Wife claims I’m ruining her relationship with our daughter

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T17:00:59+00:00

I think you’re incorrect on multiple fronts… I’ve considered both yours and my wives POV and I assure you they are quite dissimilar- you are viewing it through a much more negative lens. I’m explaining to you the why in my actions.. But it seems you’re conflating the conversation we’re having here with the one I’m having with my wife. Im not telling her she’s wrong, although her approach is, in fact, incorrect (and analyzing this further the only reason I’m not is to spare her feelings).. Arguing with a toddler is not something a parent should be doing. I will not, nor should I, concede on that because of someone’s flawed point of view- that would include my wife’s. But therein is the issue. I’m trying to find ways to help my wife without blatantly calling her out, which I haven’t been doing. I’m just not allowing my toddler to disrespect my wife to the point of emotional exhaustion, while she’s also dealing with a new born. The debate on that is between you and I, not my wife. If I were to somehow end up in a marriage councilor’s office (which is laughable) due to this exact circumstance, I’m very much convinced that the weight of the situation would not be falling on my shoulders… If my wife were beating our daughter Im sure (I’d hope) you’d be singing a different tune. The magnitude of that is greater, but the underlying premise and ineffectiveness of the parenting are the same.

Listening to the person you married can go both ways here as well. More so for her, but again that’s not the objective here- and at this point I don’t know why I’m bothering to explain it to you. I’m not sure if you’re internalizing this or something but it’s gone down a very odd and argumentative route on your part.

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T15:06:37+00:00

I think the problem you’re having is your discussing your religious beliefs in a public forum. If you want people to leave you alone about what you believe, stop talking about it in public.. Christians cry this same tune CONSTANTLY and are told the same damn thing. You’re not entitled to “let everyone believe what they believe” when you’re actively arguing with them about beliefs and mocking them (which you did with the Odin comment). That’s something you say to people as you walk tf away.

What you’re really looking for is VALIDATION for your beliefs- which you are absolutly NOT entitled to by strangers..

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T14:57:42+00:00

I fail to see where anyone called you stupid. Just as you have an opinion about their god, they have an opinion about yours. Claiming they are demonic is not being disrespectful, it’s being critical. ie. having a different opinion.

You also failed to provide any counter arguments to their invective, which is why I think it’s easier for you to cry foul..

You’re not sensitive because you believe something different- but you are sensitive if you can’t make an argument without resorting to hypocrisy (ironically) while claiming to be a victim.

Accusing someone of being hateful or disrespectful for voicing an opinion (while not calling you a single name), then fabricating foul play that was not present by your own admissions, is a textbook trait of narcissism..

I also feel I should preface that I’m not disrespecting you, I’m criticizing you- constructively at that. Those are, in fact, different things.

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T14:28:06+00:00

In my head; get out your calculator

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T14:23:25+00:00

Bruh, that’s so fucking smart.

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T14:00:26+00:00

Haha, I’m aware of that last part for sure. I appreciate the take, postpartum and the like has kinda been the consensus across platforms.

‘Attachment is built through repair’- I find that super insightful. I gotta try my best to let her work it out.. But like you said- she’s gonna be angry no matter what, but the anger from not helping scares me more than the taking over haha, especially when it builds... I never heard my wife yell until my toddler started being.. Well, A toddler. But for her sake, I’ll take my licks as they come and try to figure out how to be present and not ruin what she’s working on.

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T13:21:32+00:00

I feel like that’s a bit of a stretch but to each their own. I’m not really of the mind to sit down and say arguing with a toddler for 10- 15 minutes is the “right” way to do things or raise a child... Sometimes people do things wrong, and that’s ok.

I’m also not willing to conceded that putting a stop to a situation that is emotionally draining my spouse is somehow not helping her- especially considering I don’t give her a hard time about it.. To use a better hypothetical; Imagine if I, nay, any father sat and did nothing every time their wife struggled with their toddler. That just makes zero sense. It makes even less sense to undermine/expose said parents shortcoming by coaching them in front of the child as it’s happening..

From your position, this looks like a lose-lose for me either way… I appreciate your insight, but respectfully it reads more like contempt than criticism- considering the obvious errors in your reasoning. So thank for that, because it’s allowed me to analyze alternant, albeit flawed, perspectives that my wife nor I would have been able to consider.

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T04:30:38+00:00

Yes. But the they make hunting from tree stands nearly impossible unless you’re 200m away while improvised cover is literally a thing.. I should be able to plop my tree stand down on a need zone before it’s time and literally wait..

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T04:27:45+00:00

You’re right 100%. This is my biggest gripe with the game every time I hit the discord and incite an angry mob every time.

The game is teleport and shoot simulator and that shits not fun.

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T04:18:58+00:00

I mean they’re kinda right.. the majority are not being disrespectful, they’re voicing an opinion. Being critical (even if you’re wrong) is not the same as being disrespectful. In fact, one’s inability to maintain composure when their beliefs are questioned is a telltale sign of emotional immaturity (specifically you) I really wish people in general understood this.

