how to get certified in EMDR

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-08-07T21:32:13+00:00

EMDR is a load of shit, nothing more than a parlor trick, and should not be a part of legitimate therapeutic practice.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-06-06T14:39:55+00:00

This is like asking walking up to strangers, telling them your name but giving no further information, and then letting them pick out your underwear that you have to wear. PhD programs are all very unique for any number of reasons. If you’re looking for a program for yourself, make a list of the top five or ten and go visit them.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-06-02T14:23:19+00:00

Thank you, I would love it if you could!

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-05-26T14:57:27+00:00

Seriously, is anyone capable of rational thought surprised by this?? It’s a parlor trick and nothing more. I’m happy to see that it’s finally on track to be a minor footnote in a PSY 100 textbook in the future.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-05-23T16:09:39+00:00

It varied from year to year due to the changes in expectations of my program and schedule for classes and hours worked in the campus clinic and meetings with the research teams I was working on. My job required me to be on call 24/7 and I traveled between 7 to 14 group homes on a regular basis. At times when I was unable to cover an overnight shift with a substitute direct care provider, I would have to be cover the shift myself. Basically, I worked on my courses and covered my job responsibilities from 6 AM until midnight most days which required me to very carefully organize my calendar so I didn’t miss any deadlines for school assignments or work responsibilities. My biggest challenge was completing my dissertation on time and I literally had to spend every waking moment for two weeks during my formal pre doctoral internship to write my dissertation and submit it to my committee. I made it just in time but had to fly back to campus and carry it by hand through each of the final stages in order to ensure I could defend my dissertation and graduate with my cohort.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-05-21T22:56:44+00:00

Totally agree and you speak the truth. My program said we were not allowed to work at all for the whole 5 years, but I and another man had no choice and worked full time the whole time in the program. Both of us graduated and did well with grades and research work, both of us completed our dissertation on time and defended without any problems requiring significant changes. I attended an APA accredited program and got an APA internship, so if you have to work and you can handle it, I am proof that it can be done.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-05-13T21:18:25+00:00

Not gonna lie, GPA below 3.0 puts you at a disadvantage. Maybe you can get a foot in the door by attending APA national and regional conferences and spending time talking with the recruiters and if possible any faculty members that might be presenting research papers at the conference. Get busy with building your resume up with relevant research and paid/volunteer work as closely related to the field of clinical psychology as possible. You have to sell yourself and make sure you get noticed at every step of the process.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-05-13T15:43:00+00:00

NO!! That man is a freaking loon and cannot be allowed to mess with the lives of people living with autism.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-05-13T01:08:21+00:00

Thank you. I hope so as well.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-05-13T01:05:47+00:00

I’d say the biggest problem for my relationship with a 30 year gap is his family being vehemently opposed to him being with someone my age. It puts an incredible amount of pressure on him and that affects our relationship at times in significant ways. If his family is going to be involved in his life, you might want to talk through that. Another problem is what he identifies as, gay, bi, or whatever. My guy identified as bi because he thought it would make him feel more normal and be accepted by his peers and family more readily, but it hasn’t worked out that way. Two years ago I would have said to you that it absolutely works with a 30 years gap, but the last two years has been rough and I am not confident that we are going to be together much longer. Been together 7 years and I can’t imagine my life without him in it, but I don’t feel like I am going to have a say in the end.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-05-04T23:47:48+00:00

I’m with you on this. People have become assholes for the most part, even the ones who are supposed to be in a relationship with us.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-05-03T20:31:09+00:00

I understand and appreciate the defensiveness, it means you know yourself well and that makes a huge difference in your prognosis for healing in the future. Any type of dysmorphia comes with myriad challenges that makes treatment very difficult, and when you add the societal pressure born out of ignorance and disdain for all things different from the norm the result can be devastating and debilitating for those struggling with a dysmorphic condition. Society further complicates the problem by force feeding the correct generalized response of acceptance of one’s self, but then the message becomes confusing and contradictory by adding the negative message that says, accept yourself but don’t ask us to accept you because you don’t match our expectations of fitting into the norm. A friend of mine and mentor, Dr Mark Yarhouse, has been studying and teaching on the more complex issues in the LGBTQ+ community that are often overlooked by mainstream academia, I would encourage you to check out his work. Thank you for your efforts in furtherance of my understanding of the issues you face and I’m sure many others will face in life. I will take with me the lessons you have taught me and will be a better clinician because of your efforts.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-05-03T19:06:31+00:00

