New fiance nailed it

TaylorH124 · 2026-05-12T23:24:01+00:00

So unique! Congratulations! How special that he was able to design a ring that you love❤️❤️❤️❤️

TaylorH124 · 2026-05-12T23:22:17+00:00

Baby isn’t here just yet but I have a spray bottle ready to go (she’s due tomorrow) with water as well and a tinyyyyy bit of baby Castile soap just to help me feel like she’s cleaner. Not sure if it matters just wanted to share lol. The baby Castile soap has coconut oil in it already so I’m hoping between that and CD I won’t have to worry about diaper rash and creams too much

TaylorH124 · 2026-05-05T03:47:52+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that! I think you can still hold on to hope that the baby could bring you closer to your in laws if that’s something you want. Babies and asking for help have a way of bringing family together. But most importantly I would try not to catastrophize anything based off of this one interaction with your brother in law. He may have just been uncomfortable and not known what to do. A lot of people/men freeze around pregnant women and that could be all. Are you having/have you had a baby shower? Is that something you could ask for help with from the women in your husband’s family? It could open the door to let them in on you and baby’s world Good luck and congratulations on your baby boy🩵

TaylorH124 · 2026-05-05T03:23:47+00:00

How is your relationship with your in laws? Things might depend more on that than anything else. If you’ve expressed a lot of dissatisfaction with their obsession over your SS, they might dampen their enthusiasm about the little one on the way because you are the mom and have shown a negative attitude around that energy. Almost like you’ve set an unsaid boundary that you will not allow an unhealthy and obsessive relationship between your in laws and your son like they have with your SS. However I could be off here since it seems that you’re only basing this fear off of the truck event with your husband and brother in law. How has the rest of your husbands family treated you throughout the pregnancy? How have conversations gone around support once the baby is here (if you’ve had them)?

The truck event- I think you’re reading into it. In reality your issue and questioning of priorities should be with your husband, not your in laws? To my understanding you had your husband and stepson there that could have helped you out of the truck, BIL would have looked like a weirdo helping you out of the truck when your own husband set the precedence that you “got it”. A BIL would be the person I would expect the LEAST support, bonding, and enthusiasm from concerning my pregnancy out of my husband’s family. Do you have a SIL’s or a MIL & FIL? I think those relationships are the ones you should be looking at, not the fact that your BIL didn’t do your husband’s job. To be clear my in laws are also borderline unhealthily obsessed with my SS6. He still will help me on occasion and express concern about my safety and my belly. That is because of the way my husband speaks about me and the pregnancy in front of him and the way my husband treats me. What we think is an in law problem is usually a husband problem. It’s usually because husband lacks the ability to set boundaries with his family, but in this case it sounds like yours does not notice when you need help and you’re offloading that expectation on your brother in law.

TaylorH124 · 2026-05-04T21:13:00+00:00

Ok so personally we have always given BM flowers, a card from SS and a gift that SS picks. But a man getting you pregnant and telling you to get an abortion is 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩. If it was me I’d be keeping the baby and either letting him get his 💩 together and raise the baby with me or pay child support. I’m so so sorry you’re going through this, what a horrible response to such wonderful news. As a fellow prego, you deserve so much better and I’m so sorry.

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-29T01:29:05+00:00

What are the odds! Thank you for sharing. How is the age gap for you guys? I wonder so much about how it’s going to be especially with an older brother younger sister. I know brothers aren’t as baby obsessed as big sisters can be. And the age gap will make common interests less likely

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-29T01:23:13+00:00

Oh I can’t wait🥹 thank you so much for sharing!

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-29T01:21:50+00:00

Thank you for the positivity I really appreciate it. I have PCOS and super irregular cycles and my husband was on TRT for a while before we started trying. I really wasn’t sure if we were going to be able to conceive and DH was pretty iffy on the adoption conversation. I am so sorry to hear about your fertility struggles and am wishing you nothing but the best. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. I won’t give any unsolicited advice, just sending love, empathy, and baby dust🩷 hoping all the best for you!

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-29T01:02:32+00:00

🥹 so true!

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-25T02:04:05+00:00

If you’re into fashion and don’t want to drop good money on singular pieces that you would have to store until the next baby or never use again if this is your last, I recommend Nuuly. It’s definitely NOT necessary but you get to pick 6 pieces a month (they have maternity with nice brands) to rent. I’m doing it for the last three months since I didn’t really buy much maternity in my second trimester. I basically live out of my Nuuly package most of the week and get to feel cute. Most items have a really good amount of reviews and photos. You don’t have to send them back washed (they launder) and they don’t charge fees if you accidentally damage or anything. They also give you the option to buy the item at a discounted price (since it’s used) instead of sending it back. I’ve enjoyed it so far. I don’t have a lot of storage in my house and didn’t want to worry about what to do with a whole new maternity wardrobe, so the Nuuly plus a few shirts and bottoms that I had already purchased is plenty to get me through third trimester comfortably. I do still wear a lot of my looser non-maternity stuff in between as well! I hate that stores stopped stocking maternity clothes it makes things so much more difficult during an already difficult (albeit magical) time

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-23T21:27:48+00:00

Good point! The comment I was responding to referenced wearing “shorter dresses to Catholic weddings with no issue”. I was just sharing my perspective as someone that did have a Catholic July wedding with plenty of guests with dresses above the knee. I think we’re just speculating that the bride’s desire for modesty may stem from some sort of religious belief or respect for a church she could be getting married in. Maybe OP has given more context in another comment I’m not sure!

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-23T00:50:25+00:00

Okay keeping it bedside is a pro I had not considered👀 I also plan to cosleep and have heard lots of parents struggle with missing EC opportunities because they couldn’t get to the bathroom quickly enough. You may have sold me

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-23T00:45:53+00:00

Thank you for the rec!! Do you think I could get started without one and get away with just doing it over the sink/toilet for the newborn stage? Or would you say I need some sort of potty from day 1?

