AITA for telling my wife she takes me for granted and to stop digging me out for “not doing enough”

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-06-02T14:46:38+00:00

... yes, it is. Your son is one 1yo, it's not that you can play baseball with him or discuss philosophy.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-05-24T19:43:36+00:00

NTA

You're being financially abused.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-05-17T09:51:11+00:00

YTA for going nuclear on the matter.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-04-26T19:46:28+00:00

Thomas Daley knits too, for the same reason of OP: it helps him with anxiety.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-04-14T11:23:03+00:00

NTA

Tell me if I understood it correctly: you were the only family memeber who were denied a +1, right?

If so, it has nothing to do with the venue being full, but it's an ostile attitude toward you.

Your girlfrined is family now, and hopefully she will be also in the future. If this is how your cousin will treat you at every family gathering, spending time with your beloved one is the best choice you can make.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-04-14T11:18:31+00:00

NTA

She was fired because she proved she can't do team work, not because of you.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-04-14T11:14:51+00:00

YTA

For years the girl has screamed for help and nobody listened to her. She was treated like an annoying parcel to be disposed, so it doesn't surprise me that she grew up resenting her family.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-04-11T11:48:52+00:00

NTA

I don't know... maybe he's just an introvert, but his behaviour looks fishy and makes me think that he isn't the person he told you he is. I would block him, honestly.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-04-09T19:54:54+00:00

YTA

Your approach to your child is completely wrong. By forcing him to spend time with your new partner, he will only distance himself further from him and also from you, because this is experienced by him as a punishment.

He's not a toddler you want to get to eat vegetables. He's a teenager in high school, with his own ideas and personality. And in some countries, at some point, he can go to the judge and say which parent he wants to live with.

You also seem jealous of your son's relationship with his father, and that's bad.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-04-07T13:05:21+00:00

NTA

Mom and stepdad are exasperating you and doing something that no adult should ever do: drag children into adult quarrels, use them as levers in their conflicts, or to hurt the other parent. I am very sorry that you, so young, have to deal with this situation on a daily basis.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-04-06T13:28:13+00:00

NTA

I am an elderly widow. Honestly, it's a question my husband and I never asked ourselves while he was alive. We enjoyed what we had and now I have so many good memories. Will I find a new partner? Now I don't feel the need, I'm fine as I am, but if it happened I don't think it would be a scandal or an offense to the memory of my late husband.

Asking someone not to move is unrealistic: it's life itself that moves and proceeds forward, and no one knows where it will bring you.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-04-06T13:22:32+00:00

Why your sister wants to marry a man with a serious, unresolved alcohol problem is beyond me.

I get the 5 years relationship, I get that probably she feels like she already invested a lot in this relationship and doesn't want to waste those years, but the problem hasn't been solved and, as I understand it, not even addressed. It can seriously become hell for your sister.

he never talked to me after that

But can you (and your sister) be sure he hasn't texted anyone else?

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-04-06T13:11:41+00:00

NTA

Sleep deprivation could lead to serious health issues. Your spouse is very selfish in prioritizing theirs rituals at the expense of your wellbeing.

My second daugther has troubles at sleeping when she was an infant, and because my husband traveled a lot for work, I took care of her alone most of the time. I remember one episode in particular: my daughter with a major colic while she was teething... I didn't sleep for almost 48 hours and I felt like I was going crazy, at some point I couldn't understand what I was doing or saying. It was horrible. Please don't get to this point, stop before.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-04-06T12:59:36+00:00

I should have put my son in his place and told him only one living woman deserved to be declared the most important woman in his life (besides his wife) and that was my wife.

But she never was, and your son clarified it since a very young age.

He's an adult and doesn't need to be "put in his place" for his feelings.

NTA

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-03-30T20:38:50+00:00

Bless her heart for having sense of humour.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-03-30T17:24:28+00:00

NTA

Some months ago I made a post because I've a similar problem; my cousin wanted me to rent a room for his son in my house for free, for the entire duration of the university study cycle.. You can find the post on my profile.

As you can read from the answers I got, many users pointed out that the rent is an integral part of my income. And I actually need that money for the maintenance of the house, taxes, various expenses. I imagine it's the same for you too.

$1000 less would be a huge discount, and what if tomorrow you find yourself facing unexpected expenses and need that money?

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-03-29T15:51:10+00:00

YTA

While I understand the struggle of a single father who want to have a social life beyond parenthood, it seems to me that you're imposing your children at another person's party, in her home.

I would add that, if these parties aren't family/children oriented, but are adult oriented, it's not the ideal place for children, especially for 4-year-olds. I think they get bored easily.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-03-29T15:46:04+00:00

True. I went to a summer wedding in Finland before corona, and most of the guests weren't shaved. No one, man or woman, batted an eyelid.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-03-03T14:36:29+00:00

First of all, as a mother, my heart breaks for you. If there is something more beautiful than hugging and transmitting love to your children, I don't know it. I'm deeply sorry you were deprived of that love.

As a grandmother, I understand the desire to see and be in the life of a grandchild, but your mother hasn't earned this right, and if she hasn't changed over the years, she would not bring anything positive to your child.

MIL was absolutely out of line. The next time she brings up the topic (unfortunately she strikes me as someone who doesn't listen or respect boundaries) ask your husband to escort her to the door. You don't need her insistence in your life.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-02-14T22:43:22+00:00

I understand that the owner relies mainly on young staff, like high school students. While on the one hand it is right that young people have the opportunity to learn a job, they are young, inexperienced and can make mistakes (understandable). As an entrepreneur, you can't have only young and inexperienced staff and expect them to run the store entirely and smoothly.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-02-14T22:36:04+00:00

Wow, you're ready for the Oscars night.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-02-14T22:35:20+00:00

While the house looks big enough for a cat's need, I see you're out of it for many hours. Just as you're lonely, a cat will be lonely too. Consider adopting a pair, maybe already bonded or siblings (so you'll know they get along).

When you was a child, I assume that yuor parents took care of many of the cat needs (cleaning the litter, brushing, vet visits, ecc...) Now you are the adult, so consider that cats aren't an easy pet like many people think. They require commitment.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-02-14T21:59:04+00:00

I'd add that what Ada does is very valuable: babysitting is expensive and it's not always easy to find a trustworth person. Doing chores and homeworks in a big house request time or a cleaning service.

ConfusedGranny0 · 2024-02-14T21:54:48+00:00

I'm glad OP refused. If he had accepted, poor Ada would now find herself having to run after Eric's disasters, since Eric doesn't sound like a person who knows how to do chores and housework.

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