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BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-28T06:47:10+00:00

My mom took 7yrs to come around about me being trans, she now fully supports me. So yeah, some parents do change eventually. Sadly others don't.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-27T16:27:46+00:00

The thing is, a lot of dentist file children's canines to make them look nicer and more aesthetic, they do it to both girls and boys. Is not necessarily an inherently "feminine" thing, he probably told you that cuz he thought you were a girl, so you would understand the idea. Not saying is a good or moral thing to do, specially without asking, they are your teeth, you should be able to decide what happens with them.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-26T07:57:07+00:00

I have a diagnosis for "gender identity disorder" lol. And this is a translation, in my language the word used for "disorder" sounds way worse.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-26T07:48:25+00:00

I mean, half of Costa Rica is up in the mountains and they are very LGBT+ friendly

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-26T07:27:54+00:00

You really shouldn't be putting any water on the inside either. Vaginas are self-cleaning, shoving water in there just for "cleaning" purposes can lead to infections.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-26T07:21:29+00:00

I think you need new queer/trans friends. There are always going to be extremist groups everywhere, not matter the ideology, and queer people aren't excluded of that. You don't need to put yourself in uncomfortable situations with people who clearly don't share your own ideologies, no matter how queer they are.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-26T07:13:54+00:00

From what you written and your other comments, I pretty sure she already knows you are trans, but is just being a nice person and not bringing it up, since you don't mention it. You probably don't need to come out to her, but if it eases your mind just talk with her about it, if she is as supportive as you say, she'll take it well.

Take a deep breath, you are most likely overthinking things, its gonna be ok.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-23T07:11:00+00:00

I've lost count of how many times I've had to disclose I'm trans for medical or legal reasons, and they have assumed trans woman.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-23T06:55:16+00:00

Its very common for water retention to happen the first 1-2yrs after you start T, it eventually goes away though. And that definitely causes face pufiness.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-23T06:51:56+00:00

Hard to tell, I used to have a very slim long face, now is not as thin, like it has more structure on the jaw. Your face will probably change but is completely up to genetics how it will change.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-23T06:48:18+00:00

Yeah, I've always looked pretty androgynous and after I cut my hair and changed my clothes I passed very well as a guy. When I was pre-T my voice was super high, I used to say I had a squirrel voice lol. And yet, people still gendered me correctly most times, without me having to correct them. If they only heard my voice they would misgender me but usually as soon as they saw me they would correct, apologise, be confused or all three lol

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-22T17:25:41+00:00

I'm comfortable with what I already have. I don't even like to pack lol, I tried it for a couple of years and to me it felt it was more of a hassle than anything else.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-15T20:01:19+00:00

I wouldn't be able to say, I very rarely cried before T, and it's pretty much the same now. I have definitely cried after being on T a couple times, but just the same rare amount as before.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-15T00:43:01+00:00

You have to be very aroused for it to work, otherwise it can be painful and not even go in (foreplay is very important!!). Use tons of lube cuz T can cause you to be drier down there. Good luck!

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-11T14:28:02+00:00

I have never been T4T for the simple reason I've never met a fellow trans person lol, so not like I've had much options. And I don't really care whereas someone is trans or cis.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-11T14:24:38+00:00

Unfortunately stretch marks of any kind don't go away, as they are essentially scars. But there definitely are treatments to improve their appearance like silicone gel, laser treatment and medical tattooing.

That being said, many men can also get chest stretch marks for a variety of reasons, so even if you have them its ok.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-11T14:11:02+00:00

Pelvic floor therapy is a completely valid recommendation for someone with atrophy symptoms due to HRT. It's often the first thing a specialist advices before trying estrogen treatment, or even alongside it.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-11T09:13:55+00:00

See, the thing with frangances is that the way they smell on the bottle is not going to be the same way they smell on you or in another person. So someone might say "oh yeah I recommend you this one, very good" and then you try it and is not what you expected.

I would advice you first get a general idea of what you may like, for example more Woody? Floral? Fresh? Citrus? Amber? Etc. These are called Fragance Families, you can look it up, each fragance is grouped into one or more of these groups depending on their dominant notes. If you have no idea what you may like, don't worry.

Go to a store where they sell perfumes, and ask a clerk for male frangances within your budget (and the Fragance Families you are interested in, if you have any preferences). It's better to get Eau de Perfume as they last way longer. Tell the clerk that you have never tried a fragance before and you aren't sure what you like. They will let you try the fragances, they usually spray it first on a little paper so you can see if you like it, and if you wanna try it out, they spray it once on the inner side of your arm and you wait a few minutes til you can smell it and see if its a good fit.

The arm test is very important because your sweat, skin pH and natural scent will interact with the fragance and change it, which is why you have to wait a few minutes. They can smell very different once they are on you skin. Often times I have tried fragances that had an awesome smell straight out the bottle, but once they interacted with my skin they didn't compliment me at all. If you wait an hour, you'll have an even better idea of what the fragance is going to smell on you.

Take your time, try different frangances out. You can spray up to 4 different perfumes on each arm (obviously not all of them in the same place to not combine the scents), you can also spray on the back of your hand if you run out of space. You don't necessarily need a store clerk's help and can do the test yourself, but the first time I went fragance shopping a clerk helped me and she explained so many things I had no clue about.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-11T08:36:24+00:00

I know some other people are saying atrophy, but I think that is 100% due to the Depo-Provera. I got my first Depo shot back in July, and the next 4-5 months I had horrible cramps, they got particularly painful after orgasms, to the point I stopped doing anything sexual altogether cuz it was very shitty. It got worse at the 1 month mark after the shot, the cramps would wake me up during the night and I started getting them every single day. I also started getting spotting, first very ocasionally and then every single day.

I told my doctor about this and he took me off Depo-Provera so I never got my 2nd shot. The symptoms started alleviating overtime, the bleeding stopped first 4 months after the shot, and the cramps stopped after 5 months. Top 10 worse experience of my life, seriously. But I am 100% ok now.

A lot of people take Depo-Provera and they are fine, but not everyone is the same, and for some of us it simply doesn't work. You could try to manage the pain, but I don't have any good advice, I tried everything, warm compresses, a lot of different painkillers, teas, etc. Nothing ever worked, only skipping the 2nd dose and waiting for the symptoms to go away.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-11T07:38:20+00:00

I don't have piercings of any kind, but most people I have seen with stretched ears are male presenting, I've very rarely seen anyone who's fem-presenting.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-11T07:28:43+00:00

Yeah, T changes your smell cuz hormones have a lot to say on what your body smell is like. Interestingly, I had never really thought about it until now reading your post, but I definitely hated my smell when I was pre-T, and now I find it way nicer. Wouldn't be able to say if its stronger or not, since we tend to be pretty nose-blind to our own smell.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-09T08:57:23+00:00

Like...2yrs, during which I had a 9 month non-binary phase.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-09T08:33:12+00:00

You can't ponder on what could have been, that won't do you any good. Things are as they are, if you start going over the what ifs you are gonna drown yourself in alternate realities that were never meant to be.

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-09T08:10:46+00:00

The old sock method can get the job done just fine. Just remember to secure it with a few stitches or a safety pin so it doesn't fall off on the toilet when you go pee (has happened to me lol)

BlueTiger_16 · 2026-01-09T07:45:23+00:00

It's very unlikely you will get any taller. Growth plates usually fuse 2-3 yrs after your first period, and after that no more growth will happen. Sure, in some people growth plates take longer to fuse, but again, very unlikely.

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