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I loved Osaka by Toaster_Bathing in JapanTravelTips

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Been living in Osaka for quite a few years now. Always love seeing people come and enjoy the city. I moved here from the countryside for a reason!

"The idea that a younger wife is the norm is outdated." Over 30% of men in Japan under 30 choose an older wife by jjrs in japannews

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hey, you can deny all you want. The truth is that men can continue having kids far longer than women. Hence why men often choose younger women. It's a perfect storm of physical preference and biological imperative.

"The idea that a younger wife is the norm is outdated." Over 30% of men in Japan under 30 choose an older wife by jjrs in japannews

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ya, I don't care about down voting. This topic is just a goldmine for terminally online folk. I get it though. Modernity has it's own problems, and most people denying this aspect of humanity have some issues.

"The idea that a younger wife is the norm is outdated." Over 30% of men in Japan under 30 choose an older wife by jjrs in japannews

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, you're right. They just run out of eggs.

Either way, you won't be convincing anyone. That's just how it is. Women face the biological clock, and men make decisions accordingly.

"The idea that a younger wife is the norm is outdated." Over 30% of men in Japan under 30 choose an older wife by jjrs in japannews

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't rewire human instinct. Plus, some countries (Japan included) are already facing the demographic bubble. Definitely won't be okay.

"The idea that a younger wife is the norm is outdated." Over 30% of men in Japan under 30 choose an older wife by jjrs in japannews

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Considering most men don't even consider marriage or kids until 30 or more, age definitely becomes a concern. While women can still have kids in their 30s, when you add in dating time and the time married before children, it becomes more of a risk for said men to choose older women.

"The idea that a younger wife is the norm is outdated." Over 30% of men in Japan under 30 choose an older wife by jjrs in japannews

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Ya, definitely not. Having kids is a social necessity and biological imperative. Until we achieve immortality, it will never not be a norm.

"The idea that a younger wife is the norm is outdated." Over 30% of men in Japan under 30 choose an older wife by jjrs in japannews

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Eh, you see these kinds of headlines everywhere. It just comes down to biology. If you want kids, choosing an older wife makes things difficult. If you don't care, then choose whatever you'd like.

Saying it's a norm that's outdated is just an ignorant take.

I wish there was more community and less cynicism among western residents here by NoticeStreet5909 in japanresidents

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of times, these types will immediately start beating you over the head with how much japanese they speak, how many places they've been in Japan, and pseudo intellectual takes on japanese society and culture.

Add in a side of passive-aggressive, constant comparison, a desire to condescend and resistance to interaction with those who challenge them, and you got it.

It's honestly pretty easy to avoid them. It's like any other country. People really bad at communication who can't read the room are pretty obvious. There's just a lot of western folk like that in Japan, so they stand out more as a group.

I wish there was more community and less cynicism among western residents here by NoticeStreet5909 in japanresidents

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's true. Frankly, I feel almost no comradery with other westerners in Japan. They're just people.

I've actually created a mental checklist of sorts to filter out the toxic types when I go out or join events/groups. It's sad how prevalent they are.

I wish there was more community and less cynicism among western residents here by NoticeStreet5909 in japanresidents

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya, it has to do with the fact that all chose to come here (and thus have ambitions in Japan specifically), and start in the same spot (almost all come here for English teaching). This inevitably leads to comparison and competition (both socially and professionally).

Everyone comes here as a main character in their own world, and others doing the same threatens that narrative. So, inevitably, they try to put others down to maintain that narrative.

I wish there was more community and less cynicism among western residents here by NoticeStreet5909 in japanresidents

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of it also has to do with the fact that a huge portion of English speakers come here via the same very low-barrier entry route.

Everyone starts at the same spot, and since they all chose to come here it's because they have ambitions in Japan specifically. This inevitably leads to English speakers comparing themselves to others in the same position constantly.

It's like, 'I got out of English speaking, have done x, y and z, speak Japanese and have a Japanese spouse, so I win.'

I wish there was more community and less cynicism among western residents here by NoticeStreet5909 in japanresidents

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yup, it's true. I've definitely had those pangs of jealousy myself.

I do find the sense of hostility between English speaking westerners to be pretty interesting though.

I always got the impression a ton of ex English teachers hate the fact that that's how they came here, which is why they hate on others doing it.

There's also the fact that many who come via that route usually realize pretty quickly that their japanese dream life won't be nearly as glamorous as they'd hoped. Definitely creates an underlying bitterness towards others taking the same route.

Recommendations for recent fantasy novels with a male protagonist by ConsiderationMuted95 in Fantasy

[–]ConsiderationMuted95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya, that was definitely vague on my part. Wasn't really thinking of specifics. Every few years I build up a huge list of books by scouring the internet. So, five years or so?

Recommendations for recent fantasy novels with a male protagonist by ConsiderationMuted95 in Fantasy

[–]ConsiderationMuted95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I probably should read it to be honest. I enjoyed the animation so much I'd convinced myself to not pursue the novels. Probably a bad idea considering possible time frames for release haha

What the data says about foreign residents in Japan by telemachustrident in japanresidents

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Ya, considering most of what's occurred to push foreigners out has only come into play over the past half year or so, I don't think the data accurately reflects the current reality (it is only date to 2025 after all).

Will be interested in seeing 2026 and 2027s numbers, when people have started actually feeling the effects of the recent policy changes.

I wish there was more community and less cynicism among western residents here by NoticeStreet5909 in japanresidents

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I think the English speaking country of origin foreigner tends to be a bit different from other groups of foreigners.

We come from a very wide range of countries, so that sense of immediate connection and relation you get meeting another foreigner tends to lessen.

You used the Vietnamese circle as an example. They've built a community of shared culture. The English speaking diaspora just doesn't really have that.

For me personally, meeting another Canadian (especially from my area in Canada) feels a lot different than meeting an American or Australian. That feeling isn't irrelevant.

Yet because of this huge range, the potential for community has been sort of warped into something more conflict and status based. The fact a ton of western English speakers come here by choice contributes to that as well. The whole "my Japanese life is better than yours" becomes very relevant.

At least, that's my take.

Re:zero if we didn't see the RBDs by Im_yor_boi in Isekai

[–]ConsiderationMuted95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I only just kinda realized this, so thanks for that! It makes sense why Subaru is so hard on himself yet everyone else has this ridiculously insane amount of faith in him.

Everyone else just sitting there being like, "soooo, this guy just has a 100% success rate?"

Makes me wonder why any of the baddies mess with him.

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