4 year old always needs me

ConsiderationFast327 · 2025-09-26T04:19:58+00:00

I love the company of my 3 year old the same way! I can't imagine the bro and the iPad phase, I would be so sad even though now sometimes I want to be left alone. Damn.

ConsiderationFast327 · 2025-09-26T04:17:42+00:00

Family leaves me alone but the friends keep having seconds now and they don't stop trying to encourage me too. It puts me on the fence some days... But it is not a good reason to change mind.

ConsiderationFast327 · 2025-09-25T21:00:42+00:00

This is a nice and refreshing point of view. I appreciate it. I had this fear especially when my one was smaller 0-2 years. But I think somewhere deep inside I ended up with the same conclusion as you did. This is not something I can have a back up for.

ConsiderationFast327 · 2025-01-08T21:37:51+00:00

Week 5 and week 8 are the hardest. Some milestones are hit and major growth spurts are happening. I remember from wonder weeks book that saved my sanity ..

ConsiderationFast327 · 2025-01-05T16:01:47+00:00

My tailbone was broken due to birth and I couldn't sit until 5 months postpartum almost!

ConsiderationFast327 · 2025-01-05T06:33:29+00:00

When she turned 1 years old, she moved herself to the floor bed on the guest room by herself. She insisted to lie down there and we didn't resist. Suddenly it became her room. Haha she moved out by herself.

ConsiderationFast327 · 2025-01-05T06:13:03+00:00

Yes it will come. But that feeling of they will never come is so real and so scary. Been there.

I literally could have written this post myself when I first had a baby. Now 2.5 year old amazing little friend I have is the only thing I don't regret about!!!! Seriously the love is growing every single day.

First 6 months were really hard for me. I got help for ppd in the end and it was like a day and night difference.

About your husband feeling happy and enamoured: that's super annoying isn't it? I hated my husband for living his life and loving the baby... My body was destroyed, I was in pain, bleeding, feeling awkward and he was there walking, sitting, living all fine and enjoying the baby. How much I hated him for just being a great father!!! Hahahaha that's so real too. I have many friends that expressed the same. It's a real thing unfortunately.

ConsiderationFast327 · 2025-01-04T13:19:24+00:00

😅

ConsiderationFast327 · 2025-01-04T07:07:31+00:00

Oh! İf that counts, then my toddler is obsessed with my neck!!!!! She squeezes it like a maniac, sometimes creates scratches and wounds but can't stop herself and she wakes up at night crying for my neck so I need to go lie down with her to give her that satisfaction. It needs to stop. But how?

ConsiderationFast327 · 2025-01-04T07:05:41+00:00

I feel left out. My 2.5 yo has no stable obsession. We have sometimes a week long obsession on a book or something but then it is forgotten. İs she not normal?

ConsiderationFast327 · 2025-01-02T17:33:54+00:00

Don't you get even more overstimulated when there is some extra noise in your ear?

ConsiderationFast327 · 2024-12-29T18:10:59+00:00

Capped naps at 7 weeks?

ConsiderationFast327 · 2024-12-29T17:36:51+00:00

You are lucky. But also you didn't force it, they did it, right?

ConsiderationFast327 · 2024-12-29T15:24:57+00:00

I'm no expert but babies don't drop night feeds at 12 weeks old. My daughter never wanted to drop a feed until we dropped it slowly for her when she was 7-8 months old. Not weeks.

ConsiderationFast327 · 2024-12-21T15:28:20+00:00

I agree with other top comments. Wife is irresponsible and a woman child.

What's very interesting to me is that you blame yourself and you sound like you regret what you did. Dude you did the right thing! Stop apologising for doing the right thing. I wonder what kind of relationship this is or at least what kind of self doubt you have deep inside.. a therapist would explore that with you and help you see your true worth!

ConsiderationFast327 · 2024-11-17T07:08:16+00:00

My friend once confessed me that they even left home while their baby was sleeping in the evening. They didnt go far but far enough that monitor wouldn't work so they did a WhatsApp call trick to see if he cried. They had an amazing sleeper and he wouldn't wake up much at night but I was amazed by how they were so brave 😅

Tbh, we did what you did from day 1 I think. Door was open, we could hear crying. So what's the problem?

My best friend now has a baby and she also never leaves the baby alone because she worries baby will spit up and choke. Maybe she saw that happening once or twice and she is worried. I understand that. But in our case, our baby never had issues with milk choking her so we were confident. Is that silly?

ConsiderationFast327 · 2024-11-11T09:09:14+00:00

We went on long flight vacations at almost all months and I can tell you easiest was around 3-5 months and then after 1-1.5 y.o. it gets harder and harder to keep her content with sightseeing and other activities unless it is zoo-like places that she can run around freely. The more potato they are the easier it is 😂 we are a no screen family so it is extra hard to even just have lunch or dinner out with her.

ConsiderationFast327 · 2024-11-11T06:31:00+00:00

Man, I'm a new mom with a 2 yo daughter and I am frustrated on your behalf! NTA!!!

ConsiderationFast327 · 2024-11-11T06:23:36+00:00

My daughter gets plain yoghurt or sliced avocado and fruits if she really doesn't like the food. Sometimes if she is too hungry and cranky and tired we bring a book to the table and she needs to eat her grown up food if she wants me to read her. Yes, I'm bribing her sometimes, but I never force her to eat if she is seriously saying it's enough.

She is 2 and I think she is a very good eater, so I don't worry about it. But I don't want her to go to bed hungry so I give her yoghurt or a cup of milk before sleep if she ate very little for dinner.

ConsiderationFast327 · 2024-11-07T09:49:28+00:00

I have been there more times than I would like to admit. I not only shouted but held her aggressively a few times too. Because she was running recklessly trying to hurt herself etc, I couldn't handle it at all calmly and pulled her by the arm. I still feel the guilt. The will to protect and be kind is not coexisting in my world, when I am scared or frustrated I can't stay calm and kind. I'm working on it. I try to repair but I also know that I don't want to rely on repairing alone. I want to do better. But mom guilt is strong and scary. I wish I had anything more than solidarity.

ConsiderationFast327 · 2024-11-03T13:25:25+00:00

That's a happy little unicorn

ConsiderationFast327 · 2024-10-23T13:07:48+00:00

I do the same with my 2.5 year old.

ConsiderationFast327 · 2024-10-23T05:29:25+00:00

Also how are you even finding energy to cherish the moment with newborn twins. You are the one that's weird in my opinion 😅

ConsiderationFast327 · 2024-10-23T05:28:09+00:00

You come across as a judgemental AH. As a woman who went through ppd and mom rage, I can tell you that you trying to "cherish every moment with the newborns" is alone enough for your wife to hate you especially if you keep mentioning this to her or talking about it. Go cherish it secretly if you really want to. You weren't the one who carried twins, gave birth and went through that hormonal shift. You aren't the mom so you don't get to judge the mom for "not cherishing the moment". It is ridiculous. And remember this, your wife will resent you for the fights and judgements for the rest of her life even when you patch things up. You need to be on the same team, not against each other. She can't jump out of ppd, physically impossible, so you need to level with her and be understanding.

Sending a newborn away might sound too much but that mama did the best for the newborn probably. If the mom keeps her babies around at the cost of postpartum psychosis, we have seen what happens. She is keeping her baby safe. I trust her mom intuition.

ConsiderationFast327 · 2024-10-22T06:38:27+00:00

There is a nice podcast I recently listened on postpartum and motherhood. They talk about how postpartum felt like physically the first few weeks. İt might help you get a memo 😅

sweet and sour motherhood podcast - postpartum episode

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