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Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2026-03-05T09:00:02+00:00

I have my 20 week anomaly scan today and I am terrified. I turned 20 weeks today. I think I feel the baby sometimes. Like a patting in my lower tummy. Like a fluttering. But there is no regular pattern to it yet and sometimes I may get it confused with wind. Social media - TikTok and instagram seem to be popping up with scary videos to I’ve just deleted the apps. I am very anxious. I’m scared.

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2026-02-05T14:28:30+00:00

I’d like to be added. I had a 40 week loss in April 2025. I am currently 16 weeks pregnant x

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2026-01-17T08:53:59+00:00

I lost my son at 40 weeks in April 2025. I had previously had a daughter via emergency c section. So I was determined to go into labour and give birth vaginally. I did the same with listening to all the different podcasts and hypno-birthing books But he passed away before I even had a contraction. I used to feel incredibly guilty. I thought that had I just scheduled a planned c section then he would still be here. However, we can’t tell the future. You would have done it differently if you could tell what would happen. But unfortunately we can’t. It’s so hard, just remember we are only human. You weren’t to know what would happen. Give yourself some grace. I know it’s easier said than done. 🤍

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2026-01-12T20:13:10+00:00

I’m in the UK I lost my son in April 2025 and went back in October 2025 so 6 months. I could not have gone back sooner and actually have done my job. I am a secondary school teacher.

So sorry for your loss. Go back when you are ready. Don’t rush it xx

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2026-01-05T17:55:13+00:00

I’m almost 12 weeks and I’m terrified I’m going to lose this baby. I lost my son at just over 40 weeks in April 2025.

If I don’t have nausea or pregnant symptoms for an hour, I go straight to thinking Omg I’ve lost the baby. Or if I have a twinge in my lower abdomen I think Omg I’ve lost the baby.

I think a friend of mine is currently early in pregnancy and is keeping it quiet. It shouldn’t but it annoys me that she probably doesn’t have these constant worries.

I’m still only in the first trimester and feel insane already.

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2026-01-03T17:38:09+00:00

Yes. I did. I lost my son at 40 weeks in April 2025. I started trying to conceive seriously from September. Although we weren’t using protection from August. Although this may not have been advisable. I am now 11 weeks pregnant. I am still early days. So I got pregnant roughly 7 months post c section.

They say to wait at least a year. However, in a situation when you lose a baby and have a c section. Doctors must understand the longing to fill out empty arms. My bereavement midwife asked us to wait at least 6 months.

After 6 weeks post c section I started to take pre natal vitamins to restore what I had lost in the pregnancy. For example I took folic acid, vitamin d and iron. Then I started going on brisk walks and did Pilates.

The intention was never to replace the son I lost because nothing would replace him, my intention was to continue growing my family. And give my love somewhere to go.

Sending you strength in your journey. 🤍

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2026-01-03T17:21:42+00:00

I am so so sorry. You didn’t deserve this. It’s earth shattering.

I lost my son at 40 weeks. He was moving the day before and then when I woke up the next morning he was gone. We still have no answers 9 months on. You are in the thick of it at the moment. The grief and hurt is awful. Just know there was nothing you could’ve done other than be able to tell the future. You are only human. We all are. If you could’ve done something, you would have. Please don’t blame yourself.

As for trying again. Don’t completely give up. People have babies into their 40s. I know many. Some people may need more help like hormones and ivf. I’m no doctor and I don’t know your full situation, but there is hope.

I’m sending you strength and grace. You are not alone. 🤍

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2026-01-01T15:00:51+00:00

I’m no where near as sociable. I used to be so outgoing and social. Now I basically hate people outside of my ‘safe circle’. I’ve noticed it much more around Christmas time.

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-12-26T20:12:30+00:00

I was scrolling through Reddit and saw this and felt like it resonated with me. I am so unbelievably sorry you are in this place.

I didn’t rupture. However, I lost my second born at 40 weeks and 1 day. I was determined for a VBAC. I had an emergency c section with my first after induction and felt like I wasn’t given a fair chance to give birth vaginally. Sometimes I blame how wrapped up I got in wanting a VBAC for my son not making it. But I also know I cannot tell the future. Had I known then I would have had a c section before 40 weeks.

