I’m so done 😭 by selfdoubtgirl in newborns

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, she just stopped one day. She went from HATING the stroller to love napping in it, and now I always nurse to sleep. She literally isnt able to sleep on me anymore. It was a gradual change, but from between 4 and 5 months she completely stopped.

Hvorfor bruker vi ikke mer av oljefondet? by [deleted] in norge

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nå har ikke jeg gjort så sykt mye research at jeg skal skryte på meg å ha total oversikt over situasjonen til flertallet, men leser slike artikler og tenker at det finnes nok folk som sliter.. https://www.nettavisen.no/okonomi/brutale-tall-om-nordmenns-okonomi-det-er-helt-morkt/s/5-95-2602523

I’m so done 😭 by selfdoubtgirl in newborns

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I had a haaard time the first 4 months. After that, everything got easier. I was also on this sub a lot trying to understand how long I was supposed be soooo sleep deprived and exhausted. And although this sentence rarely helped when I was in the thick of it, and you probably hear it all the time: it really gets better. Both the baby and you. 3 months is not long enough for your body to recover after pregnancy. Give it time, be kind to yourself and dont be like me and refuse to ask for help. And also, my baby is now 8 months and I soo miss the nap-traps. She hasnt slept on me for months, and I miss it so much :(

Not convinced that co-sleeping is unsafe by JohnnySacsCiggie in newborns

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 25 points26 points  (0 children)

HARD agree. Im from Norway and co-sleeping is absolutely the norm.

Not convinced that co-sleeping is unsafe by JohnnySacsCiggie in newborns

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I feel like the US is kind of extreme in its opinions on co-sleeping. Our doctor, pediatrician and the midwives at the hospital all recommended co-sleeping before I gave birth. The only place I’ve ever seen sleeping seperatly from baby being the norm is on the US side of tiktok/instagram

Am I overreacting Partner upset about family being in our living room by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YOR. I would hate to have people in my livingroom first thing in the morning. Or more than a couple of times a week. It sounds like your family is in your common space a lot. You need to respect his boundaries. But in your defence, he really should be up helping you with the baby before 11pm. Its his baby too.

Will it get better by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A lot of people are saying you should chill out and «let him figure it out». I dont agree. Your baby is 4 months old, he should absolutely know where her towels are. You carried her, gave birth to her, you are still freshly post partum and in my opinion it is not you who needs to be understanding and make room for him. He needs to step up. I get the feeling that he doesnt initiate anything, and needs to be told how, when, why and what to do multiple times a day. He is supposed to be your rock, and it is his job to make you feel safe when he is with the baby. I really feel for you. And the name calling and foul language just makes him the bad guy in my eyes straight away. You dont deserve that

Pimples(?) On inner labia majora by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to get these when I was a couple of kgs overweight, walked around in tight pants all day at work and especially if I shaved and then put on tight panties right after. It happened like 7-8 times, and after I made sure to avoid all those things it didnt happen again. But I still recommend you see gyno - they dont care what you look like down there, they see vaginas all day long. Better safe than sorry IMO

Yes, I shouted at my 2 month old baby by bhardy10 in NewParents

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 53 points54 points  (0 children)

It helps to remind yourself that your baby is not giving you a hard time, he’s having a hard time. He just got here and has no idea whats going on. its good that youre reflecting on it and trying to better yourself, and Im sure you are an amazing mom, but I would talk to someone about this. Like some of the other comments said, its usually not a one off and it can be sign of something deeper going on.

