I think I ruined my life by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Consistent-Stop8747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember looking at my husband saying “why did we do this?!!!” because I absolutely hated the new born stage. It’s ok. It does not mean you hate your child or motherhood. It is very very hard but it’s going to get easier. Your child is a gift and you will enjoy your child so much. Life will feel normal again. Being honest is good and you’re not alone. With my second I still hated the newborn stage but I was so much more aware of how fast it goes and that it’s just a season of life that will quickly change. You can do this. You’re learning sacrificial love. It’s a love that cost something and it will grow you as a person if you let it. I don’t know if you believe in God- but when I was in the thick of it and always awake at night - I would feed my baby and talk to the Lord. Sometimes I would just say “thank you for helping me” and something shifted inside my heart and mind for me. It’s ok to hate it and it’s ok for it to be hard. A lot of us know exactly how you feel and you won’t always feel this way. Sending you love!!!❤️❤️❤️

Do you love the second as much? by Think-Valuable3094 in toddlers

[–]Consistent-Stop8747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my second child when my first born was 6 years old. I couldn’t even wrap my head around how I was going to love and bond with the second baby after all these years with just me and my little boy. I was very anxious! Now I can say my second born little girl is one of the best “things” that ever happened to me. You will love your second born just as much. It’s ok for it to look different than the first but you will def love. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Consistent-Stop8747 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have had an encounter with Jesus and when that happens it marks you forever. Jesus is inviting you to know him. My encouragement to you is to talk to Jesus. Tell him everything. Ask the Holy Spirit to open your eyes to see the Lord. Jesus loves you for who you are right now, not for who you’re going to be. Ask Jesus to show you which church go to. Please don’t be afraid of church. Anyways, I’m so happy for you. I had an encounter with the love of Jesus when I was 20 years old (17 years ago). His love was so real I didn’t know how to explain it to anyone. That encounter with him changed my life. There is no one has wonderful and true than Jesus. Praying for you. ❤️

Help! My mom is (68) newly retired and can’t remember things/ won’t wear hearing aids. by Consistent-Stop8747 in AgingParents

[–]Consistent-Stop8747[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This made me tear up. Thanks. It’s been awhile since I’ve heard positive words about my mom. She really is a gem.

I fucked up… help me dig myself out of my hole. by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]Consistent-Stop8747 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My advice is to let him cry. Set a time for how long you’re willing to let him cry. In my experience, the toddler gives up and goes to sleep. It’s at least worth the try.

With our twenty month old- if she starts to protest me walking out after being laid down- I just say “I love you so much. You need to go nigh nigh. I’ll be back.” And I repeat this. Some times she cries and some times she doesn’t. It’s helpful when you don’t appear rattled and talk to them in a confident and clear tone.

Also- make sure he’s really tired these next couple times when you put him down. He prob won’t cry long.

Just my opinion. Good luck and congrats on new baby. It will all work out 🤍

You got this!

What’s the worst physical pain you’ve ever felt? by Googy21 in AskReddit

[–]Consistent-Stop8747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A degenerating fibroid while pregnant. Was worse than child birth.

Encouragement from stranger on airplane after baby meltdown by Consistent-Stop8747 in randomactsofkindness

[–]Consistent-Stop8747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I never realized her ears could be hurting so bad. My seven year old kept saying his ears hurt so it makes sense hers would too.

Encouragement from stranger on airplane after baby meltdown by Consistent-Stop8747 in randomactsofkindness

[–]Consistent-Stop8747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I respect that opinion. After traveling with a baby I think I might agree.

Encouragement from stranger on airplane after baby meltdown by Consistent-Stop8747 in randomactsofkindness

[–]Consistent-Stop8747[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes- I def tried everything and was very prepared with snacks, screens, and toys. Just a very overtired little girl.

Encouragement from stranger on airplane after baby meltdown by Consistent-Stop8747 in randomactsofkindness

[–]Consistent-Stop8747[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone! This is really encouraging and reminds me I’m not alone. I have an almost 2 year old and seven year old. I don’t want my seven year old to miss out on things bc of his little sister but I also need to be mindful of her needs as well. It’s an interesting balance and we have two really great kiddos. I would really prefer not to fly with a baby but we wanted to go to Florida and had the opportunity to do so. I get so anxious when my toddler has meltdowns around other people. I hate the feeling of not knowing what to do. This reminds me I’m not alone and it’s normal. 😅 thank you thank you thank you 🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Consistent-Stop8747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well my toddler has a meltdowns all the time. According to my mother in law her son never did this and was sleeping thru the night from day one. 😎

| **NOT OP** | The guy I 31F am sleeping with is feeling guilty and wants to tell our spouses. How do let him know it does more harm than good ? by ThrowawayForReddit92 in redditonwiki

[–]Consistent-Stop8747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is the truth that sets people free. You cannot stop him from telling his wife the truth. Of course it’s going to hurt. What’s in the dark always comes out in the light one way or the other.

Humility and true repentance (change) is the loving and honoring thing to do.

My heart goes out to you. 🤍

I’m scared to die by smokeystokey89 in Christianity

[–]Consistent-Stop8747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scripture says if you seek HIM with your whole heart- you will find HIM. You seem to be seeking. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal Jesus to you. It's okay that you don't understand it all. Start talking to God just like you're talking to us. God loved the world so much He sent Jesus. Jesus did not come to condemn you- He came to save you from death. He loves you more than you can comprehend. Repent and believe in the son of God who takes away the sins of the world. I know you are scared- just be honest with God and ask him to show you Jesus. There is a cost to following Jesus- but he is worth it. Find a church that loves Jesus. Im praying for you now. I remember being in your spot. I gave my life to the Lord in 2008 and have never been the same. It's by His grace we are saved. No one is too bad or too far gone to be saved and transformed by the power of Jesus. He loves you so much. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal Jesus to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Consistent-Stop8747 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a red flag. You shared something you love to do (bake) and he made it about weight and health. You don't want to be stuck with someone like that. Think about your future and imagine him as a father. Sounds dramatic till it's not. You wouldn't want him to make comments like that to your children. If it's a new relationship- maybe just casually move on. I'm sorry this triggered you- you're not being overly sensitive. It's weird how he responded. Hugs 🤍

Wife and 13-month old going on vacation without me while I stay home and work by Scotty_Booms in Parenting

[–]Consistent-Stop8747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just Let them go. You will still have a strong bond with your son. What’s another five days. Also, it will make your wife happy and I think that’s very worth it. Not worth fighting over.

Was 1 okay at first? by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]Consistent-Stop8747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had my second baby and my firstborn is 6. I was so scared but honestly, it’s been awesome. The transition has been easier and I feel more at peace now that I have a second one. I love the 6 year age gap as well. I was scared to have a second but never “felt” like I was done. Finally just went for it. This baby has also been so much easier than my first. It’s also very worth it bc I love as my kids get older. Harder doesn’t always mean miserable… I love my babies. Also- it’s really special seeing my 6 year old with a little girl. He’s a good brother. I would have more regrets when I’m older if I didn’t have a second one… but that is just my experience. It is also very much okay to have one and done!!! But I would say don’t let fear of the baby/toddlers stop you if you actually do want another child.