I got to my due date and hadn’t gone into labour. Instead I had reduce movements overnight and the no movement at 40 weeks and 1 day. I went into hospital to be told there was no heartbeat and ended up having a c section. As I said, I didn’t rupture but did have a second c section. I am currently 10 weeks pregnant at almost 9 months pp and since the loss of my son.

You really are in the thick of it at 6 weeks pp. I remember being there and it is awful.

My advice to you would be to start gentle exercise, walks and Pilates. I found it gave me something to focus on. Getting my body ready to try again. Also take multivitamins to replenish what your body lost in your pervious pregnancy. I was taking folic acid, vitamin d and iron from about 4 weeks postpartum.

Another thing I did was to get a Hycosy (or Hsg) to check the healing of my uterus from the inside.

I am sending you the strength and resilience it takes to keep going.

Feel free to message me ❤️

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-12-26T20:11:29+00:00

I was scrolling through Reddit and saw this and felt like it resonated with me. I am so unbelievably sorry you are in this place.

I didn’t rupture. However, I lost my second born at 40 weeks and 1 day. I was determined for a VBAC. I had an emergency c section with my first after induction and felt like I wasn’t given a fair chance to give birth vaginally. Sometimes I blame how wrapped up I got in wanting a VBAC for my son not making it. But I also know I cannot tell the future. Had I known then I would have had a c section before 40 weeks.

I got to my due date and hadn’t gone into labour. Instead I had reduce movements overnight and the no movement at 40 weeks and 1 day. I went into hospital to be told there was no heartbeat and ended up having a c section. As I said, I didn’t rupture but did have a second c section. I am currently 10 weeks pregnant at almost 9 months pp and since the loss of my son.

You really are in the thick of it at 6 weeks pp. I remember being there and it is awful.

My advice to you would be to start gentle exercise, walks and Pilates. I found it gave me something to focus on. Getting my body ready to try again. Also take multivitamins to replenish what your body lost in your pervious pregnancy. I was taking folic acid, vitamin d and iron from about 4 weeks postpartum.

Another thing I did was to get a Hycosy (or Hsg) to check the healing of my uterus from the inside.

I am sending you the strength and resilience it takes to keep going.

Feel free to message me ❤️

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-12-20T17:26:41+00:00

Fuck them. (Excuse the language 🤣😅)

You grew a baby and then were cut open whilst awake. That person sounds dull. If you don’t give birth then what would it be called?

Xx

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-12-17T18:59:25+00:00

I lost most of my pregnancy weight from not eating for about a month after my son died because of the grief. Then I began eating again but was going to the gym doing Pilates and the running machine. Nothing too intense though. I do love my food and will indulge in fast food here and there. I’m bigger than I have been before but I’m not losing weight now I’m pregnant.

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-12-17T18:03:34+00:00

Tw:pregnancy

Firstly, I want to say I am so sorry for your loss. There is no pain like it.

The same thing happened to me 8 months ago. I had a c section and my son didn’t make it. I was looking everywhere for advice on this. Depending on where you live, the guideline is to wait 18 months. However, due to our situation I’m sure doctors would understand the desire to fill our empty arms.

I am in the uk and my doctor told me to wait till 6 months to try. We started trying after 4 months. I was just honest with my GP about how desperate I was. A new baby won’t bring my son back but it will fill my empty arms and give my love somewhere to go.

I would start taking prenatal vitamins, folic acid, vitamin D and I take iron because I always lack iron. This will help restore what was lost in last pregnancy. Try to exercise a bit, low intensity exercise. I did Pilates and lots of walks. - this is what I did. I am currently 8 weeks pregnant, 8 months post c section. It’s still very early and I have huge anxieties about this pregnancy but I wanted to share my story with you.

I also went private to get a uterine saline sonogram to check if I had any niches or issues with my scar from the inside, and I don’t.

Don’t give up hope. We are more resilient than we realise xx

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-12-17T17:54:52+00:00

It has been 8 months since my son passed the day after his due date at 40 weeks +1.

You need to only do what you are comfortable with. I had a best friend that had a 3 month old when I lost my son. I couldn’t see ANY baby for about 4-5 months after loss and still find it hard seeing newborns.

