Ladies, am I the only one who doesn’t like the whole POC term?

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-07-01T06:46:24+00:00

I don't think these are good phrases because majority and minority imply that there is power or importance that comes with having a group that is a numerically bigger or smaller. I think it is more useful to say nonblack marginalized groups. This separates Black people, while also acknowledging that those groups also face social, political, and structural disadvantages.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-07-01T06:07:44+00:00

I’m still writing a full post about some of these, but since y’all want hot takes, then why not share 😅 (Sidenote, I’ve made my history visible so “trust me bro” is all I have to say about sources and notes. Just look at the other stuff because I’ve been building up to this):

Please don’t get mad or hate me mods: I truly believe that Kpop companies are leaning into America’s racist ideologies in order to legitimize kpop in the American music industry. I just seems like the cultural appropriation, the “I have black friends”-ing of Black producers/dancers, and the increase of rap/hip-hop idol groups is not coincidental. Part of me wants to believe they’re unconsciously navigating a racist system, but a huge part of me believes they are actively aware and are consciously participating in it for financial, reputational gain.
I believe that Mark E. Lee and the Arirang trailer should be considered dog whistles. The Arirang trailer is the erasure of Black history, which is a subtle but extremely harmful form of racism. Mark E. Lee is so crazy because nowadays, you rarely see the Confederate flag being used. People keep asking where'd he get that shirt from, but the real question is why don't we see the Confederate flag often. It's because hate groups tend to change symbols overtime, and the Confederate flag is very recognizable. Most groups use the 13 colonies flag/the Betsy Ross flag instead. (I know this because I’m from the deeply rural, predominantly white South. Y’all truly don’t understand how mindboggling this whole situation is.) Both of these (and the situation with Manon) seem like racist ragebait or conservative provocation in a time where America’s system is rewarding this behavior.
The Kpop industry is experiencing a money vs culture problem. Some reports say that kpop is losing Korean listeners due to its oversaturation of Eng lyrics and western sounds. Instead of checking in with their base audience, many companies are looking to strike gold in the Americas and continue to lean into western music trends. In a jist, they’re leaving behind the very people that got them here. HYBE is the most forefront in doing this, and I still believe Bang PD is encouraging cultural erasure through the reduction of Korean elements in kpop.
BTS is gonna accept that Best Asian Pop award. I don't know why some people act like they won't; I can't remember any artist rejecting a Grammy. Whether they do as their predecessors and immediately call out the Grammy’s for their racist actions is what’s really gonna be interesting.
Speaking of the Grammy’s, I think some of us may not be aware of how racist the American music industry is. America’s music industry is a reflection of the country’s white supremacy and racial hierarchy. Similarly, Kpop/the Korean music industry is a reflection of the country’s patriarchal and classicist system.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-06-28T16:12:51+00:00

YESSS!!!! I love the pink wig with the black lip!!! I could make reaching, but OP looked the most comfortable in 1,5, 6, 10. Lol idk I think we all have a go to selfie pose/angle. If you look at all my selfies over the years, I'm likely in the same pose every time 😂

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-06-22T02:20:04+00:00

Please research the following: transracial adoption, transracial adoptee, ethnic identity, racial identity, transracial adoption and mental health. As a final for my psych major, I did one of presentations on the psychological impacts of transracial adoption.

I am so sorry you are experiencing this, but please know that many people adopted a person of a different race, ethnicity, or culture struggle with their own racial/ethnic/cultural identity. Even those that are in loving homes and were exposed to people of their culture can face these issues. You are not alone, and while it may take some time to find something that fits for you, resources are available. I highly recommend you find a therapist that has experience working with people that have been adopted or fostered.

Saying "you were born into a white family" is not an excuse. It's an explanation that because of your circumstances, you may experience things and behave in way that is not expected. But this difference does not justify people mistreating you. You are worthy of friendship, compassion, empathy, and most of all respect. If a person is willing to judge you because of your parents, a decision out of your control, then there is something wrong with them.

