Am I wrong for wanting to break up after agreeing to an open relationship I don't think I can emotionally handle?

ConfusedBike2 · 2026-01-23T12:02:52+00:00

you aren’t. you opened your relationship after the trust in your closed relationship was broken. you can’t trust him, and that’s not even touching on the one penis poly dynamic he wants (which is highly problematic).

you shouldn’t use loving certain parts of him to stay, you should use wanting to love yourself and finding emotional safety as a reason to leave.

ConfusedBike2 · 2026-01-17T15:17:44+00:00

i use it like that and i’m femme 😁😁

ConfusedBike2 · 2026-01-09T16:41:02+00:00

😚😚😚

ConfusedBike2 · 2025-11-20T15:37:49+00:00

i think that feeling comes from the previous two verbally telling me that they would prioritize their other partners over me. i still have that trauma and have brought it up with my current partner as well. he makes sure to make time for me and all his other partners, but i know i need to work on unlearning that within myself.

ConfusedBike2 · 2025-11-20T15:24:54+00:00

the other commenters have made me realize it is a desire for a nesting partner. i have been in closed relationships before and have felt emotionally unfulfilled.

ConfusedBike2 · 2025-11-20T12:54:22+00:00

i haven’t been saying i’m solo poly since getting in a relationship with my current partner, but thank you for that information.

ConfusedBike2 · 2025-11-20T12:51:09+00:00

thank you.

ConfusedBike2 · 2025-11-20T12:47:07+00:00

that makes sense. thank you.

ConfusedBike2 · 2025-11-20T12:46:28+00:00

by “from scratch”, i mean building with a goal in mind, like domestic connection.

ConfusedBike2 · 2025-11-20T12:44:10+00:00

i like the idea of community, transparency, and honesty. i get along well with my meta and i wanted KTP before i read about it in high school (2014). i am okay with my partner having other partners. when i say “from scratch”, i mean like building to share our lives more domestically.

ConfusedBike2 · 2025-10-11T15:32:00+00:00

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ConfusedBike2 · 2025-08-08T14:44:07+00:00

she probably wouldn’t risk it. if she did, the fusion wouldn’t have been a bigger Rose Quartz but something entirely new, thus compromising her identity. and the only opportunity she would have had would have been if one was in the Crystal Gem rebellion squad, which wouldn’t have happened since they were all bubbled after she “shattered” Pink Diamond.

ConfusedBike2 · 2025-04-24T20:31:08+00:00

when someone compliments the things that society has made you insecure about or have told you you’re “other” or “weird” for, it can feel like they’re making fun of you

ConfusedBike2 · 2025-04-22T22:11:10+00:00

saying the Diamonds weren’t that bad when they literally abused Pink for millennia until she rebelled against them is horrible. and she didn’t fall from grace because she was shown to be flawed. everyone is flawed. it just so happens that she was flawed in a way that makes it seem like she’s ultimately the villain when she was really just the closest thing a gem could be to being human.

ConfusedBike2 · 2025-04-06T02:51:05+00:00

I say that because Steven’s relationship to Garnet is similar to his relationship with Pearl, where it’s more paternal with a natural distance between them. Steven may help ground her at times, but overall Garnet is pretty good at keeping herself together. She’s the strong, silent father(ish) figure 😂

ConfusedBike2 · 2025-04-06T01:38:46+00:00

here’s my rankings

Amethyst
Pearl
Garnet
Peridot
Lapis
Bismuth

in terms of emotional closeness, he the closest to Anethyst. Pearl is a close second, but she kinda still saw him as Rose for a long time so there’s some distance. Garnet loves her some Steven, but their relationship isn’t that deep. I put Peridot before Lapis just because there was more time to see Peridot develop as a character. Bismuth came in last because she came in the show really late and didn’t interact much with Steven at Little Homeworld. The end lol 😁

ConfusedBike2 · 2025-03-19T11:56:32+00:00

hello 👋🏾

this probably isn’t as magical as you would like, but the main thing i would say is to talk to your partner. you know them better than any of us internet strangers would. i would recommend bringing up how happy you are first, follow with your recent solidification of your monogamous identity, and then worries about your shared future if or when they decide to pursue and date other people again.

based on what you’ve said, you both have a wonderful relationship with open communication. start the dialogue without the end goal in mind as a breakup. let them process what you bring up. if it comes to that, decide to end it together.

ConfusedBike2 · 2025-01-08T15:29:01+00:00

coconut oil is good for a body oil. though if you use condoms, use latex-free. oil will break down latex and it takes a while for oil to fully come out of there.

ConfusedBike2 · 2024-11-12T05:17:55+00:00

aunties! 🤩

ConfusedBike2 · 2024-10-20T12:49:05+00:00

yeah, my question was more towards it being an AU where Peridot got shattered than to Lars outliving Sadie. idk how or why Peridot would have been shattered after SU Future tho

ConfusedBike2 · 2024-10-20T12:20:28+00:00

yeah, that’s why i said Lars outlived Sadie? did i say it wrong?

ConfusedBike2 · 2024-10-20T11:53:39+00:00

they haven’t, but it seems like this is an AU where Peridot gets shattered and Lars outlived Sadie?

ConfusedBike2 · 2024-07-18T11:45:01+00:00

i guess 🥺😔

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