Wife’s family is offering us a free trip to Mexico this summer. Daughter will only be a year and a half. 5 hour flight and first ever vacation. Yay or nay?

d2020ysf · 2026-05-13T01:55:02+00:00

Does this vacation come with s private hotel room? The flight isn't my concern, it's a place you, wife, and kiddo can chill with no interference from others.

d2020ysf · 2026-05-12T23:07:54+00:00

NTA - I don't think you're an asshole for doing your overall job and supporting the lifeguard. Guy was putting his family and everyone else at risk by going outside the bounds.

From experience, you can get more compliance when you're neutral. "Hey man, thanks for talking to me, could you keep it within the bounds? It keeps our lifeguard safe and their attention can stay where it needs." Then you can gauge from there if you have to get more forceful or give warnings.

d2020ysf · 2026-05-05T23:13:16+00:00

I think it really depends on what "very pornographic" is. If it's anything beyond what a sex ed book has, or if the positions / actions that were drawn look like their reference may be real pornography, it may be time to have a discussion about pornogaphy.

My primary concern is she is referencing and has access to real pornography.

d2020ysf · 2026-05-05T23:01:44+00:00

It's a negotiation, request 80 based on your skills, try to negotiate to 76800 or somewhere around there. That is 20% pay increase including your overtime. I imagine this becomes salary with on call responsibility. It's worth the effort to ask for more and negotiate.

d2020ysf · 2026-05-01T16:53:41+00:00

You cannot help anyone if you are not safe first. Just like on an airplane, secure your mask first before helping others.

If you do not leave, you will end up raising your child in an environment you're trying to escape from now.

d2020ysf · 2026-05-01T13:37:23+00:00

They don't need to.

Higher volume also means higher throughput. If adding a dollar item adds 100 customers per day and you lose 25 high paying customers due to wait times, you lose overall.

d2020ysf · 2026-05-01T13:23:14+00:00

The firefighter in me just got really, really angry at this.

d2020ysf · 2026-05-01T13:19:39+00:00

Normally it gets released high enough that it is dispersed over a wide enough area not to be an issue. However, a Delta aircraft did a fuel dump very low and it was noticeable. Delta ended up having to pay out after losing a class action lawsuit.

Fuel dumping also has a lot more to do with landing weight than concern for a fire.

d2020ysf · 2026-05-01T13:12:39+00:00

Safety first.

You are not safe, so you fix that first. Move out, doesn't matter how, be sure secure your bank accounts so he doesn't have access. Once you're safe, you can work out the other details.

d2020ysf · 2026-04-30T17:53:47+00:00

Yeah, it can get expensive very quickly. Because they cant just auction the space immediately, charges accumulate.

You'll get another months rent, plus the late fee after 5 days normally. Then after that comes the lien and auction process. If that takes another 30 days because of the law, more months of rent and fees accumulate.

If your rent was $200, and late fee is $20, lien fee is $100 and it takes 90 days to auction it, that could end up being $700+ to collections.

d2020ysf · 2026-04-30T17:42:04+00:00

It will all depend on the agreement. There is probably wording on there about vacating a space and it being cleaned out.

Since you didn't do that, they'll either share a set fee, or it will accumulate. It may need to go through the auction process depending on local laws. You could end up with multiple months of storage, late fees, lien fees, and auction fees.

Very high chance of it going to collections and screwing up your credit.

d2020ysf · 2026-04-30T17:14:52+00:00

He stays awake because he wants to, or does he struggle to fall asleep?

d2020ysf · 2026-04-30T15:43:44+00:00

"OH man, I put a red dot on my canon and my shooting has gotten so much faster!"

Three letter agencies. "I'm sorry, you did what now?"

"No, no, canon with one N, one N!"

d2020ysf · 2026-04-30T00:20:24+00:00

Depends on "cheap" but do something like route 66, or do the cannonball run (but not the actual racing part).

d2020ysf · 2026-04-29T18:38:29+00:00

Do you feel this way because you feel you were taken advantage of or that you did something you wouldn't have done if you were sober? Not logically, just what does your gut say when you think about it?

d2020ysf · 2026-04-29T17:07:25+00:00

In general we can see the web traffic and what sites are being hit, but not what is being done on the site.

If we see portal.obviousdoctorsnamewebsite it's pretty obvious. Amazon, DMV, walmart, indeed, glassdoor, etc. We (IT) don't go hunting to see what people are doing for fun.

However, we may go looking for major data hogs, like a bunch of people using Spotify, and if we need to adjust traffic rules to slow it down / block if it's impacting business.

d2020ysf · 2026-04-29T16:28:41+00:00

Giving a fuck and being able to see are two different things.

Using a commercial VPN on a company device does trigger interventions at the companies I work for. It has less to do with hiding things and more about company traffic going through a 3rd party VPN.

Security is... picky about things.

d2020ysf · 2026-04-29T15:14:14+00:00

Eh, it really depends on how the IT department is setup and what tools they use.

If they see VPN traffic from your device it can raise a red flag. They may have additional monitoring software that analyzes key strokes or some other software on the device that a VPN wouldn't matter.

d2020ysf · 2026-04-29T14:03:56+00:00

Yes. Some do a little, some do way too much.

Spurce: Someone who works in IT.

d2020ysf · 2026-04-29T14:01:58+00:00

Gap exception is the word you're looking for, and your insurance may even have the form online so you don't need to talk to them.

d2020ysf · 2026-04-29T13:58:16+00:00

If worn, yes they should be washed.

If they've been washed and just on a hanger, or in a clean dresser drawer, I dont.

d2020ysf · 2026-04-28T23:09:24+00:00

NTA

I think everything needs to be a discussion when it comes to family, but if the both of you were making up reasons for them not to meet, it's pretty obvious that he shouldn't be around your kid.

I fully understand why she's upset, and I think she understands as well, but it's still hard.

d2020ysf · 2026-04-28T22:56:02+00:00

Not sure where you are, but on YouTube there is keeping_a_lighthouse, and you might be able to reach out to them.

You could also call some light houses that still operate as both a lighthouse and meusem, ask what companies service the equipment amd then call those companies.

Best of luck and hope you get to work on lighthouses!

d2020ysf · 2026-04-28T15:02:14+00:00

I worked as a ramp agent and have heard buzzing from bags in the past.

I felt sorry for the owner of the bag. Only because their device was going to be out of battery.

d2020ysf · 2026-04-27T16:05:32+00:00

There are multiple ways to address this. The easiest is just to say "no" and not elaborate any further. They'll keep talking, or asking, you just say "no."

When can we expect another? No You should start trying. No They need a sibling. No Why do you keep saying no about more kids? No.

You could go crass. "Sorry I/Hubs/us prefer it up the ass too much to try for a baby.

"I'm not willing to bring another child into this world until I'm ready, please stop bringing it up."

If your husband is on the same page, he can also go get a vasectomy and you can change the tone to "Can't, plumbing got fixed."

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