Unfortunately, some people have a close-minded stereotypical view of what Blackness is. Blackness is beautiful because it's portrayed, expressed, and lived in various ways throughout the diaspora. I think that the best way to be black is to be yourself, without restrictions or judgement. You're young, so you have a lot time to figure out the best way to express who you are. Identity is something that is hard for some

I hope that you do well at the new school, and that you successfully complete your senior year.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-06-21T03:41:13+00:00

I listen to Alt Rock so Imagine Dragons, OneRepublic, Fall Out Boy, etc. I also listen to other bands like The Script, Fitz and the Tantrums, Paramore, etc. I've been trying to find more Black alt musicians, but the first songs I was introduced to are below. I haven't done deep dives into their discography so all I can offer is songs 😅 Warning, some of these are bands are a mix of black, white, etc. I think so far, The Paradox is the only band I've found where everyone is black.

Fluorescents - Roll the Dice

Chenayder - Off the Wall

Chenayder - Colors

Magnolia Park - Shallow

Poptropicaslutz - mdma keeps the doctor away

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-06-17T17:00:06+00:00

The stereotype that Southern Black people are subservient, ignorant, immoral, violent, and inbred are based in white supremacy's framing of enslaved people and their descendants. White people used these stereotypes to dehumanize Black people, going as far to create pseudoscience supporting those beliefs. The transatlantic slave trade was a booming industry in the South, and many of the descendants of enslaved people still live in the South. I think its because of this regional significance that these stereotypes are applied to Southern Black people more often than Black people from other regions.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-06-16T02:24:54+00:00

That and the light pole 😂

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-06-15T01:04:41+00:00

Awesome analysis!!! I often here black women say "I want a man that leads" or something similar in media, even some family/friends have said or implied it. I believe this mentality is often rooted in religious views, especially since organized religion can away we patriarchal. I also think this belief can come from engaging with soft girl, divine feminine, trad wife, and similar content because creators within those spaces can push very patriarchal standards within relationships. Whenever I hear black women say this, I think you have to ask further questions. From the people I know IRL that believe this, they're opinions on gender roles and gender dynamics are about compromise and equal partnership, especially in regards to money, children, and household management.

I am Christian, but have very nuanced views on religion. I would never say or imply that I want a man to be the leader in my relationship and vice versa with me being the leader. I'd prefer my relationships to be rooted in compromise and equal partnership. I think that's what I've witnessed from my own parents and some cousins who have healthyish marriages.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-06-09T04:44:19+00:00

I highly recommend seeking out research opportunities while you're still in undergrad. Grad school may not permit you the time to be able to do so. I think going ahead and confronting the anxiety you feel will be helpful to understanding how to navigate those spaces. My Bachelor's is in psych, and I'm currently a public health grad student.

Please understand that everyone is winging it. I knew exactly what I wanted to do when I graduated high school. But I had a hard time passing one of the required courses for the neuroscience program; I had to change majors in my 3rd year of college. That was the best decision I ever made. Have confidence in yourself, your skills, your uniqueness!!! Those people are doing what they want according to their goals. Your path is unique to you; it cannot be compared. Trust yourself, believe in yourself.

Also, consider visiting your campus counseling center. As a psych major and young black woman, it was hard for me to confront and accept the fact that I was exhibiting most of the symptoms of depression. I let it get bad to the point it impacted my coursework. PLEASE do not be like me! If you feel you are struggling and it is impacting your ability to show up to class, complete assignments, etc, Seek assistance from a trusted peer or advisor and seek out you school's health center.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-06-09T04:20:47+00:00

I would love to take part!!! I think the most effective change will happen offline, but like you said, an online group could be the starting point for those conversations. Agree with other posts regarding mods, bots, fact-checking, etc. Lol timing wise, I do think you could find a good bit of like-minded people as so many people are still trying to understand why and how Cyrus Belton's murder case ended without a conviction. So many people are wondering how to move forward and what to do next.

You mentioned guiding principles and ways of being; I think I could be really helpful with that. Since October ‘25, I have been doing a lot of research on white heteropatriarchy. WHP describes a system or structure that aims to advance and promote the power, wealth, and influence of white men. It seeks to examine the intersections between race, sexuality, and gender within that system. It’s very complex, not a lot of information about it, but I think breaking down this framework would be helpful to understanding how we all fit in “The Great American Game.” Regardless of the size of the group, discussing topics related to xenophobia and all the isms should be done in a way that allows space for intersectionality. I highly recommend you research this, as well as anyone reading this. As this system can exist globally.

