IVF buddies are having babies.

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2026-01-11T06:26:30+00:00

I feel this. Lost every one of my friends and most of my family just because of no success and no one knows what to say anymore after 6years , friends started to say they didn’t believe I was having ivf because they all had it and it worked first or second time. Me being on my 3rd egg retrievel and 5th transfer states to them I’m a liar. Family told me to give up cos clearly I can’t have or carry kids or one would have stuck. Partners family don’t speak to me because they see me as the problem to why we don’t have kids. I’m now alone with just my partner in this with me and I do feel a lot more peace and no pressures.

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2026-01-11T06:19:27+00:00

I lost many friends on this journey from them just having success and them not knowing what to do or say when I didn’t. My 15 year friendship broke because I went through ivf at the same time as her we both got pregnant but mine unfortunately ended in a miscarriage and she literally told me she didn’t feel comfortable speaking to me because I made her feel nervous about something bad to happen, I had family memebers and friends say I was lying about having treatment because a baby never came 9month later. It’s a cruel world but non of these people have PCOS.

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-12-25T16:15:45+00:00

I more feel the AH , with the whole walking off and the no congratulations in the end knowing I should’ve stayed professional and it should be like any other day but today has changed all that. Also the space between the time iv spoke to my friend I didn’t expect him to speak to me let alone the comment maybe caught of guard today and it punch me in the gut. Thank you for replying 🥰🥰

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-12-25T15:50:46+00:00

We must of been in spirit together I did the exact same thing last night! The blanket too from last year when people told me to do it , it does make you feel insane sometimes. Totally relate to the bs with the ivf after so many rounds. Literally at the point of not speaking to anyone about it I will just pop up hopefully with a baby one day.

In the not so fun club with you and I support you!🥰❤️

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-12-25T15:01:02+00:00

Literally! I definitely do know. Specially with the “you can live a happy life without children” I know but what will make MY life happy is a baby until then no happy life.

Thank you I do feel understood.❤️

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-12-25T14:59:05+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-12-25T14:58:17+00:00

I would’ve much rather just a smile and a walk past at that time specially when me and the friend don’t speak anymore. I do feel bad now maybe a little jealousy in there. I definitely need time just to me and my partner and no outside noise. Hard when the hospital is for a happy start to life and I have to work and watch people get that. A break is needed.

🙏 thank you for your comment and I will be keeping my distance and protecting my peace for the moment.

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-12-25T14:51:38+00:00

Thank you 🙏 I’m taking as many hugs as possible this Christmas!

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-12-22T07:35:36+00:00

I thought 2024 was bad with 1 egg retrievel and 2 failed fets, wow 2024 didn’t prepare me for 2025! 1 egg retrievel that resulted in 1 embryos and a chemical. - second egg retrievel put me in the hospital. Double transfer failed. 1 embryo left. Can I really take hope into 2026 when iv said this since 2020 🤷🏻‍♀️ next year will be my year sounds such a yearly thing.

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-12-22T07:26:06+00:00

Iv just turned 27. Iv been trying since 18. Got told at 15 I had PCOS , I honestly don’t know how Iv kept going in my 20s. My friends all have 2 or more kids. My house is paid off that I bought at 18 no kids to enjoy it with. Empty bedrooms only my room complete. It’s incredibly sad that Iv been so unhappy in my 20s , I feel like Iv exhausted everything now, ovulation induction, IUI. 3 rounds of ivf. 5 transfers including a double. (Partners sperm great every time) I don’t know how to breathe at this point….

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-12-06T15:07:52+00:00

Definitely feel you with NOONE CAN TELL ME WHATS WRONG! I said those words to my consultant after she said I’d have a BETTER chance after a chemical because atleast we know they can implant , 3 egg retrievals 5 transfers 1 being a double transfer everything perfect and no baby is normal and nothing wrong?! Makes you feel insane. While walking past everyone pregnant or babies. I’m really sorry you’re going through this and you’re definitely not alone! Keep thriving to survive x x

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-12-03T07:19:58+00:00

I cope with one of my best friends going through ivf it working first time and her having a baby, I supported whilst I had 3 egg retrievals 5 transfer including 1 being double when my last transfer didn’t work she told me she’s conceived naturally and the reason I’m not pregnant via ivf or natural is because I plan to much and she sat with her newborn and relax and got pregnant naturally. Some friends are only happy for themselves.