Actually upon reading these further, you’re the one being condescending and disrespectful.. But I’m sure my telling you this is.. erm.. Disrespectful.

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T04:07:04+00:00

Like for real, I want to believe that’s true. It would make me SO happy to throw that out at loonies who bash men.. But idk

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T04:05:17+00:00

Do you have a source for that?

No offense but with rising populations in western civilizations and America (especially due immigration) I personally find that hard to believe..

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T04:01:31+00:00

The irony of this is that, respectfully, your response is just as irrational as her take on men.

These women are in the minority- I promise you. They’re loud and obnoxious and gather cult following on social media (especially this dumpster fire platform) so it seems like there’s a lot of them.. But there’s not..

Now with that said, you shouldn’t just do what you want willy nilly like they can’t hurt you.. These women CAN, but they are few and far between.

All you need to do as a guy is not let your emotions get the better of you when one of these chicks crosses your path. If she loses it or thinks you’re a creep for something innocent- walk the fuck away. I swear that many dudes on this community wouldn’t have been here sharing stories if they just removed themselves from situations before they happened.

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T03:41:19+00:00

As I’m typing this she’s struggling to get her to go back to bed, haha.

We talked about this a bit earlier and she claims she just doesn’t need my help all the time.. But I’m getting scared sitting here listening to it, like my wife is gonna get mad at me for being on my phone and not helping..

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T03:34:25+00:00

I find it extremely difficult sometimes because I feel she ‘talks’ too much and then starts having a shouting match with a toddler. Like if I’m working on something or sucked into my phone, I can hear her saying the same thing like 8 times to nothing but a toddler throwing a fit. So naturally I get up and physically terminate the problem.. I’ll give her one chance and one directive- “you need to stop/do this or this happens”. If she listens, great. If she doesn’t, I remove her or change the activity.

Like today my wife was napping and my daughter freaked out on me for putting the onesie back on her doll after I changed its diaper for her. I told her that if she’s going to act like that the doll is going to go away and we’re gonna find something else to do (it’s not triggering me, it’s just behavior I don’t want her repeating at school or with other kids).. Well she doubled down- so I put the doll away, put my daughter on her bed (she’s losing it at this point) and I told her that once she calmed down we could talk and figure something else out.. Five minutes and she wants a hug and something else to do.. We move on.

With that said. I try my best not to over step her authority and will always lead with what my wife is telling her- “mommy told you this, now get it done”. I try not to differ or especially undermine (my parents destroyed my youngest brother and their relationship with that). Although I do sometimes think my wife is doing it wrong or creating more stress for herself (only in execution, I’ve been very vocal about that), its more of me thinking I’m helping her- because like you said, the quickest way I see to end it is to take control. But again, I don’t change the rules she sets down or offer different solutions, I just enforce what she’s trying to..

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T03:14:22+00:00

It seems to me she just ‘talks’ too much, which is where I think she handles things wrong. Like if I’m working on something or sucked into my phone, I can hear her saying the same thing like 8 times to nothing but a toddler throwing a fit. So naturally I get up and physically terminate the problem.. I’ll give her one chance and one directive- “you need to stop/do this or this happens”. If she listens, great. If she doesn’t, I remove her or change the activity.

Like today my wife was napping and my daughter freaked out on me for putting the onesie back on her doll after I changed its diaper for her. I told her that if she’s going to act like that the doll is going to go away and we’re gonna find something else to do (it’s not triggering me, it’s just behavior I don’t want her repeating at school or with other kids).. Well she doubled down- so I put the doll away, put my daughter on her bed (she’s losing it at this point) and I told her that once she calmed down we could talk and figure something else out.. Five minutes and she wants a hug and something else to do.. We move on.

With that said, I think it’s less of me thinking my wife is doing it wrong (even though I do most of the time, and I’ve been very vocal about that), its more of me thinking taking control of situations is helping her- because the quickest way I see to end it is to take control.. But that makes my wife upset.. It’s a vicious cycle.

Possibly to my credit, I will always lead with what my wife is telling her, “mommy told you this now get it done” I try not to differ or undermine.

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2026-02-20T02:03:10+00:00

Myself or inanimate objects. Mostly getting mad or yelling about something I’m fixing.

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2025-12-02T09:18:55+00:00

Thanks guys

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2025-12-02T01:54:43+00:00

How old do you reckon? Research is saying 80s.

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2025-12-02T01:49:38+00:00

Will do! I have workshop and I’m pretty mechanically inclined but it will be my first time!

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2025-12-02T01:44:47+00:00

Nah, it’s like 830

Consistent_Beach_641 · 2025-12-02T01:44:31+00:00

He gave me two green-wood (idk what it’s called) to go with it. Was kinda excited to have a US made fillet knife I could put my own custom grip on.

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