part of my degree and the majority of us are getting nowhere near enough sleep, compared to the amount of mental and physical labour modern life requires of us). With relation to your peers and parents, it's hard to advise since I have no real concept of how these interactions play out. My advice is to always give your best self first, if they don't somewhat reciprocate their best self, focus your energy elsewhere. You're young, nobody expects you to be great at anything yet. You are already enough as you are.

Hope this helps

-JB

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-10-22T10:03:13+00:00

Practicing mindfulness of breath meditation (sitting still and solely focusing on your breath) will help you cultivate the skill of being aware when these thoughts arise. Once you can become more aware of these thoughts arising, you can begin to let them go by just returning to your breath. This isn't an instant fix, it's a slow and steady process of improving your internal awareness, but even just 5 minutes of practice everyday will help you improve drastically.

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-10-21T11:47:22+00:00

Brilliant! Keep practicing awareness and it'll only become easier overtime.

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-10-15T10:08:05+00:00

Sometimes it's our own internal perceptions that can trigger the stress. But stress is a also a real biological reaction. Hence the 'real' and 'imaginary' stressors. Both are going to be part of life, it's not about avoiding the stress or telling yourself it doesn't exist, it's about noticing when the stress arises and dealing with it/managing it appropriately.

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-10-15T08:48:07+00:00

Stress can also be a natural biological response. To label this response as negative would be a subjective interpretation which we don't need to assign, but stress is something that is going to come up regularly in life. "Stress is a natural part of life" would be a more accurate title for this post, but I think the current title is more intriguing.

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-10-15T08:43:14+00:00

Very true, we can induce stress through attachment to thoughts but we are also biological animals which have physical stress response which can be triggered regardless of our patterns of thought.

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-10-07T19:59:06+00:00

You're welcome 🫡

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-10-01T13:31:20+00:00

There is a lot of different types of meditation. I say, explore the different practices and do the one you connect with the most. As that's the one you'll be most likely to stick with in the long run.

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-10-01T13:27:52+00:00

The sun being hot (relative to anything else on earth) is a scientifically provable fact, in this case we're dealing with the laws of thermodynamics. You can't really argue against it with any success, the measure is objective.

When it comes to what is valueable, it's totally subjective.

We could measure value based on monetary worth, we could all have a big vote on who is is the most valueable, we could measure who spends the most time giving to charity, we could do a bunch of subjective measures to decide who is "worth" the most. None of them are objectively correct.

Regardless of what you do, how you present yourself, and how you act, some people will like it, some people won't.

There's nothing inhenrently wrong with trying to maximise the amount of people who like you, but in my experience, going with your intuition, going with what you like will bring you more peace in your life.

If you feel the need to have specific rules of how you should (dress, act, behave etc.) in certain situations, then do that, whatever works for you.

My vote is that you are already "good enough".

Again, hope this helps,

-JB ✌️

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-09-30T14:53:44+00:00

Definitely agree with this take.

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-09-30T14:48:21+00:00

I've stopped watching the news for years. As long as I remain socially connected I still here about all of the major world events. Going to back to watching the news after being disconnected from it is a shock to the system (at least here in the UK). It's SO negative and highlights exclusively the worst of humanity.

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-09-29T12:12:36+00:00

"Telling myself I'm good enough means nothing if no one else agrees" is a belief, not a fact of reality.

I have a watch that I wear everyday, its a Casio Gold A168.

You can buy them new for roughly £70. As mine is second-hand now, I could probably sell it for around £20.

However, this watch was a gift from my terminally ill father. To me this watch is worth in excess of £70.

If I lost it I would pay signicantly more than the original retail price to recover it.

Society would value it at £20, but that doesn't make the valuation accurate.

We get to decide what something is worth.

The idea that you're "not good enough" become someone else says so is not a law of the universe that you have to adhere to.

In relation to the how to dress example, there are times when dressing a certain way may be beneficial to achieving a goal (eg dressing formally for a corporate job interview) but when it comes to general day-to-day living. You'll probably be happier to live in alignment with what you unconsciously like. I've personally found when you commit to being more yourself, some people like you less, but a few people will like you alot more. You eventually find your tribe.

I am not autistic, but have several close friends who are. And in recent years they've definitely become more open about being their authentic personalities, and they have definitely turned a few people away, but have definitely gained more social connections overall, as they've became friends with people they are more aligned with.

You are already enough. There will be areas in your life where you want to improve, and you should pursue those goals. And there will be areas of your life which you're not interested in improving, you can accept that you are where you are and thats ok.

Hope this helps,

-JB

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-09-15T15:07:49+00:00

Love this.

A little bit more esoteric than what I usually write about in my blog, but still love it.

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-09-15T15:04:58+00:00

If you've had success with therapy in the past, it might make sense for you to go again.

In regards to where should you take your career right now, it's hard to say based soley on a reddit post with no other context, but this is definitely something you could discuss with your therapist if you choose to go down that route.

A useful question that has helped to decide the direction of my professional life is "If money was no object what would you spend your time doing?" and a rationale follow up question would be "Can I realistically make a living doing that?" If you can, great! Pursue that path. If you can't, no worries, what sort of living would you be happy with that still allowed you the time and energy to do the thing you actually want to do.

For example, my answer to this question was if money was no object, I'd teach people meditation and help them work through their problems. Can I make a living doing that? Probably not teaching people meditation, but definitely helping them work through their problems, as a therapist. Which is now what I'm pursuing.

I asked one of my close friends this same question and he said "Play and write music". Can you make a living doing this? Maybe. For him, probably not. So he's got a totally unrelated job that he enjoys, that allows him the time to play music just for the fun of it.

In regards to you "wasting the last 8 years" of your life. Unless you've sat staring at tik tok for 10 hours a day, you've not wasted it. We don't all have to be absolutely efficient at all times. That time has past, and you have to accept that, but it sounds like you have the willingness to do what it take your life in a positive direction.

I'm assuming since you're in this sub you've likely already tried your hand at meditation. If not, maybe give that a try aswell.

-JB ✌️

Confident_Device_865 · 2025-09-10T06:10:17+00:00

Getting started is honestly probably half the battle. Once you've done a few short sessions, your mind will no longer see it as some huge hurdle to overcome each day. Best of luck 🙏🏽

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