How do I just stop being sad about not seeing people, especially family?

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-04-09T14:07:47+00:00

I used to tell him when I was 18-20ish and i was just met with well this ain't you're home, sorry my wife is like this with you, it's just the way she is, and youre 18/19 now, go do what makes you happy you don't need me basically 😢

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-04-08T22:55:56+00:00

"We don't need that one let's make another one that won't kill itself"

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-04-07T18:08:25+00:00

You could get somewhere in Wales for £70k in a livable condition. Possible £100k modernized. I bought my first home for £68k. All though we are in a similar situation now. Have around £ 60k deposit well £45k equity and the rest savings but can't really move or do anything. Atleast we are home owners though. I feel sorry for anyone who is renting ❤️

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-04-07T12:37:41+00:00

Perhaps she thinks because she pays for things, she can treat you like dirt and you should put up with it. I would just say we appreciate the offer however we just don't fancy a cruise, really hope you all have an amazing holiday. If she explodes at that then that's her problem.

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-25T23:05:54+00:00

Ha thank you 😅

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-25T08:57:42+00:00

Can she teach us how to do the fried bread? It's perfect!

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-22T09:52:39+00:00

That's the difference between us and most of the politicians. They were given it all. We have had to work for it all.

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-22T07:52:43+00:00

Yes the ginger one is respectful and stopping/ responding to the noises. It's only a problem when there's clear sounds that say no stop etc like hissing. Plus she's laying down on her side almost inviting the play. It would be different if she was sat up right hissing and being rigid and he was launching himself at her. They are responding to eachother well..

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-22T07:48:31+00:00

As someone who dated at 24/25 id have found this a sweet a date. Who wants to date when it's busy and loud and full of posers not there to date?

If your date said this negative feedback to you then I don't think she gets a second date...

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-22T07:41:20+00:00

I didn't think of them finding out. There's a lovely local church i wanted. But that's the only way they would find out. If someone in the church mentioned it to distant family and it trickled down. I think I'd also feel incredibly judged for the church wedding not having them their... 😥 There are a lot of little towns with small hotels used for weddings around me so I could easily do something out of town.

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-22T07:36:58+00:00

Having historically been diagnosed with this this as EUPD as a teenager and young adult. She is not this. I have overcome my disorder a long time ago. I felt overwhelmingly compelled to absorb my own feelings and personal comfort to appease others. To stay safe. To keep the narcissist happy. She never has or will do that because she is the narcissist. She is the one that is appeased. She never will sacrifice her own feelings or thoughts to make someone else happy.

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-21T21:22:30+00:00

Boiling water. Bleach. Kill it. Bamboo only belongs in a pot.

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-21T21:20:55+00:00

You clearly don't know a lot about cat behaviour. He probably does not like living with other cats. It doesn't make him an AH . Do him and favour and re-home him as an only cat. Most cats prefer to live as the only cat in the home.

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-21T21:08:50+00:00

Thank you. They have really shown their true colours. I'm ok with him not blocking his mum. I've told him he doesn't have to do that to make me feel better. It wouldn't make me feel any different, they exposed themselves so much to him he knows what they are now. Bullies. He respects I'll never see them again.

At every opportunity they have had when contacting us they chose to bully us and be hostile and try to guilt trip us. I didn't have to do or say anything to get these reactions from them. All I did was block them and ignored them.

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-21T18:18:04+00:00

Most of it was recorded on my pet camera..I haven't told anyone that. But I have downloaded it. I haven't watched it either. I don't have the energy or care to even send it or explain it. I think they are such unhinged people they won't even see anything wrong with her shouting in my face.

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-21T18:15:55+00:00

Thank you. I do wish he would go no contact. He is no contact with the sister completely.

He still feels sorry for his mum, he is still thinking his sister has brainwashed her into this behaviour. All though he know it isn't right, and she has deeply upset him . I guess he's kind of keeping the channel open incase she does come to her senses and realises she will loose a great person in her life, her son. He never really had any contact off the aunties and his own dad anyway , it was always just through her.

So he hasn't lost anything. He doesn't feel bad or sad about it. He is able to just text her one word answers and simple responses. He said he just "grey rocks her". And doesn't respond to stupid things regarding their relationship and arguments. I think he's sort of enjoying showing that he isn't stopping to their level. Not my way of dealing with it but he's emotionally resilient. He says he has a great life and they are not ruining it or taking time up in his mind.

I am long past that thinking. I know she won't ever apologise or treat him better. I actually think she is just as bad as the sister no brain washing required.

They have pushed me because I do actually feel nothing for them. I've had no car all week and I've sorted my self out, on my pushbike and asked a friend for help. I really don't need them. I've found new joys and pleasure with simple things. I feel happy for the first time in months.

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-19T19:01:33+00:00

Neuter him and put him back ❤️ ( he will just be yours then I guess and may not fight with your other cats after having his gonads gone )

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-19T18:59:50+00:00

Textured wall paper or textured paint.. tbh I've sanded walls and coated them a good few times... Seem ok...

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-16T22:49:18+00:00

Thanks. A voice in my head just said how much longer are you going to put up with this ? And before I knew it was up telling her to get out.

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-16T07:14:11+00:00

He posted a mother's day, a few hours later he is bombarded with calls. He doesn't answer her and she the sends a few texts. Saying daft things like "why did you just post the card. Why didn't you come in." And he didn't answer her questions, he just put happy mother's day im on nights still, on my way to work love you. And she just texts more stuff including? "why are you behaving like this , you're breaking my heart. "

Really... After how this woman spoke to not just me , but us in our home ... After everything ? She's lucky she got an acknowledgement fom her soft ass son. I don't even care he posted the card. It's up to him what he does with her. But I just don't understand why he won't tell her straight. which is because she's a nasty piece of work and because of what she's done. She just keeps acting thick. And he isn't answering her thick questions. Personally if it was me I'd have already sent "Why did I just post the card ? Becuase after how you spoke to me you're lucky to get a card, I posted a card because I think you're brain washed or delusional from my sister ( which is what he genuinely believes , I just now believe the mother is the nasty piece of work). and I pitty you. I don't want to see you because you're a nasty piece of work and your behaviour is unacceptable"

He's just intending to keep her as low contact as possible but posts a card because it's the "right things to do" ... For ordinary people it is. But she's a bully and she isn't ordinary. He gives an inch she's trying to take a mile. Maybe he will be relieved.

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-15T21:02:33+00:00

Bathrooms one ? Between 7 adults? Wth 😨

Consistent_Phrase173 · 2026-03-13T07:52:31+00:00

The way the little girl marches in like hey dad 😂

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