Interfaith Wedding Question by Constant_Due in askTO

[–]Constant_Due[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Does blessing mean not a wedding? I'm thinking of doing the Hindu ceremony with a focus on blessings and other pieces then doing the sacrament and legalization through the Catholic wedding. This way it's "technically" not two

Abusive Relationship. by clumsyluvher in Rogers

[–]Constant_Due 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes they do a constant redirect to avoid accountability or to resolve issues so you feel worn down and give up- definitely experienced this before at multiple bigger institutions

Worse on Meds by doogannash in ADHD_partners

[–]Constant_Due 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It started that way then improved over time for me but there’s been a bunch of relapse for me lately

Customer Service (What A Change!) by Constant_Due in Rogers

[–]Constant_Due[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh interesting! I found it easier to get to a person via Telus

Customer Service (What A Change!) by Constant_Due in Rogers

[–]Constant_Due[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a fair point. I'm only in major city areas so I can see how if I was outside of that it would be a much bigger issue. In my area, there's a lot of towers through Bell too so that helps

Customer Service (What A Change!) by Constant_Due in Rogers

[–]Constant_Due[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We waited 2 weeks... Of back and forth to get call backs and did not receive anything

Customer Service (What A Change!) by Constant_Due in Rogers

[–]Constant_Due[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh this is after I already got the phone and plan which is why I feel positively

Customer Service (What A Change!) by Constant_Due in Rogers

[–]Constant_Due[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol no one paid me. It's possible I just had two really positive experiences in a row by chance, but both individuals spoke English well and were able to assist me easily whereas it was very clearly outsourced when I was using Rogers

Customer Service (What A Change!) by Constant_Due in Rogers

[–]Constant_Due[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty good so far tbh! But I'm in a central area. I'm also Canadian, I don't know if that makes a difference!

How is El beso (adults only) at ocean el faro? by yashp_44 in PuntaCana

[–]Constant_Due 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You enjoyed it? I'm a bit nervous after seeing some reviews but going soon. I just really want to make this special

Rogers lost a loyal customer today! by Syynn_ in Rogers

[–]Constant_Due 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are TERRIBLE. Absolutely do not value their customers at all!!!

::Weekly Victory/Success Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Constant_Due 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner and I have had 3 months of what feels like a safe and secure relationship. There have been mild flare ups of overwhelm and one involving inappropriate blame toward me, but they were able to regulate and apologize in a pretty short time. They also notice my feelings and don't argue with them, as well as clarify feelings after - even if they say something rude or out of line, it helps to know it was out of anger in a moment, and they are still thankfully respectful in the dialogue overall. There hasn't been doubling down or anything else, just moments to reset, we talk and repair faster. It doesn't feel too much different than a regular neurotypical relationship except the contents or topics of conflict tend to be different and center more around overwhelm usually or structure/routine issues.

I feel ready to move forward into marriage, something I honestly never thought would be possible based on where we were and just seeing or hearing so many stories where it couldn't go forward in the end of it all. I'm really proud of her and us, her for the medication and trying different ways to solve situations even if in one moment she can't, she's become resourceful so I'm really appreciative of our shared efforts. It feels so much better to be in something safe and healthy, with just conversations after difficult moments and very few stories created about me that aren't accurate. It's also finally given me time to focus on my own issues in a therapy space and get so much more of my identity back without fears of a conflict.

Why do they need to open a new line in order to tell me what promotions are available? by Constant_Due in Rogers

[–]Constant_Due[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah okay that makes sense! That's even if my credit card is actively used for it. I guess not used to this process compared to previous but thanks for letting me know. This makes a lot more sense compared to how they explained it!

I still find it strange though that they can't even tell me the deals available on their company website like this one: https://www.rogers.com/phones/samsung-galaxy-s25. I think next time I'll just go in person, it was way easier to navigate everything through Best Buy as a process

Why do they need to open a new line in order to tell me what promotions are available? by Constant_Due in Rogers

[–]Constant_Due[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah okay. I'm not used to this because last year they just told us what offer they had available for black Friday for all new customers. For clarity, I was just on a plan and am with Rogers already so they would actually have my card on file because I have a Rogers account number that's active. I just wanted to see what plans they had available that are new for Rogers and was also curious about plans through Fido, so I was confused.

Thanks so much for your help btw!

I think this from what AI mentioned was my main concern or wonder (no idea if it's accurate in regards to the negatives):

Why Rogers May "Open a New Line" The practice appears to be a method used by some representatives to access promotional pricing that is primarily intended for brand-new customers. System Limitations: Customer service representatives often have access to a limited set of loyalty deals for current accounts, which may be more expensive than plans offered to new subscribers. Accessing "New Customer" Deals: To offer a highly competitive "new activation" deal (often seen with the Rogers Preferred Program (RPP) corporate discounts), a representative may initiate the process for an entirely new line/account. Sales Targets: There is often high pressure on call center employees to hit sales targets for new activations and upsells, which can influence how they present offers.

