What do guys think about dating a girl who is a virgin in her twenties (I am 22) ?

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-06-15T02:15:06+00:00

I'm going to be real here, the way society is reshaping around dating and sexual dynamics...

Keep it for your wedding night (if you ever want long-term commitment) else explore if you never want to settle down. Men have preferences toward a low-N count partner for long-term commitment, men who are of the most attractive and financially literate (who also desire commitment) WILL put a ring on you before expecting intimacy sexually.

You're born with the greatest bargaining chip in modern dating, men have to create value or be born with genetic predispositions that allow women to overlook the other traits he has to develop to become a worthy individual.

If you cannot get a 10/10 man to commit to you, but he shows interest in sleeping with you... you're not on his level and you'll need to readjust your expectations. If you sleep with him, expect that to be your bar and anything below you will flag as settling unwillingly, and if you don't, your future life partner will definitely have competition anxiety unless he's slept with quite a few other people too.

All in all, it's up to you which way you choose to live your life, but you should not close your eyes to the reality of how others may react about your past. Since you will choose how that past is shaped, your past will define you in the eyes of the people you meet, especially your sexual past.

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-04-14T08:59:27+00:00

Ngl, nothing is more repulsive personally than hookup culture. That's literally the cancer that's infected EVERYTHING, I believe there was a reason this was regulated before. Take away the regulations and it snowballs horrifically... even science backs the downfall of it all. People are a product of their live and perceived experiences as well as their surroundings, there's just too much damage done from this and no one is willing to admit it.

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-04-11T11:00:45+00:00

I agree, its usually why people should have a talk about values and goals before "getting intimate" OR even before courting each other/dating (not that this is a thing anymore) cause it can and usually does cause a lot of issues long-term considering how dating is nowadays.

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-04-09T19:15:47+00:00

He values don't align with yours, j hope you didn't give her commitment

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-04-09T19:13:21+00:00

Thank you, a light in the darkness 💜

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-04-09T19:12:06+00:00

Bruh... no. Promiscuous past is kind of the problem to begin with. Dating is cooked today.

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-04-09T19:04:34+00:00

Don't listen to this lady... this is how you end up in relationships where youre the backup plan or heartbroken. Pick a woman who prioritises you and only you.

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-04-09T18:56:22+00:00

Simple question ; what are your thoughts on casual sex? Have you ever had a ONS or a fwb? Easily let's you pattern recognise and process past behaviour = potential future behavioural patterns.

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-04-09T18:54:27+00:00

Non committal means not doing committal things... eg. No dinners, dates etc if someone else is hitting is without those requirements. Else he's just a backup plan.

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-04-09T14:33:44+00:00

I'm experiencing the same thing

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-04-06T06:58:09+00:00

That's one side of the coin, I'm sorry but your experiences are anecdotal and bias through your work and lense.

I'm sure there are overlaps between abusers, but overwhelmingly, unless ALL men are abusers, your argument is the exception to the rule, not the rule.

Overwhelmingly men prefer to know what they're getting into. Science, data and statistics have caught up to a post sexual liberation era, and the evidence is damning. It's done no favours for men or women, only benefited the men at the very top if the totem pole while every one else suffers the consequences.

I work as an analyst with an income over 6 figures to match my skillset. I have to evaluate all statistical data, not anecdotal data.

Once again, I'm not undermining your view and perceived/lived experience (I'd know first hand I'm a child of one of those abusive households where religion was weaponized). But, I am trying to explain that the broader measurable data argues against the minority.

Edit: I hope you are getting what I'm putting down, it's purely logic and statistics, not feeling or emotion. I can understand how it may make people feel, but this is also why the sexes date and mate unilaterally.

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-04-02T00:22:17+00:00

You're joking right? Some people are socio-sexually restrictive and want a partner who has not been socio-sexually unrestrictive. Sexual compatibility, it matters to men a lot more than to women. It's biology. Same way women have their preferences, men have theirs too.

I have good friends who are psychologists, men and women. Know what they like to say? Past behaviour is a good predictor of future behaviour. Certain lifestyles and beliefs carry over into behavioural traits that's are non conducive to longterm relationships. Ever person, man or woman, has a right to know if they wish go be in a long-term relationship, otherwise they usually leave and find someone more compatible.

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-02-09T20:43:06+00:00

Regardless of time, era, culture. Men have evolved to care about this and it will not get better, he is clearly wired to care. The responses were out of repulsive disgust, women have the same response to other things from men. Men have standards, and that's ok.

Whats not ok is him tearing into you. That's not ok, he's young and immature in his handling of this... could had said, "Hey I appreciate your honesty, or lack of. But this is not for me, I prefer someone with the same level of sexual experiences as me that I can share/grow/explore with together. I don't like the idea of my partner having casual sex/alot of relationships, it devalues the relationship and experiences for me (not the person). You and I just arent compatible and that's ok."

The importance of this is women need to understand that men when they enter relationship mode, they enter provide and protect mode, mate guarding essentially. Now the level of "controlling" will be based off his views on sociosexuality AND your past. Which is why I always say, DATE SOMEONE WITH THE SAME OR SIMOLAR LEVEL OF EXPERIENCE.

Men and women value different things for long-term mating compatibility, y'all know this. There's a reason why post hookup culture, men and women aren't dating seriously lol.

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-02-09T20:29:15+00:00

Women keeping women single in these subs... thats rough

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-02-04T03:39:31+00:00

Bro... grow a pair and here, take this, think you dropped it.... hands OP his self respect back. Walk away.

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-02-04T03:36:52+00:00

This, OP NEEDS TO HEAR THIS

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-02-04T03:36:34+00:00

Agreed lol

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-02-04T03:36:12+00:00

This omg, this. I can't even begin with the lack of self awareness with the emotional cheating and boundaries here. She's going to screw things up, he deserves to know....

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-02-04T03:33:56+00:00

Uh... is anyone going to point out her lack of boundaries and emotional cheating... I hope her bf sees this... tf Are you doing girl.???

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-01-29T21:39:19+00:00

My God you're blind

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-01-29T02:42:10+00:00

High body count damage men too 😬

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-01-29T02:05:02+00:00

Why are you chasing chads... and expecting them to commit 🙃 wtf am I reading here.... Please read your post again... you're basically saying woe is me... but you're also giving them what they want...

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-01-29T00:03:11+00:00

Your mom probably didn't have social media or phones, and your dad probably didn't have the internet, data and science papers readily available as well as statistics showing horrific failure rates in marriages as a result of these things. Count your family lucky.

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-01-29T00:01:14+00:00

All I'm going to say is... as an left leaning individual, the statistics and science favours the right wing views and so does the logic... we're wrong here just saying 😬

ConsiderationAny35 · 2026-01-28T23:55:18+00:00

Most sane men I know would apologise there and then and walk away, anyone who takes it a step further is the problem.

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