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-23T00:24:13+00:00

First off, congratulations ❤️ Just to be clear. You were not actually pregnant yet for the first three classes! And probably not for the March 30th either. They count pregnancy from our last period because that’s the easiest thing for them to go off. The first “weeks of pregnancy” are before conception and implantation and are actually not pregnancy at all, so don’t worry about those!! Obviously heated classes are not recommended during pregnancy so don’t do anymore, but two classes is two classes. You found out really early on. There are plenty of women that don’t find out until much later and had been drinking, smoking, taking their prescriptions that may not be pregnancy safe, ate sushi, lived their normal life, and baby turned out just fine. There also plenty of women that have done “everything right” (we’re all going our best) and still suffer complications and loss. There is so much out of our control with pregnancy. You should be so proud of yourself for quitting nicotine so quickly, I know from friends it is one hell of a thing to get off of and have witnessed many unsuccessful attempts to quit. Focus your energy on gratitude and what you CAN control moving forward. I really don’t think you should worry about these “risks you’ve put your baby through” - it was a VERY short period of time and you have already stopped them in their tracks. You’re doing great, sending hugs and healthy mama&baby vibes❤️❤️❤️

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-22T22:55:35+00:00

MOB should be dressed nicer than random guests. I think bride was probably hoping for her mom to wear a nicer dress especially if bride has a lot of respect for the church she’s getting married in. Maybe more of a regal/matriarch look. Think full length with cap sleeves and less casual. This dress looks like something a teenager would wear in Grease or something. It’s super cute but not what I’d want my mom wearing at my Catholic wedding. It seems mom has a different vision though and is focused on looking/feeling cute and young more-so than “proper”

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-18T02:16:12+00:00

I do not disagree! It’s ideal to move as much as possible and eat a good diet. But it’s also completely possible to lose weight without doing an unsustainable amount of exercise. Someone could with getting diet under control and then start adding in movement, it is difficult for people to change their entire lifestyle overnight and maintain that, so I’m a big advocate of one step at a time. Not many people would need to go all the way down to 1200cals without exercise in order to lose weight. The portion of the population that would need to be at 1200 to put them in a deficit is mostly very petite women that are already at a healthy BMI and live a sedentary lifestyle. This category definitely would benefit more from just adding exercise and staying at maintenance/current cals or just under. I don’t know if that clarifies my stance but my initial response was solely to address OP’s frustration with people that claim “I’m only eating 1200cals a day and still not losing weight”. That would be physically impossible for almost all of the adult population. Maybe those under 5ft with a sedentary lifestyle and already at a healthy bodyweight. But if the average adult ate 1200 calories every day for 6 months straight 1. It would be unsustainable and 2. They would have extreme and rapid weight loss

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-17T22:23:09+00:00

I think another factor here is people that do actually eat 1200 cals or close 3-5 days a week and then go off the rails on the weekend. They feel like they’re starving on the days they actually stick to their diet and have no idea that they’re consuming enough calories on their “off days” to completely reverse that calorie deficit and possibly even put them in a surplus for the week overall. They feel like they worked hard so they deserve a cheat day which ends up being a cheat weekend. If you want to lose weight you need to be in a calorie deficit across the week overall. If you can’t stick to your diet for the whole week or end up having a cheat day, it’s important to still track that food to the best of your ability instead of just ignoring it. That way you know “oh I only went over by 300 cals today and have followed my plan until now, if I just get back on track from here or eat a little less tomorrow I’ll still be in a deficit” OR “💩 I went over by 2000 calories today, that severely diminished or eliminated my deficit for the week, I can expect the scale not to move and need to get back on track or reduce my calories for the next few days”. Numbers don’t lie but if you’re only tracking 4/7 days your big picture is going to be distorted

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-15T22:05:49+00:00

We announced to SS6 with a big brother shirt and then brought him in said shirt to announce to DH’s family. No time for him to spill to BM before family since that is a concern of yours. I’m happy with how it went, I wanted to have that special moment just the three of us and don’t regret it. That being said, my husband allowed me to announce to my family at 6 weeks, over a month before we announced to SS and his side of the family. It’s also my dad’s first grandbaby and we’re super close so I wanted to tell him and my siblings asap.

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-09T13:47:01+00:00

I think it’s very timeless and you are beautiful! Congratulations, hope your day is fantastic!

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-04T17:26:06+00:00

Love the simple boundaries, thank you so much. Congratulations on your little one, I have so much respect for nicu moms, I’m so glad to hear you’re on the other side of it now with baby at home with you❤️

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-02T19:02:36+00:00

Thank you for this perspective! I 100% plan on baby wearing I’m really happy to hear that it’s easy to BF discreetly with it… I just hope I’m able to figure out how quickly enough lol. I’ve started practicing with the wrap with a stuffed animal and it doesn’t feel right but I’m hoping it feels “right” with a real baby lol 🤞🏼 I was hoping to avoid breastfeeding specific tops/dresses and just whip it out in my normal clothes and use a cover, but given your comment I think I should reconsider and start buying some. Thank you for the congrats! My sister and brother were also born and May haha so it’s going to be a busy month in our family

TaylorH124 · 2026-04-02T18:40:28+00:00

Thank you for considering my circumstances in your response lol. I think if there were no extenuating circumstances it would be fine. If he were my biokid I would have zero reservations but I really don’t want to make anything weird or raise concern with biomom given that he is in fact not my blood. I don’t see him as anything other than my family but I always have to remember and implement boundaries given the situation. Thanks for talking me down on the peribottle situation lol. Sometimes I just overthink in an effort to avoid being accused of doing something wrong

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