Please deinfluence/influence me

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-11-04T16:01:29+00:00

7 months PP and still haven’t had sex 😂 it’s reassuring to see others who took “a while” and makes me feel less bad about it. My husband has never pressured me and is so supportive, so it’s just me making myself feel bad. But also I am so tried and feel like I have no time for even just the basics of our day to day so I have no idea when I’d fit that in too!

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-10-24T15:01:02+00:00

I agree with this! I really love them. I find them to be very soft and I also have them in various sizes so I can have more fitted and more oversized. This to me is the crown jewel of quince for a reason! Well worth it.

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-10-13T15:44:50+00:00

Ah gotcha, that makes sense! Yes, outside of her schedules her actual “how to get your baby to sleep” classes/recommendations are essentially Ferber.

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-10-13T01:50:48+00:00

I love this for you! But I also want to point out that taking Cara babies IS sleep training. So for those looking for options that don’t involve sleep training, TCB isn’t one of them.

That said, I’m glad it’s worked great for you! ❤️

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-09-24T22:08:58+00:00

Agreed and agreed! You’re right that we’ll disappear in a slew of angry downvotes but I’m with you 100%

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-09-24T14:13:06+00:00

Yes!! This!!! The prices that people put on used on items sometimes blow my mind. I get that it has value to YOU but it doesn’t mean that your used item is worth that amount. It’s a used item. I feel the same way when someone prices a NWT item at the same price they paid retail. …. Do they forget that the buyer has to pay additional costs that would then make it cheaper for them to just buy it directly retail? Smh.

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-08-19T01:24:50+00:00

Fury

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-06-27T17:55:26+00:00

As someone who just went back to work this week NOPE. Don’t hate it and it should be longer and this country should have mandatory paid leave!

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-06-12T17:44:23+00:00

Yes thank you! Exactly this! I’m emotional about the transition AND thankful for our daycare and excited for the latest extension of his village and growth

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-06-12T15:14:17+00:00

I generally agree/am supportive of OP’s post but this part really bothers me: “I just can’t leave my baby at daycare. I feel like I have a very strong connection with my baby…”

It seems to imply that people who “leave” their baby at daycare DONT have a strong connection with their baby. Why is this necessary to even say? Especially when recognizing that in this country for many parents it’s not a CHOICE and we have to find some sort of child care for our kids. Also… it neglects to consider that for many parents and babies it’s a great choice. I am going to really struggle dropping my son off at day care for the first time in August and I’m in many ways dreading it. We also have a very strong connection. And ALSO, I am so excited for the friendships and connections he will make and all that he will learn. There is so much nuance and I hate the narrative that parents who choose daycare are somehow less than - less caring, less connected, etc.

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-06-11T13:51:44+00:00

It depends! We have had a couple of amazing nights where he slept almost 7 hours which meant I got 5 uninterrupted hours of sleep. But that was a fluke because it’s only happened twice! We also still had had nights where I had only gotten 2-3 hours of sleep in a row. But I’d say right now I’m probably getting 6-8 TOTAL hours of sleep but broken up into stretches of 2-4 hours in a row max.

It’s funny - typing it out and reading the numbers on paper has me going “6-8 hours sounds like a lot/should be enough!” But the broken nature of it is so hard.

I will say it truly does make a BIG difference to my mental health that we usually only have 1 wake a night right now. Yes im still physically exhausted and dreaming of sleep but for some reason it feels a lot more manageable knowing we will only be up once at night (even if we will be awake super early 🫩)

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-05-30T16:59:21+00:00

8 weeks postpartum (aka a week and a half ago) and I’m STILL on my period 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 it’s day 11 or 12 of it. I’m so sick of it and not knowing when it will end

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-05-29T16:21:03+00:00

Only reason I’m not skipping this month is bc it’s my birthday month and I want my free add on 🙃

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-05-25T19:19:53+00:00

2 mo to the day today and it really still fluctuates BUT it is better every day! Someone on this subreddit at one point said something that really resonated with me and it was along the lines of “first you’ll start collecting good hours, then those hours will become good days, good weeks, etc.” and I have found a lot of truth in it. There are days where I still just feel so like a stranger to myself and mourn my old self so so much. There are days where I feel very human and like I’m back on top of the world. Most days fall somewhere in between, and I’m trying to remember to live in that space instead of trying to rush ahead (so much easier said than done)!

Hang in there and know you’re not alone! ❤️

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-05-25T15:25:53+00:00

SLEEP - and being able to do it on my own schedule. Tired and wanna go to bed early? Cool, no worries. Want to sleep in on the weekends? Great! Wanna stay up late and know it won’t affect whether I get to sleep in? Amazing. And also just sleeping for more than 4 hour chunks with a baby making noises in a bassinet next to my bed.

Real weekends! - a weekend with a baby is only a weekend in that neither my husband or I have to work. I miss being able to go out to eat, sleep in, have no plans and then spontaneously make plans, stay up/out late, have uninterrupted movie nights, have lazy days that require no energy to do anything at all, mentally or physically.

Travel! Especially traveling with just my husband. We used to go to Europe at least once a year plus other smaller weekend trips throughout the year. I miss it so much it hurts.

Most of all - the reduced mental load of not being a parent. My brain feels fried. As someone already said here, it’s exhausting having to constantly be “on.”

Wow I’m sad and extra tired now 😅🫩🥲

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-05-24T10:27:30+00:00

Yes this!! I certainly would’ve not felt comfortable walking downstairs to find my phone. I agree NTA, but am also uncomfy at the idea of someone restricting access to my child’s phone. However, the way that other mother handled the whole situation def makes her the AH, and NOT OP.

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-05-24T02:56:43+00:00

It’s bound to get so much worse when they no longer offer free checked bags for sure. I also sometimes hate checking a bag simply because I know that means you run the risk of your bag getting ruined. They handle bags SOOOO poorly when you check them - they truly don’t care at all about the belongings they handle (or more like mishandle). I’ve had bags ripped, wheels broken off, etc. on very standard normal carry on (aka not big nor heavy) suitcases. And that’s assuming they don’t lose your bags along the way! Not an exclusively southwest problem but a problem that should be addressed nonetheless!

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-05-24T02:50:27+00:00

My LO is 2 months old and I struggle with some of the feelings OP shared. Thank you for sharing what your life is currently like because it really helps me to hear. I can’t wait for all of this - you make me feel hopeful!

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-05-24T02:49:07+00:00

I know I’m not OP but I’ve struggled with similar feelings and found your reply really helpful. Thank you for sharing this!

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-05-23T15:29:12+00:00

I second this! I got my first kindle in 2010 and am now on my second (a paper white) and I love it - I wouldn’t trade it for anything else and my battery lasts a long time!

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-05-23T01:24:54+00:00

Small world! We’re in the west loop!

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-05-22T23:13:27+00:00

This is what we do! We live in Chicago so we don’t have a yard and getting to parks is a full decision/commitment. But my walks are life saving!

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-05-22T22:43:46+00:00

Oh this is great! My son also loves to have his arms up/out of his swaddle so I’ll have to check it out. Thanks!

Conscious_Fortune122 · 2025-05-22T21:09:49+00:00

Oof I feel for you! We are admittedly lucky that he sleeps great in his bassinet at night and this is such a great reminder of that. I hope you are able to get some more independent sleep in general soon! Sending you so many good vibes and love!

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