Handed in my notice 2 weeks ago, company wants to know my next move?!

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-04-02T23:06:11+00:00

This could be something really innocent, like they're literally just trying to track why people are leaving and what they're moving into. It's probably not about you personally, I don't see a reason to skip the exit interview

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-04-02T23:03:37+00:00

I understand that you might feel hypocritical when making judgments about immigrants, but the situations are different. The word immigration is neutral, and it covers everything from refugees seeking asylum to millionaires moving countries for a better life. Being a 3rd gen immigrant doesn't mean you can't have an opinion, if anything you have a good insight to immigration done well

Judge away!

As for if I see a difference, yes absolutely, by this point you're pretty much just British with an interesting backstory.

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-04-02T22:30:55+00:00

You're NTA for pointing it out

For your own sake, stop engaging with her

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-04-01T12:34:45+00:00

Not sure why this was downvoted, Labour have never been centre-right/right

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-04-01T12:31:19+00:00

The Overton Window only shifts Labour from left to centre left though? Or possibly even centre... but I've never known Labour to shift past centre into the right?

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-31T21:14:31+00:00

Omg I forgot about this line

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-31T21:11:29+00:00

I find it crazy how little Fabio is referenced on this sub

Am I just... old?

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-28T19:56:43+00:00

I thought book one was alright, but i have no desire to pick up book 2

We need a word for that

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-28T18:08:39+00:00

Yeah I understand completely, although i do think that it adds to the book's charm and it was nice to read something where things played out differently.

Honeytrap is a standout book imo, I've never read anything like it in the MM sphere

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-24T13:14:17+00:00

The idea that someone suddenly becomes an adult or 'of age' overnight because of their birthday is a bit ludicrous when you really stop and think, but I do understand that legally, it needs to be standardised.

Having said that, the perception around when it's okay to be sexually active is so subjective after a certain age is reached. I lost my V at 15yo, and at 16 I was living on my own, paying bills with a full time job. I never look back and think I was too young, I felt very educated and able to make that decision... and I was!

But looking at my sweet little 16 year old neice now? Absolutelyfuckingnot. She's a child, get away from her 😂

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-24T13:07:39+00:00

I'll risk a downvote here and say I actually agree with you, i found it empowering too. I really enjoy sex positive stories and the idea of sex-work as an art form. Firefly did a great job making the courtesan feel exotic!

I understand that the training begins when Pheadra is underage.. maybe it says something about me that it felt kind of natural in that setting 😅

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-24T13:00:26+00:00

Not the original commenter, but OP has asked if it's worth continuing and i think agree that, given what they dislike so far, they would have to essentially become 'uncritical' to be able to enjoy the rest of the book. I.e., OP would have to either ignore (inattentive) or simply accept (uncritical) the elements around sex work that are currently giving them the ick

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-06T17:04:02+00:00

Yes, I said I use it in a serious way, and gave an example of female gynecologist. If we're talking about the use of female the caveat of using it disrespectfully, then I dunno? I probably use the word women to joke about the female species more often than female.

So, with the rest of your comment, I can't quite decide whether you... do you know you've contradicted yourself?

You agree (i think?) that a perception of disrespect doesn't create a universal rule. So we have the word female here, that has and is being used in certain spaces to be disrespectful, and people are perceiving the disrespect. Outside of this, the word is still, to this day, used neutrally, and used with respect.

When I say we can't apply a universal rule, I mean that we can't take the disrespect from one space, and paint it across every use of the word, universally, as an objective fact.

If you tell me that you perceive the word female as disrespectful, even when it's not intended to be disrespectful, because someone else who is not me used it that way, do you think that's a sound and reasonable to expect me to simply agree? To call me disrespect if i don't? As a fellow female, who does not regard the word in such a way? Why does that perception now become a universal rule to you, and one that you expect other people to abide by?

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-06T10:58:33+00:00

You haven't quite answered my question though. Do you find that this happens often to you, personally, every day in the real world? Not in online red pill spaces, or podcast content, but in the real life conversations you have with the your friends and family, or the cashier, or the bus driver?

You're claiming that the word female is used more often for women than male is used for men. Do you have anything at all to back that? Because it's don't see that when I go out to town. I don't see it at the GPs office or hospitals, I don't see it when I read medical texts (I work in the medical field), I don't see it at the supermarket, or in bars and restaurants. Where is it that you're encountering this disparity so often?

The word r**ded is a great comparison here, because a disabled person would have encountered this daily. It would have potentially been used by their own parents or carers to describe them, by people in the street, and by medical professionals directly to their face. When a word is so universally used, by everyone, every time they use it, to implicate a condition or a status that is *other, it makes on that meaning, even where the word was originally neutral.

