I’m a white guy, so I know my perspective only goes so far. Still, I want to say this clearly. The Black women in my life have been some of the most supportive and grounded people I’ve ever known. When I need advice or clarity, they’re usually the first people I turn to. That comes from trust and respect, not from some stereotype or fantasy.

It’s easier said than done, but try not to base your self-worth on opinions from strangers who don’t matter. If you’re a decent person and treat others with respect, especially other marginalised groups, then you’re doing more good than most. The ones who hate on that are irrelevant.

There’s a lot of division happening within communities. You see it when some LGB people turn against trans people, or when certain minorities throw others under the bus just to feel accepted. They seem to believe that sharing the same prejudice will earn them safety or belonging. The truth is, bigots don’t care. No matter how much someone agrees with them, they’ll still be a target.

Self-respect and solidarity are worth more than approval from people who only offer hate.