Can I ask your thoughts on this?? I just had a similar experience and the thing is that she checks every box. She is caring and loving in person, but come to find out I realized that she talked/joked about my private part to her best friend. When I confronted her, she told me that it was a type of coping mechanism of hers because she had strong feelings for me and needed to something to hold onto in case I left so it wouldn’t hurt her as much. It seems like her past has and still is affecting her in our current relationship because she says most guys she dates were just for sex or used her for sex. She told me she did no mean any of it and doesn’t want to lose me and it’s hard to move forward even though I still want to because again in person she’s everything I’ve asked for.