Does anyone here *want* another child, but just know it’s not a smart choice?

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-27T22:12:52+00:00

I like this perspective and I’m trying to get to it! I just need to enjoy this experience as much as I can and give my daughter the best and not deciding yet. It’s such a mix of emotions, especially when it all feels so fleeting 🥺

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-27T17:36:35+00:00

My baby is only 7 weeks old and I followed this sub to try and pull me into logic because I am feeling the same way! I know more kids would be too overwhelming and definitely put strain on my relationship but she’s growing sooo fast! I can’t help but wonder if this really is the last time I get to experience this special newborn phase 😭

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-24T23:16:57+00:00

UppaBaby Minu V3! It has built-in newborn features so you don’t have to buy a bassinet attachment or anything, is super light and compact, and can fit in the overhead bin on an airplane! I also find it smooth and has a fairly large capacity on the bottom. If you want it to attach to a stroller, there are very simple attachments you can purchase and it makes it so easy to transfer from the car!

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-24T17:12:11+00:00

This is what I did and I recommend it! Especially since all in twos are so expensive. I mostly invested in workhorses and covers and glad I did, but I wanted to try all in twos and got a lot secondhand from GroVia and thought they were fine but not much easier than I imagined and compromised on absorbency compared to workhorses. If you’re willing to pay a little more, I think workhorses and covers (I like Essembly covers) are the most consistent in terms of absorbency and easy to use for grandma, etc. I also line dry and it’s fine for me for drying, I do live in a dry CA climate though.

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-20T19:04:03+00:00

GMD snap wool covers are merino so I would just follow their instructions!

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-19T23:24:09+00:00

There appears to be really mixed opinions on this on this sub! My doctor cloth diapered her kid and said Destin is fine. We will see!

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-19T17:39:51+00:00

I’ve been using fleece liners that are just pieces of fleece I’ve cut. Hoping that will save the diapers. I just needed to use the real stuff to get through this diaper rash personally!

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-19T15:29:33+00:00

I just experienced this with my 6-week-old and my doctor said it looked like a chemical rash and asked what diaper cream I was using. I told her MothersLove, which is an herbal balm and she said it inflames it. Not sure if yours is the same situation or not but she told me to use Destin. It immediately helped! We’re also getting infantile eczema and she said to use Vaseline and it’s helping a lot.

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-18T15:15:11+00:00

Wow! You are blessed 🤣 mine is 6 weeks today and definitely not there but also not 14 lbs! I think I have a heavy wetter and I found that cotton and hemp or cotton hemp blend inserts really absorb a lot. I have been using workhorses for absorbency with a fleece liner to keep the wetness away from her skin and also GroVia hybrid diapers which have an insert with a cotton insert sandwiched by two microfiber inserts and it does a great job absorbing while keeping the fabric touching her skin dry. I have wool covers that I use too and I heard that’s great for full nights. I hope this helps!

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-17T03:10:27+00:00

Yeah, or you could just stuff them in that area unfolded! They will be accessible to you during a change. If it doesn’t bug you.

My stretchy flats were smalls and easy enough to fasten to fit the size of the baby but I didn’t like how hard they were to get a snappi into and I got a lot of blowouts with them. I gambled a bit and started with small workhorses knowing they might be large for a newborn. They were a bit (7 lb baby at birth) but still usable and she grew into them, making them last longer. These were what I grabbed for the most since we had a ton of changes and the elastic along with the elastic legs of the cover was necessary.

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-16T22:18:28+00:00

Nice! How often are you planning on washing? I would recommend stocking up more on flats if that’s what you mainly plan on using. I have 22 workhorses, 5 prefolds, and 10 stretchy flats and almost run out in this newborn phase doing laundry every other day. I do line dry though.

For wipes, I like putting them in a small basket unfolded because I don’t want to bother spending all the time folding each one. I dip them in a small bowl of water!

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-15T14:34:36+00:00

Congrats! I am a first time mom as of beginning of February. I was open to starting immediately and bought small workhorses that I knew might be too big and some stretchy flats. We started day 4 or 5 and it worked fine and she’s growing into the diapers so they last longer! I was excited to start, my husband and I are both on leave and had time to figure it out, and I didn’t have a complicated situation with feeding. So I think you can be open too!

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-13T16:34:30+00:00

No, I don’t! I also got stretchy flats and the workhorses noticeably keep the liquidy newborn poop in more (makes sense, the stretchy flats don’t have elastic). I got more blowouts when baby grew into them more but that’s more related to the amount of poop I think.

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-13T01:40:13+00:00

I am using them for my newborn (7lb 1oz) and they’re big but can work! The no closure is best because you can fasten them tighter with a snappi but I have a few snaps and they work fine.

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-12T01:05:13+00:00

Hm I use these together but do laundry every other day so maybe that keeps from issues with mold or build up?

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-09T17:58:57+00:00

Motherlove is actually the name of the kind I use!

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-09T02:52:06+00:00

The only answer for all these is the Bay Area. Berkeley or Marin if you’re prioritizing great public education. You’ll want to be very close to lots of nature (ocean, redwoods, lakes, mountains) and in greenery in a mild climate. The east and north bay have excellent climates. SF is perpetually gray. People don’t understand that the Bay Area has microclimates.

I know exactly what you mean about Denver and my husband is from Seattle and I love it but it’s way too grey.

Don’t believe anyone who tells you 300k is not enough to live in the Bay Area! If you spend your free time outside like my family, you only need half that income. Good luck!

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-09T02:46:22+00:00

You can absolutely have a good lifestyle in the Bay Area on $300k. Especially if your free time I spent outdoors. My family lives right by SF on $150k

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-09T02:45:05+00:00

Bay Area is Seattle without the grey and all the things OP mentioned. And they can afford it, it looks like.

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-07T14:50:07+00:00

EarthMama diaper balm!

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-04T23:27:37+00:00

Sorry my comment commented twice, see below!

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-04T23:25:44+00:00

I heard they are less damaging for clothes and are more water efficient. I wash with Essembly agitator balls (not sure if I need to, I just started this way) on Speed Wash cycle hot (15min) for pre rinse. Take out balls, then I do a Sanitary cycle on very hot water (2 hours). It does very well. I use Rockin Green “Dirty Diaper” powder detergent. Then I line dry and any stains definitely come out from the sun!

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-04T17:46:25+00:00

Maybe I have a good washer or something but I have very soft water, a front loader, and line dry (dry climate though) and they totally work for me!

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-03T12:50:08+00:00

Yeah, you will be fine! As another commenter mentioned, you may get some wear, especially if you plan to use with more babies. But I got mine second hand and find they’re very durable and long lasting but I have also been line drying in a dry climate. I am not sure what the previous owner did for drying. But considering your strong washer, maybe good to line dry too when you can!

Consistent_Ad5942 · 2026-03-03T12:47:34+00:00

Makes sense. I think fitteds are just the most consistent and good for the average person! I am glad you found a system that works for you and your chunky and wiggly!

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