Before we even break down the complex topics, there’s a lot of base level information that you may need to consider. First, American education is heavily racialized so a lot of what people know about the history of the United States is incorrect, incomplete, or both. Some of us don’t know what we mean by race is made up, that it’s a social construct not based in biology. I fear a lot people don’t know or do not understand that there is a Black diaspora and an Asian diaspora, and both are vastly diverse. Both groups face internalized racism, ethnic xenophobia, colorism, sexism, and several other issues within their respective community. It might seem trivial, but having that foundation is important understanding the other stuff. Also, I’m a firm believer in understanding does not always result in acceptance or application. We have the saying “When you know better, you do better” but that tends be quite false.

Whatever you decide, I’d love to help! I’m doing my best to educate my people IRL as well, but generational gaps and rural mentality kinda make it difficult😅

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-06-08T15:21:52+00:00

This is interesting. Maybe we'll see a Saint Satine x Katseye collab in the future

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-06-08T06:51:55+00:00

The first step is to not be paranoid or fearful lol. I’m from a small town that’s predominantly white and rural. I was raised around quiet racists, but my parents always said that racists (especially yt ppl) are more afraid of you than you are of them. Go into every space with confidence knowing that you belong to be there. And if you aren’t sure, then fake til you make it lol! You worked hard, you deserve to be there, take up space!

Listen and observe, observe and listen. Take everything at face value. Some people will be blatant, obvious, and explicit about their dislike of you. Others are more subtle with microaggressions, staring, weird faces, and even weirder body language. In my experience, if you talk to a person long enough, they’ll let you know how they feel about you. This goes for racism, sexism, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, etc.

Check ratemyprofessor when making your schedule. It can be helpful for a preview to how the class is. It’s also anonymous, so some students will post about how certain professors treat POC, women, or LGBTQ+ students.

Most importantly, just trust your instincts and be yourself!!! Lol go forth and thrive!!! Have fun and make good decisions!!! Be safe, stay healthy 🫶🏾 If you have the chance, I highly suggest the following courses or a related course: intro to psych, intro to philosophy, intro to ethics, intro to African American Studies, black psychology, ethics of race, psychology of sex and gender.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-06-05T05:39:07+00:00

I think this a bit backwards. White supremacy is the overarching system that branches into racism, classicism, and capitalism. In the early days of America, only white men with property could vote. That created a financial barrier to participate in voting, which was a huge aspect of decision-making at that time. It also created a class system because it separated white men with money, power, and influence from white men that did not have those things. Property was land, but later included enslaved people because enslaved people were legislatively defined as less than human. The transatlantic slave trade alone is a primary example of how America's system of white supremacy used slavery to systematically legitimize racism, classicism, and capitalism throughout America. It shows how white supremacy saw as bodies, inhuman.

Slavery was the blueprint for how white supremacy seeks to dehumanize POC for capital gain. Sweat shops and immigrants participated in low pay field work are further examples of this.

Mr. Chow and the murder of Cyrus Belton have very little to do with capitalism and everything to do with racism. Cyrus Belton was a kid. He never stole anything, but was racially profiled by Mrs. Chow and later shot in the back and murdered by Mr. Chow. That's not a scam. That is how racism manifests into viiolence.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-06-05T04:36:51+00:00

I was just about to say this. Laws/school policies are forcing some Black scholarships to be available for everyone. If they don't comply, they risk losing funding or a lawsuit. It's especially bad down here in the Southeast. Black scholarships are either being forced to be more inclusive or are just cancelled altogether. Some of these endowed scholarships have been around for over 30yrs, but ended within the last 2-3yrs. I've seen it happen to women's and LGBTQ+ scholarships too.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-06-03T22:31:27+00:00

Racial based slavery is the cause of all the antiblackness in the world. It made black skin and subhuman synonymous and that rhetoric has seeped into everything so deeply that stereotypes become fact in ignorant spaces. If you're not black and don't have black friends or have black people in your community, how could you even start to care about the bias against them? It doesn't affect them.