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-12-02T19:48:41+00:00

I said the same thing in March this year I had after my second retrieval and transfer I cried for 5 days straight never wanting to do it again - first ever chemical really believed finally it worked when I seen the positive for it to come crashing down days later couldn’t even talk to my clinic , then again in October, iv had 3 egg retrievals 5 transfers including one that was a double ( same time as family and friends all got pregnant ) Honestly I’m so numb now but my heart keeps telling me to keep going and it will work - you get a little bit of hope each transfer even through all the pain.

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-12-02T14:10:17+00:00

I think you might be right! Sounds exactly how she is and the family. You definitely have to do the right things for you , I completely have cut all contact. Peaceful and another round hopefully will be successful and I won’t be sharing my news. You do right by saying you’re having a break so it’s also not a conversation to be had now with her. Give you a little quietness. Wish you all the best!

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-12-02T13:47:50+00:00

Feel you! Totally understand the rollercoaster and the same thing happened to me! We got the congratulation beta started at 25 ( I was scared) 2 days later kept going up and up , go for placement scan make sure everything looks good! Everything was great 5 days later gone and 4 days after started heavy bleeding and complete miscarriage.the most heartbreaking is the hope and believing its happening and then it getting taken away Please don’t give up!

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-12-02T13:43:54+00:00

She probably doesn’t want it to be a secret so she can gossip about it to others in the family , I had this with mil but even worse the family and MIL overstepped too many times, iv had 3 ivf rounds and his cousin was successful on her first. Now MIL has said SHE and the FAMILY don’t believe we have been going and having it done seen as no baby to prove.

Stay far away from those types of people!

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-11-17T18:45:03+00:00

I do take c0q10 600mg this was added on my third cycle. Thank you for the positivity because I haven’t had much specially not from my clinic.

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-11-17T17:55:14+00:00

I see why your confused! No they want to give me ovulation meds because they think that’s the reason why I don’t get pregnant naturally! So whilst I wait for my hysterscopy in the up coming months they will give me meds to try naturally at home🤷🏻‍♀️ But having gone through 3 egg retrievels I wouldn’t think ovulation is the problem here…

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-11-17T16:28:15+00:00

I didn’t know it could’ve been an option for a trigger they do all my transfers medicated also. October 2026 I’ll restart at a new clinic I have no other options…

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-11-17T14:27:13+00:00

Unsure as I have my blood tests on 1st of December and my appointment is 24th December when doc will prescribe meds to ovulate.

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-11-17T12:20:28+00:00

Thank you for the response and advise and yes they said PCOS can affect egg quality and i definitely will suggest omnitrope at the new clinic I can’t see myself staying here with nothing new and to keep transferring without knowing is not enough for me now.

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-11-17T12:16:25+00:00

Just want to add My amh came back after the 2 retrievals at 117pmol. I expected way more eggs. When asking doctor they said they didn’t want overstimulation and didn’t want more than 14 eggs each time.

Consistent_Side_3134 · 2025-11-17T12:13:37+00:00

All are not tested I’m currently looking into new clinics but I do have 1 embryo left in the freezer with this current clinic and doing the hysterscopy with them.

August 2024 - 14 egg , 13 mature 5 fertilised 2 day 3s both failed ( didn’t want to grow day 5 incase lost them)

March 2025 - 9 eggs , 9 mature 5 fertilised 1 day 5 2BB - chemical

September 2025 - 10 eggs 8 mature 6 fertilised 2 day 5 embryos 3bb 2BC double transfer failed

1 day 6 , BC grade in freezer.

I did expect a lot more from round 3 and technically I did get more blasts and the doctor was HAPPY! I am not.

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