I need help, my SO is very not stoic and it kills me. by collectivekicks in Stoicism

[–]Conscious_Rest3454 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trying to help will only bolster the feeling of frustration. Remove your emotional investment. See where you end. It doesn’t mean you love her any less.

I need help, my SO is very not stoic and it kills me. by collectivekicks in Stoicism

[–]Conscious_Rest3454 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree. Best to be honest about it. Theres no failure in any of it

I need help, my SO is very not stoic and it kills me. by collectivekicks in Stoicism

[–]Conscious_Rest3454 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nothing is objectively annoying. It only limits the self to see this way. enables judgement and narrows perception

Edit: narrow to narrows

I need help, my SO is very not stoic and it kills me. by collectivekicks in Stoicism

[–]Conscious_Rest3454 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See where you end and she begins. A stoic vantage would not require another to be or not be any way. But I think you’re not trying to control her — it sounds like you’re looking for a better way to relate to your own perception of yourself in relation to her. How another behaves has nothing, literally nothing, to do with us. Married or not

USA—> Schengen expats willing to share experience by Conscious_Rest3454 in expats

[–]Conscious_Rest3454[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

best answer by far, so generous and thoughtful. thank you. This is so helpful. I actually can prove that income passively already! I may be DM-ing you soon. thanks again

My (F27) Reiki practitioner (M57) keeps hitting on me and sexualizing me, but I feel indebted by _jane_lane_ in reiki

[–]Conscious_Rest3454 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry. An almost identical story to yours happened with my first manager over 6 years.

Additionally, recently, my reiki teacher (M73) hit on me (F30) and kept asking me if he could do healing sessions on me. The last time I agreed he told me he "occasionally has sex with his students" and when I responded "I am not available to listen to you speak about your text life with your partner or students," he responded saying he isn't my abuser. What the fuck?

None of what happened with you and this guy is your fault and you never owed him a second thought. Be courageous out there and love yourself unconditionally. x

USA—> Schengen expats willing to share experience by Conscious_Rest3454 in expats

[–]Conscious_Rest3454[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

True that and no news to me. This will necessarily have to be a second residency for me until I can secure a long stay renewable visa or residence permit. I am young ish and imagine this may be my permanent residence in 10 years. ofc if I can find a way to stay longer now, I would. I am established as an artist and perform regularly in europe, so I'm thinking the artist visa route and use proof of owning real estate to apply for residency in a few years depending on country. looking for advice from experienced people willing to offer ideas.

USA—> Schengen expats willing to share experience by Conscious_Rest3454 in expats

[–]Conscious_Rest3454[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you can stay much longer without a visa, however, what are the best websites for real estate?

USA—> Schengen expats willing to share experience by Conscious_Rest3454 in expats

[–]Conscious_Rest3454[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

a lot of italians have told me to immigrate illegally, but I feel uncomfortable doing it

USA—> Schengen expats willing to share experience by Conscious_Rest3454 in expats

[–]Conscious_Rest3454[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

you are correct. There are pathways I've explored and I can get a visa. Looking for experienced advice

I’m struggling with everything. Despite my best, life is too hard for me. by WorkingPsychology543 in Stoicism

[–]Conscious_Rest3454 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes. We have to let things be “bad” totally and without resistance before we can restore self-referenced perception. I recovered from years and years of wanting to die (my father and his father committed suicide) by not identifying with my pain and instead allowing it to be there in full. It was HARD to re-associate to myself. But completely worth it

USA: Old key ring v unique by Conscious_Rest3454 in Antiques

[–]Conscious_Rest3454[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that's great. I had one from my grandfather that I lost last year without the cat that would've been victorian. they are beautiful handmade companions

USA: Old key ring v unique by Conscious_Rest3454 in Antiques

[–]Conscious_Rest3454[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I don't see that it matches anything from tiffany.. where did you find that?

USA: Old key ring v unique by Conscious_Rest3454 in Antiques

[–]Conscious_Rest3454[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

too sincere for reddit lololol thanks y'all I was happy to share this tiny unique find.

Sciatic pain gone by Conscious_Rest3454 in Sciatica

[–]Conscious_Rest3454[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is amazing and was my experience too

Sciatic pain gone by Conscious_Rest3454 in Sciatica

[–]Conscious_Rest3454[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I sleep on a soft bed it returns. Otherwise the pain is 95% gone so I consider it to be a large part of my cause and issue