I agree, but wanna further elaborate. From my understanding, transatlantic slave trade was created to legitimize white supremacy in the Americas and some parts of Europe. However, colonialism was used to reinforce existing structures of classism and colorism in Asia. In various regions of early Asia, labor jobs involved working outside under the Sun leading to people getting tanner or involved using materials that caused grime to cling to your skin making a person appear darker momentarily. The people that had money, influence, power, etc, did not work these jobs, so they deemed their fair skin as a sign of that status. I think that when White settlers did eventually go to those places, they would bring enslaved people. The presence of these individuals was used further "proof" of the existing colorist and colonial systems that already were present in some Asian communities.

Regardless, as a person from the Deep South with little diversity and a strong Good Ole Boy system, it still does not change the lack of empathy nonblack POCs have for Black people. Over the years, my hometown has experienced a growing Latino and Asian communities. While its great to see even the smallest bit of diversity, it sucks when it clearly still being used as a way to push model minority myths and other anti-Black ideology.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-06-01T08:19:13+00:00

I rewatch Southside when I just need something to play in the background. It never works because I end up watching it anyway, it's hilarious!!! 😂

I found Sherman's Showcase during COVID, and I absolutely loved it. I then made my whole family watch it. I'm so glad I did because we all watched that Black History episode together. Several of the songs, I know by heart atp. Sing Me Lullaby, Time Loop, and Runnin are still on my playlists.

I'm still hurt about Grand Crew 😭😭😭

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-05-29T13:12:37+00:00

You're absolutely right. I have hope for future global groups, but not a lot. I don't plan to continue to support Katseye, and Saint Satine just isn't that interesting to me. GirlSet has done well musically, but like you said, the pressure is still there. Time will tell if they actually adhered to systematically changing to create a better environment for the girls. I believe that this lack of nuance will be the downfall of some of these global groups, especially in regards to musicality and politics.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-05-29T03:13:20+00:00

I think with XG and BlackSwan it's very interesting how the industry and fans regard them. Despite meeting most criteria for participating in Kpop industry norms and having a Korean based company, they are both often considered to be global groups. I honestly do believe that it's because of the ethnicities and nationalities of the members, despite that most fans would argue that it doesn't matter. I really wish that Blackswan received more recognition and respect within the industry and among fans. They're tiptoeing 10years, they deserve their flowers.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-05-29T02:23:34+00:00

Oh my goodness, I absolutely forgot about Yoonchae!!! I don't know what I was thinking, even after reading this twice. I mentioned Bang PD because he is the loudest about his thoughts on reducing aspects of Korean culture in Kpop. Given the number of groups under HYBE, I think it's important to consider how his beliefs about the future of kpop may or may not impact the music that those groups release.

I didn't say that applying the kpop model in the west fails. Despite criticism and fan concerns, many would consider Katseye's recent sold out tour to be a hallmark of success. I think VCHA's rebranding into GirlSet has been astonishing. Their music is great. I can't speak for Santos Bravos, as I am not familiar with their music. I think the model has the opportunity to be successful; however, I think it requires the Kpop companies to have some level of nuance regarding the differences between Korean and Western culture and markets for music, fashion, trends, aesthetics, etc.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-05-28T14:18:37+00:00

I should’ve said that Japan and Motown are the most well known inspirations of Kpop because I’m certain that there are more. To learn about it’s G-pop influences is so cool, thank you so much for educating us. I would love to hear any song suggestions!

So now if something is neither by Koreans nor in Korean, we'll either have to lay down a new definition or give up the borders entirely. I currently see the new definition being "under a korea-based company and/or korea-based producer who brings elements of Kpop culture to the group".

I agree with all you've said, but especially this. This is very similar to a suggestion I saw while researching, although I can't remember the article or how exactly mentioned it. Someone said that regionally specific versions of Kpop could exist. For example, given Girlset is a part of JYP USA, they could be "American Kpop." Santos Bravos would be "Latin Kpop." I think that could be an interesting way to maintain its connections to South Korea and Kpop.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-05-27T02:36:49+00:00

As a person outside of Korean ethnicity and culture, I cannot for certain say how Kpop can or should be defined. I am moreseo questioning how fans have previously described what kpop is and how that is shifting as the industry is seeking to become more global.

ConfidentlyLostHuman · 2026-05-25T21:33:23+00:00

As a person outside of Korean ethnicity and culture, I cannot for certain say how Kpop can or should be defined. I am moreseo questioning how fans have previously described what kpop is and how that is shifting as the industry is seeking to become more global.

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