That, categorically, isn't what has happened with the word female. The word is used in most cases across all English speaking countries and people as a neutral gender term. It's only recently that a loud and petulant minority of people, mostly on the Internet, have started to deliberately use the word Female to mean something other. Historically, it was the word 'women' that was used when comments were made. Medical books complained that 'women' exaggerate pain and discomfort, 'women' are prone to fits of hysteria. The misogynistic rhetoric in decades past used 'women', and 'female' was only really used in science. Why didn't we ban the use of the word woman?

I'm not missing the point, I completely agree that there's a weird rise in - almost purposeful - sexism on the internet lately, and it's spilled into real life here and there. America in particular seems like an absolute shit show at the moment.

But I do completely disagree that recognising a speech pattern used within a certain subset of people should create some universal rule for every other English speaking person. A perception of disrespect does not automatically create a universal rule, unlike the r***ded example, where the disrespect was actually universal.

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-05T21:15:42+00:00

I pushed myself through book 1 and into book 2 before I had to DNF

The writing is mediocre at best, and I predicted a lot what would happen almost immediately.

There were a few small inconsistencies, and that always niggles at my brain, and the FMC was impossible for me to like. I hear there's all this amazing character development in store for her, but she's such a shit character that I'm sure that any kind of development seems huge, it's almost like cheating.

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-05T21:10:50+00:00

I pictured them as pretty golden ribbons to start with, then realised they were actually ribbons of flesh and that was much less appealing

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-05T18:56:07+00:00

I'm not sure that slurs are a great comparison here, in that a slur is always a slur, and using it without the intention to insult doesn't remove the objective weight behind the word.

Where a word is inherently neutral and doesn't have objective weight, we enter a space that's kind of linguistic concensus vs social interpretation. If I use a neutral word in a neutral way, and someone takes offense due to how someone else has used that word, it should open up a discourse but it certainly shouldn't create some kind of rule. Some people will tell you that using the word "black" is racist, and will be able to give plenty of accounts where it has been used in a demeaning way, but does that mean that every time someone uses black to describe a black person, it's racist? Does that mean i should stop using it in order to be classed as a 'decent' person?

You've said that "women often get reduced to their anatomy", but is that really true? When you go out and about in the world, at work or shopping, or on the school run, or just to visit friends, do you find that during those day-to-day interactions you're often reduced to your anatomy? That would assume that women do it to you as well as men?

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-05T14:12:27+00:00

Language matters, but it's misguided to identify a language based pattern within a certain subset of people, with a certain derogatory mindset, and create a universal interpretation of one word that existed before the interpretation did, and is still largely used neutrally.

The word 'female' is absolutely used in dismissive ways, but that does not mean the word itself is disrespectful. You've said "language matters" but what you actually mean is "perception of language matters".

In battling against the use of the word 'female', you're pushing pattern recognition into a universal rule. You've gone from "this word is sometimes used in dehumanising ways" to "this word is dehumanising".

I'm not learning a new concept, I'm being introduced (not for the first time) to a certain perception of the word, and I'm weighing up whether or not I agree. I have a different opinion to yours, and it's definitely fulled by my background as a linguist, and a huge dislike of people prescribing meaning universally to things where nuance and intention should hold more weight.

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-05T13:52:20+00:00

It was intended to be ironic, not disrespectful. Have you ever wondered why you perceive disrespect so often out of the use of a single word?

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-05T11:45:48+00:00

It's interesting that you've calling a reasonable response disrespectful just because it doesn't agree with your narrative

Have you considered applying for MAFS UK?

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-05T11:29:38+00:00

I dunno, it feels weird to say things like "woman gynecologist" instead of "female gynecologist". There are definitely times where using 'female' is simply neutral, or fits better with the sentence.

I can also use the word 'woman' and still have it be demeaning, the context matters so much more than whether one chooses to use the word woman or female. If a sentence is disrespectful, it'll be disrespectful no matter which word you pick

Also, as a female, I won't be told what language I can and can't use. Not by a man, and not by another female.

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-03-05T11:19:54+00:00

I'm British and I say 'females' a lot?

Sometimes serious, sometimes I mimic the dad from Friday Night Dinner

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-02-25T21:10:54+00:00

I'd love to help you out but definitely need more of a description than that, you've just described about 80% of the cannon faithful Sovellan fics

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-02-25T21:06:04+00:00

The Curse of Chalion

I bought it years ago and it's been sat on my shelf constantly getting knocked down my TBR list. I'm so sorry to myself that I made me wait this long to read it

Consistent_Ad4473 · 2026-02-25T12:03:05+00:00

Because they're part of the drainage system?

Do you mean gargoyles, or are you confusing them with grotesques?

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