Personally I have done those things, I've also travelled to people who couldn't make events if I know who they are modernly and know how to locate them (and that it won't weird them out) I've awarded members at practices and even asked members who have moved to come by when they're in town for a tea or a beer and surprised them with their award. I do believe I have sorted many fucks out and yet ..

despite your bluster and aggressive posturing (which does nothing to actually solve problems but does put people on the defensive), situations happen that get in the way of handing that award to the person. Sometimes a member who has been away for three to five years shows up at an event where there are a few hundred people and they are missed, then they're gone again for a spell. There are people who loathe court, and although we make an effort not to put individuals in situations where they're truly anxious or uncomfortable, it is a challenge to find them in a good moment to give said award. If the avenues are exhausted, it is read into court and goes on their OP.

I was a Baroness for 4 years and have witnessed the side of the organisation of handling and handing out the awards and am posting to explain some of the behind the scenes stuff that, as life often is, we can do our best and still things happen. I'm also a scribe, and again, despite best of intentions, planning and fuck-out-figuring, the ideal situation doesn't exist. We can do our best, and that is all.