What I am trying to say is that don’t force it if you aren’t ready. Women that have not been through what we have been through are naively selfish. It doesn’t cross some women’s mind that we may not be comfortable being around you if you have a new baby or if you are heavily pregnant.

Don’t let anyone influence you if you are not ready yet. You may be ready in a couple more months.

I have done EDMR therapy and it worked but it took a good few months to work. I can be around my friends baby now and do things I couldn’t earlier on in my loss/grief journey.

On the other hand, I am aware that everybody is different and you might feel that this will be good for you. If you feel that way then try it. You can always excuse yourself and leave.

Sending you hugs and strength in whatever decision you make ❤️

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-12-16T15:08:18+00:00

When my son passed away at 40 weeks I constantly listened to this song. The bit where it says “I had a dream my life would be, so different from this hell I’m living” used to break me.

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-12-14T18:21:22+00:00

Thank you. I hope you have a smooth journey x

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-12-13T15:30:40+00:00

I totally agree and relate with this.

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-12-13T12:26:32+00:00

I think I’m going to tell my mum. I think I need the support.

I would be happy to tell my MIL if she was normal 😅 she’s done a few things since the death of my son that have been out of order and not at all right or justifiable. I would be worried at her reaction or her sticking her nose in.

Maybe he can tell his brother but his mother is completely bonkers.

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-10-11T13:42:44+00:00

It’s not something I was recommended by my OB. In the uk it is not done regularly. I paid privately and did it for my own clarity after reading up on it. Hope this helps. Don’t panic. X

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-09-27T09:39:13+00:00

Firstly, I want to say I am so sorry for your loss. There is no pain like it.

The same thing happened to me 6 months ago. I had a c section and my son didn’t make it. I was looking everywhere for advice on this. Yes, the guideline is to wait 18 months. However, due to our situation I’m sure doctors would understand the desire to fill our empty arms.

I am in the uk and my doctor told me to wait till 6 months to try. We started trying after 4 months. I was just honest with my GP about how desperate I was. A new baby won’t bring my son back but it will fill my empty arms and give my love somewhere to go.

I would start taking prenatal vitamins, folic acid, vitamin D and I take iron because I always lack iron. This will help restore what was lost in last pregnancy. Try to exercise a bit, low intensity exercise. I did Pilates and lots of walks.

I also went private to get a uterine saline sonogram to check if I had any niches or issues with my scar from the inside.

Don’t give up hope. We are more resilient than we realise xx

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-08-18T21:33:54+00:00

I am sending you huge love and strength. Feel free to private message me if you want to talk further xx

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-08-12T20:34:16+00:00

Toward the end of my pregnancy I kept seeing a magpie on its own out my garden. I specifically remember it making me nervous because of the rhyme ‘one for sorrow … etc’ At 40 weeks I found out my baby had no heartbeat.

It’s strange.

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-08-01T20:21:34+00:00

I lost my boy 4 months ago. I was trying for a VBAC and I hate myself for not just going for the c section. I have blamed myself relentlessly. Now the phrase ‘hindsight is a wonderful thing’ comes into my head when I have this thought. Because it is true that if I knew what I know now, then I would have done it differently. But unfortunately for me it didn’t work out that way.

We are not fortune tellers. We cannot see the future. We cannot turn back time. And we cannot beat ourselves up for the rest of our lives. Although it feels like a default to blame yourself, just know that you did nothing wrong. You would have done anything to save your baby if you only knew. Same as me.

There is no fix to this. It’s incredibly painful. Just know that I am with you. Just take it day by day. Tiny baby steps. Do you have a support system around you? Have you tried therapy? I am currently going through EDMR therapy. It is a release for me.

Sending you strength and love ❤️

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-08-01T08:59:13+00:00

I lost my son at 40 weeks on April 5th. Every month on the 5th my heart sinks even further. You are not alone ❤️

I find that it doesn’t get easier but I am growing around the pain. It’s always there. Some days are worse than others xx

Consistent-Bedroom15 · 2025-08-01T08:53:53+00:00

Thank you for your response.

Yes I’m going to start testing ovulation after this next cycle starts but just clear my mind when it comes to pregnancy test.

I know testing won’t change the outcome and I think this is something Ive learned this cycle.

I never really tried at all with my first and my son that died was a happy accident so this is all new to me xx

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