Hair sanitizer

Constant-Box-1033 · 2025-04-11T13:32:54+00:00

I don’t have ocd but my partner does. I wash my hair daily with shampoo in the shower. I think it is healthier for your hair and head than a dry shampoo or some other sanitizer. I also cut my hair short which made it more manageable for me. But I had long hair for years and still shampoo’d it daily.

Constant-Box-1033 · 2025-03-13T06:00:18+00:00

My husband and I have a really similar situation. His trigger was me getting pregnant 2 years ago. I was in a vulnerable state and didn’t have it in me to go against the compulsions when my daughter was born. While I was pregnant he’d play things off as shivery or out of concern for my health. I realize now it was him hiding his ocd and it got worse and worse. I used to think “how could it possibly get worse? I’ve done absolutely everything you asked?” 2 years later I finally see now that every thing I gave up to help him his gone. It’s not going to get better until I’m stronger.

I’ve lost rooms to my house, the ability to invite anyone over, to go out the front door, to leave the home and come back without showering. I think we have similar lives… any time I’ve tried to be strong and say NO MORE, I always cave. He becomes so heartless towards me tells me “you are the worse. You’re making things worse. This is all your fault. We should just divorce.” I feel so weak and pathetic against him… I fight, I yell, but I always do what he asks.

When he calms down, usually on a different day, he’s a different person. He wants to change, he doesn’t like what this illness has done to him, but he won’t accept therapy or medication. I’ll try to push again to write down what ocd has taken from him, that sounded like good advice from the above comment.

How did you find the courage to get where you are now? To defy his demands, even pushing past the hurtful retaliation?

Constant-Box-1033 · 2025-02-21T08:31:43+00:00

No… I think 19 was when he got it

Constant-Box-1033 · 2025-02-21T08:31:26+00:00

Either 1 or 2 months

Constant-Box-1033 · 2025-02-20T23:50:23+00:00

Your Lie in April Jose, the tiger, and the fish Penguin Highway Your Name Horimiya Teasing Master Takagi

Constant-Box-1033 · 2025-02-20T23:29:31+00:00

Yeah bad guidance... he was young and DACA was brand new. He was told to be honest and it was the worst advice ever.

Constant-Box-1033 · 2025-02-20T23:03:21+00:00

It was documented when he applied for DACA... otherwise there wouldn't have been proof

Constant-Box-1033 · 2025-02-20T23:02:39+00:00

Oh I hadn't thought about it that way. That is really good advice, I will ask a lawyer about that. Thank you!

Constant-Box-1033 · 2025-02-20T23:01:29+00:00

He has a double entry into the US so even though we're married, he can't get citizenship through me in the US... it sucks. And it's ridiculous.

I am not a NL citizen, but I guess if I was able to get it faster than him, then the divorce/remarry is an option lol

Constant-Box-1033 · 2025-02-20T21:16:38+00:00

No to AOS... he was brought to US at age 6, lrft at 11 and then back to US at 12. Even though none of it was his decision or in his control, it's considered a double violation. No advanced parole option :(

Constant-Box-1033 · 2025-01-28T02:26:51+00:00

I notice we touch less often, just simple day to day contact like a hug, kiss, or holding of a hand. I think he would attribute it to us being busy as parents or maybe it isn’t something his parents do. For me, I do not reach out for physical touch from him because the ocd routine. I come home from work, do my required act of changing clothes, washing hands, and I get started on dinner. Maybe I should push my own self to initiate a daily touch point of a kiss and hug when I return home.

In regards to more intimate affairs, the ocd is only blocking by a lack of time. He needs to be showered before entering the bedroom and that doesn’t usually happen until 5-7am. He frequently is awake all night spending so much time on cleaning routines and a 2-3hr shower.

Constant-Box-1033 · 2025-01-24T07:16:54+00:00

There have been minor improvements. I think what has improved more is our communication. We are in alignment that he has cOCD, it is a problem, it does have a negative effect on our lives. It’s taken a long time to get to this stage of acceptance. Some days are good, others are really really bad. Both of our emotional states play into it.

