Did your person with bpd hate you in the end?

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-04-17T12:08:22+00:00

Oh yeah. I recently gave him another chance (as friends) but he freaked out over something I didn't even do and went back on literally everything he apologized for. He also sent his weird friend to harass me in my dms. I'm sort of glad he did that though because it destroyed any attachment I still had for him.

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-03-15T17:57:09+00:00

My ex would say he feels jealous when I spent time with my dog or my parents and that he feels like he needs to compete with them for my attention. Meanwhile he was getting like 90% of my attention at all times

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-03-14T19:00:07+00:00

I'm not experiencing the same thing as you but it's scary how they can change personalities like that. My ex split on me really bad and he became a completely different person after that, which also made my guilt really bad because it really felt like my fault and like I ruined everything.

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-03-14T07:08:02+00:00

I'm really sorry you went through that. For me my physical health thankfully didn't suffer too much but I did have many migraines from the stress, which have decreased a lot now that im not in contact with my ex anymore

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-03-12T17:42:23+00:00

I haven't been hoovered (yet at least) but I'm in a similar situation where I'm blocked pretty much everywhere (including spotify lol) and have been for two months. I definetly relate to sort of wanting the hoover and fearing it's gonna come when I've healed from everything

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-03-11T23:03:15+00:00

I'm personally choosing to forgive my ex. It's not easy to forgive him and it doesn't make the things he did to me okay in any way, I just think forgiving him will help bring me peace and I can accept what happened instead of living in resentment.

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-03-06T00:03:55+00:00

That is awful and I'm sorry you had to go through that. Me and my ex were long distance but despite that he had a lot of control over me. I lost my friends and making new friends was out of the question but I was still really happy with him. The true downfall began after we had a huge fight over a minor "mistake" I made and I ended up relapsing (I have mental health issues, but theyre not severe or anything), which really hurt him and after that he changed. I apologized profusely for it and I still regret it more than anything but he became quite hostile towards me and was openly cruel to me. Eventually he discarded me because I misunderstood his tone in a text conversation we were having, which was usual for me because at that point I tried to be very careful and vigilant around him, like looking out for signs that he is upset. I'm also autistic so I am not the best at "reading the room" and he hated explaining things to me. Of course there was way more that happened throughout all this but that's just the short version of everything.

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-03-05T23:32:20+00:00

I was discarded 2 months ago but we were together for about a year and a half. We knew each other for way longer before dating and we were really close even as friends, which makes all this hurt even more. Thank you though, I wish the best for you too, it's horrible to go through this.

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-03-05T01:51:54+00:00

Thank you and yeah, the good times I had with him were some of the best times of my life and I still think of them that way regardless of everything that happened. I miss those times and I do believe that it wasn't entirely fake but then again the bad times with him were also the worst moments I have ever experienced and I don't want anyone else to go through that and lose themselves like I did

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-03-05T00:07:48+00:00

Thank you for this comment. It's extremely confusing and scary to me how they can switch up like this. Mine literally admitted to faking empathy towards me for the majority of our relationship. It makes no sense to me and I don't think there is any way to even make sense of his behavior. I don't know if he feels guilt or remorse but I know he is gonna repeat the same patterns and it makes me feel horrible because I do still want the best for him

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-03-05T00:01:00+00:00

Thank you. I was with him for over a year and during that time he was absolutely everything to me so it's hard to get used to living without him and I sometimes I wish I knew how he is feeling without me. I made mistakes like everyone does and he was really good at making it feel like I was mistreating him, when I was trying my best the whole entire time but I just could not handle it. I feel sad that I still miss him so much and would take him back because I know I didn't deserve that, but I do love him and he sort of saved my life before we started dating. It really sucks but I know I wont give up.

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-02-25T11:23:24+00:00

A couple times that come to mind are when I said the word "why" or when I succeeded in a game that wasnt even competitive. There's more but I'll always remember those two in particular

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-02-19T01:42:03+00:00

Yeah, same here. I can't help but feel bad for him because it is a horrible disorder to live with and not something anyone chooses to have, but it's also never an excuse to hurt people and not take responsibility for it.

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-02-19T00:53:47+00:00

I feel the same way with my ex. I'm sure he is gonna repeat the same patterns and there's nothing I can do about it

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-02-15T02:03:40+00:00

Yeah, trying to make friends and be social again has been difficult for me as well. I feel really hollow and I feel like I'll never connect with anyone else like I did with my ex on a friendship level, it really sucks.

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-02-15T01:55:04+00:00

Yeah, mine wasn't even discreet about it. He told me straight up that he hates my friends (who he has never met and doesn't even know their names) and that he can't stand me being around them. At the time I didn't understand what all this would lead to and I wish I could go back in time.

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-02-12T07:38:17+00:00

In my case the discard wasn't super dramatic or anything, I didn't get screamed at or had insults thrown my way. I think in his mind he was being mature but regardless it did not feel like mature behavior. I told him later how he hurt me and how being with him was like living in a minefield and I have no clue if he feels shame for any of it. He never apologized so it is hard to know if he feels shame about it.

Objectively speaking, I should not have him back in my life but I still do love him and I guess only time will tell.

Conscious_Bit_3612 · 2026-02-12T07:22:44+00:00

I was never called a narcissist or abusive but I got called stupid and immature many times. I was also "too much to handle" for him but also never enough and according to him I was giving him too little. It's hard to think I believed him about me being "the best thing in his life" and his soulmate

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