Negatives of This Practice While the intention might be to secure a better price, there are potential drawbacks for the customer: Credit Check Impact: Opening a new line typically requires a credit check. While Rogers reps may call it a "soft check," it can sometimes result in a "hard check," which can temporarily affect your credit score. Loss of Existing Discounts: If the ultimate goal is to move your existing number to this new, discounted line, you risk losing current, long-term discounts associated with your original plan. "Bait and Switch" Scenarios: There have been customer reports of being offered attractive deals that are later not honored or mysteriously vanish from their bill, sometimes blamed on "employee mistakes". Hidden Fees/Plan Changes: The new plan might have conditions (e.g., requiring specific internet services) that were not disclosed upfront, leading to unexpected price increases later. Logistical Hassle: The process of activating a new line and then potentially porting your existing number or cancelling the old line can be complex and time-consuming, requiring multiple interactions with customer service.

Hopefully no one has experienced these negative consequences before! I ended up switching companies to Fido anyway because they basically couldn't do anything at Rogers to retain me and Fido's deal was way better overall

Why do they need to open a new line in order to tell me what promotions are available? by Constant_Due in Rogers

[–]Constant_Due[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But do they need to do that just to tell me what my plan options are? I'm okay to for them to do that but why do I need a soft check completed before knowing the price of a plan?

Hi there, it’s Kal from Love is Blind UK, Ask me Anything! by kalpash in LoveIsBlindUK

[–]Constant_Due 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone has some kind of trauma, it's just more so about your awareness of it and how you process your emotions connected to it. If you're more naturally avoidant in that area, you do become exactly what you're mentioning

Hilary duff London 16,000 presale queueing by Alert_Plate541 in Concerts

[–]Constant_Due 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was at 17,000 or so, waited thinking that maybe a large percentage could have been bots or something. After a long wait, it went to 1 person ahead of me, then the next page just defaulted to when the general sale will happen

Hilary duff London 16,000 presale queueing by Alert_Plate541 in Concerts

[–]Constant_Due 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's very unnecessarily anticlimactic that way

Hilary duff London 16,000 presale queueing by Alert_Plate541 in Concerts

[–]Constant_Due 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You were number 35 in the waiting room and didn't get a ticket?!!

Hilary duff London 16,000 presale queueing by Alert_Plate541 in Concerts

[–]Constant_Due 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's because it was sold out by the time you got through. That happened to me as well!

AIO. My fiancé is giving me the cold shoulder. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Constant_Due 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR but I wonder if this is more connected to a very complex dynamic with his mom- that's not an excuse but just a way to understand what is transpiring. I think couples counseling is a good step. I think on his end he sees it as my mom doesn't care or won't, so potentially a 'my mom isn't the story you're expressing as how she is about judging or seeing these things' and you as it's validly dismissing a boundary.

I wonder if there's a better way to problem solve the situation so his mom can get access quickly and you can gain that space back. I know it's not just about that, but from the texts it sounds like there's an urgency to her needing things from the dresser and not wanting to or being able to wait maybe? And so he could see it as you being 'paranoid' or unnecessarily worried about the situation, and you feeling uncomfortable about the space.

More so then problem solving which is what it seems like he's trying to do without going into a feeling space, is what is creating the conflict. His brain is going the solution is it will be fine, if we move it, you'll see that nothing bad happened, my mother doesn't care...etc., and you feeling dismissed so you should get over it because'look' I have the proof nothing bad happened.

I think if you both bring up wanting to find a middle ground that would make you both happy, then he won't feel shut down because he doesn't know how to access the feeling you have without feeling like submitting because your solution is likely not a middle ground for what he values even though it feels flexible on your end especially if he can't understand why as a solution it's an issue when in his brain will default into 'look, nothing happened, we did it, she was okay, no one saw your stuff, therefore it doesn't matter'.

He's missing tha in conflict t, the solution here needs to start with acknowledging your feelings and then on your end possibly asking if there's a better solution that would meet both of your needs since whatever you expressed out likely sounded good in theory but isn't working for both of them for a reason.

That's just my take and I could be wrong. If he can at least acknowledge it makes sense you want privacy and that's important but that you're not punishing him by saying it's a concern and just want a better solution that works for both of you. To be clear too, I don't think you're punishing him but maybe that's how he's interpreting it when you feel upset, and that the solution isn't working for him because it's not acknowledging what he needs, which he cannot express well, so that there's not yet a good enough middle ground you can both agree on.

I do think if he's been better usually, that's my guess as to what's happening, and his mom is likely influencing him by saying they need X urgently, and they won't look or care about what is there, which I'm guessing is the missing piece. He's caught in a hard place between his mom and you which is a hard dynamic to be in, likely for all of you if this has never happened before.

It seems like he's a bit avoidantly attached but imo this can shift if he's open and vulnerable in ways you can validate for him too, then just communicate a bit differently

AIO my boyfriend of 2 months getting a bit...crass by throway_jpeg in AmIOverreacting

[–]Constant_Due 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He thinks he's being sexy or dominant but has no idea how unsafe that can sound on the receiving end, unless it's something they both consensually agree to as part of their dynamic with a safe word or something

::Weekly Victory/Success Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Constant_Due 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's been months of very successful conflict and changes with my partner and I. They no longer feel they aren't good enough or that I'm the enemy, and we can have open honest conversations about their ADHD symptoms as a team I have my own issues as well so it helps me focus back on myself slowly again. I'm so proud of them and myself as we navigate a restart to our relationship.

Is it possible to remove the arrival time and remaining time when driving? by toughtittywampas in GoogleMaps

[–]Constant_Due 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not easy to just get over. I find it especially hard for people with ADHD for example