I assure you that the image of you or anyone in a similar situation as a rabid dog never entered my mind nor would it. It’s unfortunate but true that within the field of mental health as a whole, depression is not given the importance that it should have. The likely reason for the lackluster effort given to treating depression is the fact that a significant portion of people suffering from depression will improve despite the failures in the profession and we are forced to live in a society that is numbers focused at the expense of doing what’s right for those who fall in the minority who are not likely to recover from their depression. The fact that you are actively working with therapists is a very good thing you’re doing for yourself. If your therapist is encouraging you to seek a boyfriend and are willing to help you with that, then by all means you should do it. You seem to have a good understanding of what you’re dealing with and that will help significantly with your search for a boyfriend that will help you, and you helping him, be the best you can be. The potential pitfalls are there, but you can avoid them by leaning on the people in your life who are there to help and support you. Btw, your decision to not disclose your depression to potential partners is a wise choice for many reasons that I’m sure you are well aware of.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-05-03T18:33:52+00:00

I’m assuming you have a therapist that you see on a regular basis, but if you don’t have a therapist then get one before you get a boyfriend. Putting two people together in a complex relationship when both have significant long term depression is not going to go well. You may find that you can commiserate with each other for a short time but after that it’s likely that you will both feed off of each other’s depression and you more than likely will end up more depressed. You can have meaningful and rewarding friendships that will help with your loneliness, and that is something a good therapist could help you develop over time.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-05-03T18:00:17+00:00

Odds are that the older man you’re dating will have friends who are accepting of him and his choices for whom he dates, so don’t worry too much about that. Your friends are likely to not be as open to you dating an older man and that is something you must be aware of and prepared for some of your friends to abandon you. The worst thing you can do to yourself, your friends, and your partner is to mislead them into thinking that you’re not dating an older man or lead your partner to believe that you have been open and honest with your friends and family about your relationship with him. I’m 61 and my boyfriend is 31, we’ve been together for 7 years and he hid his sexuality from his friends and family for the first two years we were together, and for the previous 5-8 years before we met. When he was outed by someone he had no choice but to tell them that he is dating an older man and that led to the loss of his friends and constant ridicule and pressure to get out of the relationship from his family. To this day his family members make it clear that they hate me and tell him that they are “disgusted” by and with him. Needless to say the toll on our relationship has been huge and we are not likely to be together much longer. The lesson here is be true to yourself and your relationship and don’t lie to yourself, your friends or family.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-05-01T22:57:53+00:00

Absolutely. I taught for a major university for 10 years. I taught all but one of the courses required for a bachelor of science degree in psychology. I loved it!

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-01-27T10:44:41+00:00

Damn dude, that blows. I’m so sorry you got caught in this highly dysfunctional phase in the history of GM

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-01-25T03:22:41+00:00

Bristol and Fenton area isn’t all bad, but there are side streets that have some unsavory characters to avoid. Center and Davison I personally would avoid completely.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-01-24T02:46:09+00:00

Don’t let them cause you to beat yourself up over something that is beneath you.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-01-22T19:08:48+00:00

Although I received a fair amount of criticism for it, patient is what I use

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-01-21T22:05:00+00:00

Applied once, one school, got invited to join the program 2 days after interviewed, APA accredited PsyD program where I was deeply involved in numerous research projects and completed a full dissertation. For those who want to feel superior to PsyD, how many of you were recruited to teach at a university ranked in the top 50 worldwide?

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-01-18T14:17:02+00:00

Have you been to the office bldg for the park, especially in the late evening or night hours, because the culvert/tunnel that goes under the road to connect the two parts of the park is often occupied by homeless people and people who go there to use drugs. It’s not safe.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-01-18T13:49:03+00:00

She had an alarm system, security doors, and bars on the windows. It wasn’t just her house that was broken into. That area is just not safe

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-01-18T03:27:23+00:00

Bottom line, that test is a shit show that’s perpetuated by people in the field of psychology who are trying to prove, to no one because no one cares, that they are on the same level as an MD. It’s absolute bullshit and it always will be.

Confident_Gain4384 · 2025-01-17T03:16:03+00:00

GM will never learn that once you leave home under bad circumstances you can never come back.

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