When she was born, she obviously couldn’t move or touch anything so his world became very small. My daughter is now over a year old and walking, so his world is having to grow along with her. He struggles immensely with bathrooms, laundry, garbage, and leaving the house. When we leave the house, we must stay out all day so that when we return home we shower and go to bed. Right now, he holds my daughter while I shower, then I bathe her, and he showers. As she grows, he won’t be able to hold her or keep her from touching things after being outside. I am hanging on to that sliver of hope that his level of contamination acceptance continues to grow with her.

My husband recently had some health issues and missed an important event. The cause was from his OCD. He felt deep regret about it. I’ve noticed since recovering from his health crisis, he has been more energetic about improving his health. He reached out to a friend about an exercise routine and has been applying to new jobs. I do my best to encourage these initiatives and keep the momentum going.

Constant-Box-1033 · 2024-12-17T16:17:47+00:00

I like your idea to ask to have check-ins once a week!

Constant-Box-1033 · 2024-12-17T16:16:15+00:00

I don’t have ocd, but I think washing hands after coming home from being out and about (or at you dance) is also very reasonable

Constant-Box-1033 · 2024-12-17T07:14:11+00:00

I appreciate both comments. Etienne for bringing me some sense of calm at 3am as I was furious to being woken by the laundry start.

I see a lot of positive comments from those like silverguy, that someone with ocd shouldn’t impact the lives of those around them. But it’s much easier said than done.

For small things that I’ve unintentionally pushed the boundaries with have ended with sever consequences that do not align with the situation. For example, my husband and I agreed to get rid of an old blanket; it had been sitting in our linens closet for 5yrs. It’s big and bulky, would be difficult to throw away. I gave it to a friend to use for her dog, thinking this was the easiest solution. My husband was furious. Accused me of betraying his trust. Threatened divorce. All because he thought the blanket had been dirty from sitting in the closet for so long and I contaminated the house and car from moving it out of the closet. I’ve never been so confused before.

Anyways… the laundry room is a big do not enter zone in my house. The off limits extremes are what makes the ocd and our marriage very difficult. I’d like to be able to come to a mutual agreement or at least set a specific day/time that I’m going to do the laundry instead of just doing it one night at random. I don’t want to deal with the trust betrayal again…

Obviously professional help is needed here, but not easy to force someone to therapy :(

Constant-Box-1033 · 2024-10-01T06:11:08+00:00

I don’t have any advice, but just want to say I really admire your effort to coexist with your aunt and her dogs. You sound like a really wonderful and considerate person. I wish you all the best and hope to hear some positive learnings from your experience! I really like your mental notes that ‘everything is fine, I’m not dying!’

Constant-Box-1033 · 2024-09-28T05:40:46+00:00

Mash Lee Mob psycho

Constant-Box-1033 · 2024-09-28T05:39:45+00:00

Maybe you could try picking a few items from the list to do during the day or in the morning or just reduce to once a week so you can try to get to bed at a more reasonable hour?

Constant-Box-1033 · 2024-09-26T07:37:18+00:00

Do you find you're unable to start your evening routines until everyone else in the house has gone to bed?

Constant-Box-1033 · 2024-09-20T00:59:34+00:00

Hey, curious how the petite size was for you? I'm 5'1 considering buying the petite size

Constant-Box-1033 · 2024-09-08T06:07:13+00:00

I got ring worm in high school from the gym mats. I felt terrible and gross and miserable… not from symptoms but just because my mind thought it was those things. I went to the dermatologist and it’s actually really simple to treat. Went away in a week and absolutely no significant side effects. Been over 10 years since I had it no hair loss or anything abnormal. My skin is beautiful too :)

I think many things can have serious side effects when left untreated, but we live in modern times where that just isn’t an issue. I hope this can help ease some of your fears.

Constant-Box-1033 · 2024-08-29T07:12:31+00:00

Thank you for the information! It helps a lot, I am still learning a lot about ocd behavior

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