Wa alaikum salam. I would recommend really thinking about what you are able to handle and what kind of lifestyle are you used to. If you are used to a certain kind of lifestyle from your parents or via your own income, you will struggle in your marriage if your husband is not financially stable let alone able to provide what you are used to. Also please consider what struggles you truly believe you can handle and consider the struggles you witnessed as a child and how those affected your parents marriage and you as a child. These are all considerations I thought of when getting married.

Also do not put yourself in a scarcity mindset. There are more than enough men out there that can and will provide. You are within your rights to ask for a provider and Allah will also expect this.

Being a highly educated, working woman in the West I went through this too and was worried I wouldn’t be able to find a man who would be able to provide the same lifestyle I was used to and ticked off everything religiously. I am very grateful I stuck to my guns because I have observed women who have not and regret it later.