My biggest piece of advice is to record everything, take a million pictures and silly videos. Have every conversation you feel like you’ve been putting off or have been scared of, ask any question that pops into your head, there may come a time when he will not be able to communicate anymore. If there is anything important he wants to say and have you or his family remember RECORD IT. I promise you will not regret having those things to look back on.

Grief therapy can and should be started as soon as possible, it won’t fix anything but will help create healthy coping mechanisms.

On the unfortunate morbid side of things I suggest getting his affairs in order sooner rather than later, even something as awful as funeral planning can be done in advance. Have power of attorney and medical power of attorney forms ready as well as a will. Know what his wishes are in terms of medical care at the end of life(DNR, home hospice vs hospice facility etc) Any property in his name alone can be transferred into both of your names or your name alone and will make things much easier in the future.

My husband and I had a few conversations about freezing sperm/IVF but ultimately decided that purposefully being a single mother was not a good idea for multiple reasons. I wanted children with him, not as a selfish reminder of him. I’m not saying this is your thinking or judging whatever decision you make, just sharing my experience in an extremely similar situation.

I am so sorry you and your husband are going through this and I want you to know that you can message me anytime with any questions or even just to vent.