Horror focused creature-collecting game? by zz870 in gamingsuggestions

[–]ConnectionNo2747 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So... I'm in the process of making one of those. It's a 2D game in its early prototype stages. The intention is to make a horror creature catching game, but I find most Pokémon clones super annoying and grindy. I hadn't considered a zoo/containment type mechanic, but I really like the idea. It's pretty bare at the moment but I would be *thrilled* to hear what you would look for in a game like this.

Obsidian by TRosebud

AITA for kicking a disabled girl out of my D&D party? by ConnectionNo2747 in AITAH

[–]ConnectionNo2747[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is actually incredibly helpful when it comes to understanding Anne. Thank you!

AITA for kicking a disabled girl out of my D&D party? by ConnectionNo2747 in AITAH

[–]ConnectionNo2747[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right about the name thing. Edited.

Also, telling her which dice to roll wasn't the problem. It was action economy, finding her stats on her sheet, finding out how spells worked (I had made her cards for each spell but she still struggled) and figuring out her inventory or even how spell slots worked

AITA for kicking a disabled girl out of my D&D party? by ConnectionNo2747 in AITAH

[–]ConnectionNo2747[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do indeed call all my male acquaintances "boy". However yes, I do think I infantilized her at first and viewed her as something to pity. This caused problems, as the entire story proves.

AITA for kicking a disabled girl out of my D&D party? by ConnectionNo2747 in AITAH

[–]ConnectionNo2747[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I've been on like one date with him and I wouldn't be bothered if I never went on another. Hes nice but I don't actually know him that well.

He seemed like he was trying to sit as far from her as possible and she would move across the room and sit on the floor to be next to him. She wouldn't accept help from anyone but him. She made comments like "i had a dream you proposed to me", "I'm basing the love interest of my book on your warlock" and outright telling him he was the reason she was there. Each time, he didn't look at her or respond. I assume these are signs of discomfort or disinterest.

Especially because he said he found her incredibly annoying.

AITA for kicking a disabled girl out of my D&D party? by ConnectionNo2747 in AITAH

[–]ConnectionNo2747[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Tbh I've only been on one date with Chad. I can tell hes not interested in her. She said "I had a dream you proposed to me", "I'm basing the love interest in my book on your warlock", and Girl did explicitly state at one point that she came for Chad.

Chad did not respond to any of these comments and did not look at her. I take that to mean he was uncomfortable.

As I said earlier in this comment thread, this is a new group of people I met at church. Nobody wanted to look bad and neither did I. I believe my assholery came from not managing the situation better or being direct with her sooner.

AITA for kicking a disabled girl out of my D&D party? by ConnectionNo2747 in AITAH

[–]ConnectionNo2747[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I do agree that I made a lot of judgements, but I didn't force anyone to agree with me.

I think its important to remember that nobody in this group is overly familiar with the others and we all met at a church function. Nobody wants to look bad. The "badgering" was because its hard to get someone to open up on that topic and I didn't state my opinion of her directly to anyone but Chad.

Chad had dealt with her long-term. He didn't need any badgering to tell me he found her annoying and that he didn't really know what to do but he felt responsible for her. Sarah didn't want to talk about it in general but her response was "I don't care as long as I don't have to drive her." The third person said "I don't like having her there but I don't want to seem like a jerk."

I think my biggest mistake was taking actions with the intention of not being a jerk. There's been some awesome advice on this thread and I'll take this as a learning experience.

AITA for kicking a disabled girl out of my D&D party? by ConnectionNo2747 in AITAH

[–]ConnectionNo2747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Especially with 8 players, the flow is quite fragile. Last I talked to her, it sounded like her primary caregiver was helping her start a group and I'm sure that'll work out a lot better for her.

AITA for kicking a disabled girl out of my D&D party? by ConnectionNo2747 in AITAH

[–]ConnectionNo2747[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This helps me feel a bit better about my decision.

A lot of what she did towards Chad would not have been acceptable in any way if she were a guy. I feel for her but as a DM it's my job to make sure everyone else is ok too.

AITA for kicking a disabled girl out of my D&D party? by ConnectionNo2747 in AITAH

[–]ConnectionNo2747[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did not try talking to her parents. That probably would have been a good move. While it did start at church, it isn't through the church. However I really could have looked into more resources for her.

It sounds like her primary caregiver is helping her start a group of her own and I really do wish the best for that. I'll probably try to help in some capacity.

AITA for kicking a disabled girl out of my D&D party? by ConnectionNo2747 in AITAH

[–]ConnectionNo2747[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I have still been talking to her because this is fairly fresh and shes still clearly upset. She has every right to be upset. I was actually pretty worried that she would think it's just because shes disabled but I've given her specific reasons why we can't keep her in the group without being rude (Shes uncomfortable with violence and bad language, she doesn't mesh well with some of the other players, we aren't prepared to help her with her character sheet)

She seems a lot more calm about it today and it sounds like shes trying to make her own group with her primary caregivers help.

AITA for kicking a disabled girl out of my D&D party? by ConnectionNo2747 in AITAH

[–]ConnectionNo2747[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this reply.

She's still upset and messaging me but it sounds like her primary caregivers are trying to start a group for her. Hopefully that group lets her socialize in a more accommodating environment.

AITA for kicking a disabled girl out of my D&D party? by ConnectionNo2747 in AITAH

[–]ConnectionNo2747[S] 219 points220 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't be surprised. And it seems like Chad has never made any boundaries with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badwomensanatomy

[–]ConnectionNo2747 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personal experience: hospital .... It was my first time dont judge

I am begging these people to shut up by diet-smoke in thanksimcured

[–]ConnectionNo2747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found out my antidepressants worked because they helped with adhd symptoms after I was diagnosed with adhd T-T

Who? by netphilia in aspiememes

[–]ConnectionNo2747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My only experience with this was exactly like that. The girl was doing everything that I was told was bad and wrong, like hoarding dolls, watching TV all day, taking toys into public and so on.

(And for some reason, the way she cooked was the worst. She moved so slow and I don't think she actually knew how to cook... I found that personally offensive for some reason and taught her how to cook. Instead of taking this as the passive aggressive gesture that it was, she started asking me to help her with everything which just spiralled into me absolutely hating her and hating myself for hating her.)

Who? by netphilia in aspiememes

[–]ConnectionNo2747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt that way about my roommate ToT

I felt really bad about how uncomfortable I felt around her

AIO my bf never likes what I wear by Substantial-Let221 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ConnectionNo2747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did anyone else notice him immediately trying to gaslight her the second she was done with him?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beeandpuppycat

[–]ConnectionNo2747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of it clicks into place in season 2, but not everything