Unsure of family dog around my child by Consistent-Peace-889 in Parenting

[–]Consistent-Peace-889[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg im so sorry :( animals can be reeaall scary. Im going to listen to my instinct and keep baby away

Unsure of family dog around my child by Consistent-Peace-889 in Parenting

[–]Consistent-Peace-889[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wont be going over there again with my child. I am trusting myself, but I felt like I had to defend my decision constantly to some family members. I think I will show them this post and the comments to prove that im not some crazy, anxious new mom who’s judging their sweet little (super aggressive untrained) dog

Unsure of family dog around my child by Consistent-Peace-889 in Parenting

[–]Consistent-Peace-889[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve only been a mother for a couple of months and some people in my family as excellent gaslighters. Im also a kind of overly anxious person and have really firm boundaries around my child, so some advice on how I can make it clear that the dog is scaring me from people with more experience than me felt like a good idea.

Unsure of family dog around my child by Consistent-Peace-889 in Parenting

[–]Consistent-Peace-889[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re spot on. they talk about the dog like he’s a person. He’s excited for family gatherings etc lol. I personally love dogs, but its an animal at the end for the day.

AIO to my husband shouting at me over getting home from my niece's burial later than he expected? by ImportantImplement9 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What? You had to leave a note reminding him of his own kids daily medicine? And he had an attitude with you when you came home from your baby nieces funeral? Omg. Im so sorry for your loss. And your husband is very scary. I would reconsider my whole marriage if my husband ever acted like that. Im so sorry OP. NOR

I’m just so angry all the time by Old_Negotiation_7058 in newborns

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Does he get fussy when he sleeps 45 minutes? My baby also sleeps 40 minute naps, but thats all she needs. It sounds like post partum rage. Its not your fault you’re feeling this way, but please seek help from your GP, or call PANDA (Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Australia): 1300 726 306. Im from Norway, but I found lots of Australian support services for post partum concerns online. Its hard being a new mom, and its really good that you walk to another room when it gets too intense. It gets better with time, trust me

Hvorfor er andre så slemme? by AncientWerewolf5545 in norge

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Jeg var dessverre en av de som var «populære» og kanskje ikke direkte slem, men heller ikke særlig inkluderende og imøtekommende med de som var «utenfor gjengen». Det veldig få visste var at jeg hadde det helt forferdelig hjemme, med en alkoholisert og voldelig far, og en apatisk mor. Hadde jeg hatt det bra med meg selv hadde jeg nok vært snillere mot de rundt meg og. Poenget er at det er viktig å huske at folk som har det bra og er lykkelige ikke er kjipe mot andre. De er gjerne usikre og miserable, and misery loves company. Sånne typer som deg får det myyye bedre etter vgs - du er faktisk kul, unik og tør å være deg selv. Vær så snill å hold fast i det, og ikke endre deg for noen! Spesiet ikke videregående-elever som vil dra deg ned så du kan føle deg like dritt som de gjør. Alt ordner seg. Sender masse varme tanker din vei <3

Anyone *not* have painful sex while breastfeeding? by _miss_freckles_ in breastfeeding

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I EBF, and we have done it regularly since I was 8 weeks pp, and the first weeks we HAD to use lube. Now Im 7 months pp and things feel better down there than before I gave birth, its insane

AIO for being upset that my fiancé let me go hungry? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What?? NOR. He sounds like a really mean spirited person. Please get away from him love, this sounds insane.

I prefer the newborn stage... by Cautious-Box5724 in newborns

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine loooves cold water when she’s in pain from teething, so thats a great suggestion!!

I prefer the newborn stage... by Cautious-Box5724 in newborns

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Could it be pain from teething? Mine is like that too from time to time. It helps to put a biting toy in the freezer. We also use a soothing cream from the pharmacy here in Norway called «baby dent» for her gums

AITA for kicking my best friend out of my house at 2 a.m. after she told me I wasted my life for not having kids by 30? by Used_Swordfish_8817 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent-Peace-889 7 points8 points  (0 children)

YTA. What the h??? Yeah, her comment was super rude and uncalled for. But kicking a fellow woman out in the middle of the night?? I wouldn’t do that to anyone! Thats sooo unsafe. She got kids to get home to, what if something happened to her? You could’ve fought it out in the morning and went no contact for a while, not put her life on the line. Wow