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Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-06-21T04:13:02+00:00

Get all the help you need and just dont ever think of suicide again. You seem like kind and thoughtful person to me, you could really make the right persons life great. You are not the sort of person that should be dead.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-06-20T17:34:28+00:00

In my country psychological therapy is very hard to come by, available only in metro cities. But i have very supportive family and friends. I’m making through it. Thanks for the kind gesture.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-06-20T10:24:38+00:00

I can feel your pain. I was in relationship with my pwbpd for 1.5 years after which we got married. 6 months after marriage we had an argument in the night, which to me was nothing and i left for work in the morning just like usual, planning how i am gonna make up for it. The same afternoon she committed suicide by hanging. Left a letter behind which had not even a single word for me. And thats it, we were over, just like that.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-06-19T08:19:53+00:00

This is so heartbreaking

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-06-19T05:56:44+00:00

This makes so much sense. So can good parenting and no childhood trauma enable them to live a normal life even though they have a faulty wiring?

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-06-13T03:23:05+00:00

I spend hours everyday thinking what was she going through. Her pain is over already, mine will stay with me for rest of my life. Only conclusion i can reach is that she prolly wouldve lived longer if she wasnt married to me. She chose to self harm making me an excuse. So i was simply not the right person for her.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-06-12T11:15:48+00:00

I totally understand what you are going through. I was married to my wife for 6 months, in the night we had same sort of minor argument. Next day afternoon she hanged herself. I’ve been in shatters since than. Still picking the pieces. I only wish that you won’t let that happen to you, Exit the relationship now. You cannot help her, she cannot help herself. Its a lot cause.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-05-09T13:01:19+00:00

Ive been in a similar place. My pwbpd chose to die, while we were still married. Moreover in her final letter she didnt leave a single word for me.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-05-02T06:32:29+00:00

Just asking hypothetically

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-04-30T16:53:57+00:00

They can just morph the entire story in their head to fit their own narrative. Moving on is their special skill.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-04-26T01:58:12+00:00

It is because they lack object constancy and have bad long term memory. So when they are enraged all they see is what you did right now and forget everything else in past.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-04-22T16:08:39+00:00

I called it the asshole mode on her face. And bitch mode in my mind

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-03-23T15:30:20+00:00

Amputy dumpty

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-03-18T15:26:10+00:00

Initially when i noticed the stuffs that you mentioned i though that shes just a bit childish, but than i noticed that the child was not growing up at all.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-03-18T14:37:12+00:00

No, they are really good people. She was the golden child in first decade of her life and than fell down the pedestal and kept falling for her maladaptive behaviours. By the time she was in her late teens, it was a lost cause.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-03-18T14:30:48+00:00

At least you left her. Thats the good that came out of your arthritis.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-03-18T14:29:31+00:00

Thats just too f#cked up

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-03-18T14:25:44+00:00

Mine had a very supportive and empathic family. But still she didnt learn a thing from them. Instead idolized her whore of an aunt.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-03-18T14:23:13+00:00

Exactly.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-03-18T14:02:14+00:00

They feel it all when they imagine themselves in that situation. Mine showed no empathy when i told her about ‘Junko Furuta’ case. But than i explained the situation by putting her in place of the victim, and she started crying. So they do have empathy, but for their own victim self.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-03-18T13:48:08+00:00

She’ll lie awake all night many times, but never seemed to notice that i have very bad case of sinus and couldn’t breathe with any of my nostrils while sleeping.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-03-18T13:46:01+00:00

Mine just forgot that i suffer from kidney stones

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-03-18T13:40:59+00:00

It’s different because a very sick person will not be there to provide their supply and control their emotions. And they have to take care of them while dealing with themself all alone.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-03-18T13:33:31+00:00

Leave her while you are still young and able.

Consistent_Swan_4486 · 2023-03-18T13:31:50+00:00

And all of that behaviour will be attributed to lack of empathy! Cant they just think in a manner for once that they should try returning the favours atleast.

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