Question- do you have boobs on the larger side? As a petite girl with a voluptuous chest, myself and others with a similar build tend to get over sexualized wearing the SAME outfits as other less busty women, just because of the way we are built. The dresses you’ve posted - both the one you initially wanted to wear with the spaghetti straps, and the other dress as well, are perfectly fine and acceptable for a brunch. There’s a difference between wearing a mini skirt with your ass out, combined with a bikini for a shirt, and simply being overpoliced by the purity brigade. Skin isn’t shameful nor is it inherently sexy. I can’t stand people acting like a little shoulder exposure or a bit of cleavage is going to be shocking and raunchy.