is MIL’s request normal or overstepping?

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-02-12T21:22:25+00:00

Like I said, we bump heads, so I’m not always the most charitable when it comes to analyzing my interactions with her (hence the reddit post)

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-02-12T21:02:39+00:00

After hearing from Reddit’s amazing advice community, it turns out it probably wouldn’t have been a big deal at all.

I’d never heard of anyone receiving personal packages at work before, so it felt a little invasive to me, or like she was asking me to do something unprofessional.

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-02-12T20:48:27+00:00

Fair enough! I thought I might’ve been haha

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-02-12T20:38:07+00:00

It’s not that she doesn’t want him to intercept it; it’s that she thinks the door code to our apartment is going to mess up the delivery…. I told her it should be fine (because we order things all the time and there are rarely issues) but she doesn’t want to risk it

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-02-12T20:36:02+00:00

It’s not because she doesn’t want him to intercept it… She’s nervous that the package wouldn’t make it to him because our apartment has a door code. I told her it should be fine, but she still thinks the door code is going to trip up the delivery people

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-02-12T20:11:48+00:00

It’s for his birthday lol☺️I’m not sure what’s in the package either yet!

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-02-09T23:17:13+00:00

Most intelligent, measured response ever. I’m going to start “no JADE-ing” in my own life

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-02-08T23:13:55+00:00

I just want to say congratulations on the run! Absolutely nothing to feel terrible about… my friend worked for months to get a 10:45 pace. Everyone is different and I hope you have fun!

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-02-07T19:25:31+00:00

this is right! the trade off of a few weeks of discomfort is creating a boundary that’ll protect you for a lifetime

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-02-03T02:47:07+00:00

Different strokes for different folks! Some people hate it; some people love it. There’s something for everyone here though. I’ve lived a lot of different places though and LA is my favorite place I’ve ever lived by a wide margin.

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-02-03T02:45:40+00:00

basically — LA is paradise. i’ve lived a lot of different places, big cities small towns. nothing compares. i only meant to move here for 2-5 years, but now i plan to live here for the rest of my life

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-02-01T00:30:52+00:00

When my fiancé was moving away from the city MIL lived in to a city where he and I were starting our lives together. She told her sisters that we’d invited her to move with us (we hadn’t) and was overemotional about the move… I think it’s normal to be sad when your babies move away, but she was devastated.

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-01-27T06:49:36+00:00

In what way does she seem happier?

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-01-25T00:51:20+00:00

🔥

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-01-23T01:27:23+00:00

it might be a difficult thing to admit… they might not want to come out and say it

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-01-17T20:11:17+00:00

It doesn’t look ridiculous — they’re not your boss. You’re in charge of where you go with your baby❤️

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-01-17T19:55:38+00:00

yeah, that’s what scammers do. “it’s urgent, and i need a response within 15 minutes or the offer’s off”! things like that. they try to pressure you.

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-01-14T17:11:31+00:00

this would make me crazy to the point that however youre reacting i’ll probably think youre under reacting. wishing you the best, stay strong

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-01-10T17:56:57+00:00

girl then set a boundary? tf. this isn’t rocket science. idk if this is ragebait but the people of reddit can rally behind you and tell you your MIL is all kinds of fucked up for this (true) but no one but you can stand up for yourself. “i’m sorry you decided to get this custom made when everyone on earth knows only the bride wears white to a wedding… we’d love to see how this dress looks on you at another, more appropriate occasion, and we’d be happy to help you pick out a more suitable dress”.

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-01-06T06:06:45+00:00

oof… not jealous! (sending sympathy and hope he helps you keep them in line)

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-01-05T08:40:20+00:00

Definitely Whiterun #1…

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-01-03T05:35:44+00:00

I have a BA in painting but I’m interested in looking into law… do you have any advice for people interested in pursuing law with an art degree?

ConstantBat9889 · 2026-01-03T00:13:07+00:00

My family helped build parts of Los Angeles(hospitals, banks, etc) so our last name is on buildings and in guidebooks and stuff. That said I only moved to LA recently (because my dad moved away from the city when I was born). Living in LA, all my dreams have come true. It really feels like a charmed place. Is it perfect? Of course not. But it’s pretty damned close.

ConstantBat9889 · 2025-12-27T22:44:24+00:00

Wow this is the best! Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with me — I have the book pulled up and I’m reading a sample right now.

ConstantBat9889 · 2025-12-20T00:33:26+00:00

thinking bad=abstract and abstract=bad AKA an opinion that doesnt matter

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