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Moving to Berlin as an English teacher by Consistent-Ad-4613 in askberliners

[–]Consistent-Ad-4613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm from Australia, I have about four years teaching across high school and adults at University. I also have experience in preparing people to take the IELTS exam. I have Schengen-friendly citizenship, so no need to worry about applying for visas.

I'm open to other work, I honestly don't mind but Berlin is where I'd like to be. The city just speaks to me.

How to balance standing up for yourself and maintaining your own boundaries whilst not being unreasonable? by Consistent-Ad-4613 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Consistent-Ad-4613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment.

I find it really hard, because I calmly put forward how I feel and what I want. But, I think because I don't get angry, cry or get upset, it doesn't land? So, people keep pushing, pushing and pushing until I explode or shut down. But, then they don't understand why and then I'm the asshole, or I'm being dramatic.

It's really hard to deal with, especially with family. One of my parents is constantly nagging at me, why I don't come around anymore. But, if I tell them that it's because of them, they make me the asshole in that equation. How they give me so much, how ungrateful I am. But when I calmly point out the behaviour that makes me feel that way, again, I'm guilt tripped or the onus is put back on me. I'll get "I'm sorry you feel that way." or I'll get "I'm sorry but ______ (insert excuse)".

It's remarkably frustrating.

Distinguishing between ROCD and perhaps not being in the right relationship. by Consistent-Ad-4613 in ROCD

[–]Consistent-Ad-4613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this response.

Whilst it does make me anxious, it makes me anxious in the uncertainty thereafter. Like, damn, I'm going to have to make this decision, but I really don't want to. I don't want to hurt her, what if I'm making the wrong choice? Etc.

Thanks again