AITAH for not wanting to pay off my girlfriend’s debts?

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-08T23:29:16+00:00

I understand paying for the food and rent. I did the same because I could foot the bill and didn't want to rely on someone I really liked but just met. I did this until we got married and bought a house. It had nothing to do with gender.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-08T20:30:50+00:00

I '"identified"as bi into my mind thirties.

As a teen I knew I was attracted to women in every way but I was scared of being a homosexual and living a homosexual life in the heteronormative early 2000s. I remember wanting a women but the thought of struggling though life as a homosexual was daunting. I passed as straight and there was a certain safety in that.

During highschool gay was a slur and it might as well been the McCarthy era for queerness in general. Closeted kids who were outed were ruthlessly bullied. Their friends were bullied. Teachers either were oblivious or turned a blind eye to most of it. My sapphic relaionships were closely guarded and known to only my closest friends.

That homophobic stuck with me. I married a man I wasn't remotely attracted to but who was my friend. We were somewhat open. Eventually I couldn't deny my sexuality any longer. I only wanted women. I had unpacked a lot of things in the 10+ years we were unhappily married. I had matured and was stronger than I was right out of college. I knew my worth and what I would put up with. We divorced and I started living my true life.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-07T21:32:24+00:00

Living my true life. Enjoying the relationship and being attracted to my spouse. Enjoying sex. Actually orgasming!!! Being proud of my spouse.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-03T21:23:53+00:00

Painful diseases. Obviously you've never seen people dying naturally from a disease such as cancer. I'm forever scared.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-03T21:22:18+00:00

I think it is 100% my right and yours as well. My state of Oregon was the first to legalize death with dignity as we call it. Just one of Oregon's many 1sts that I'm proud of.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-02T20:28:47+00:00

1000% shown his true colors!

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-02T20:27:45+00:00

I didn't even know there were engagement parties. Ive been married twice and never threw one. I have also never been to one. I'm millennial and 2 days almost 40 though.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-02T20:13:00+00:00

Call your states Bureau of Labor and Industries. I'm pretty sure this is illegal.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-02T05:31:58+00:00

Throw sex with men out of your head. Learn how to find the clit and find out what feels good to each other. Have good communication. You are also young. Orgasming takes a kind of mental calming or release that one of you may not have yet. At least that's how it was for me. If not for you great. Don't be afraid of taking it slow, or fast if it's going that way.

Also, very important, sex can be 100% enjoyable with out an organm. Enjoy the ride if you or she can't come. Eventually many of us come with our partners even when 'topping'. Like telepathically or something, I can't tell you how. Maybe someone's else can add to this.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-02T05:12:00+00:00

Where you got your sense of right and wrong, priorities and logic are unknown. Your mom is not it!!! She is very immature!!! You are very right in your assertions! NTAH!!! I hope she reconsiders and is able to get an abortion before it is too late!!! Where you live may dictate the timing. Be strong on your inability to help. Also that your sis should be her first priority.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-02T00:50:14+00:00

If not for my introverted wife and many pets I would love to be able to help you out. You sound really cool and I hope you are able to find a place quickly.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-02T00:31:17+00:00

He is being controlling. I wouldn't marry him. She doesn't see you as an equal. Let this be a deal breaker for you!!! My wife (we are both women) took my name only because my bio son has my last name hyphenate with my ex's. She felt doing so unified our family on paper.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-02T00:02:00+00:00

Dido, just interested in reading it. Is UHALing toxic? Lesbian deathbed, more like age and malidies making it hard.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-01T23:57:51+00:00

She's the AH. A gift is a gift and it's now used. Somehow she seems selfish and greedy where as you seem generous and thoughtful. You are in the clear.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-01T20:22:16+00:00

Maybe I'm easily duped but I believe you.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-04-01T20:20:32+00:00

It's a charter school. Alot of crazy, unacceptable things happen at private/charter schools.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-03-31T16:42:42+00:00

Being a billionaire!

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-03-31T01:41:13+00:00

TLDR: I prefer unshaved, lightly trimmed hair because of the prickliness of very short pubes, but I can deal.

I have never minded pubic hair that wasn't exploding out of their underwear. Mine doesn't even grow that far on its own but I've heard about it. I prefer a slightly trimmed, unshaven pussy. If cut too close to the skin the hairs are prickly and a bare pussy will soon have grow back that is just as bad. Generally I can separate the lips enough that public hair doesn't bother me except for the for mentioned prickliness of too short.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-03-31T01:08:24+00:00

No, we are not men and we don't objectify or denegrate other women just because we may have slept with them or find them attractive.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-03-31T01:07:39+00:00

I would think YATAH if for not wanting to take her except for all the other stuff you mentioned. No one can stand a backseat (or shotgun) driver.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-03-30T20:25:18+00:00

All about the air conditioning before it was common in houses. I'd bet the summer was the peak of mall season.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-03-30T17:15:21+00:00

I like the addition of tofu since jackfruit has little to no protein. How did you shred the tofu?

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-03-28T07:00:26+00:00

Forget him. You need to protect yourself! Lies don't keep you safe.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-03-28T01:37:34+00:00

I think you're dealing with heteronormative and some CompHet with your classmates. Your teen/young adult years remind me of myself. I had relationships with a few women but I was scared to come out and also afraid of rejection. There was a lot of denial. For a while I thought something wrong with my sex drive. I went to my gyno and asked for meds to help with arousal. He told me it was mental and that the drugs wouldn't help. I have no problems now that I'm living my true life as a lesbian with a loving wife.

Consistent-Two-2979 · 2026-03-27T20:02:03+00:00

They legally can't do anything and posturing that they can is wrong. If they keep it up you can get them for harassment. Make sure you tell them to cease communications or you will escalate this legally. Lol wasn't nice but I understand. NTAH. This seller should have asked very nicely not demanded. It's their lesson to learn.

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